[lilly2279]

But Greendale, we all know you really want to do more than date this girl. You've been talking about her for a very long while now.

You've just recently put up several posts concerning her in various parts of the board, which is fine. But which express the idea that you really want more than to be a friend. Now you act like you're the one waiting to see if she is worthy of more. You already know that.

If she does not want a relationship right now, there may be many reasons. One of them may be the fact that she just doesn't really want to date you. I'm not trying to be mean, but maybe she just doesn't see you in her life with all of her kids, etc.., you know?

So, it's cool to be friends with her. But if I was you, I would move on and start looking at other women. Because even as a friend, you are constantly going to be watching her. And as some guys do, I'm not saying you would, but you may use friendship as a way to talk to her about "anything". This may include you getting close enough for her to open up about a date she went on last weekend or whatever.

If that happens you're going to be angry and upset. Because you know you are basically waiting in the wings until she is "ready to date". If she becomes ready and goes out with another guy you're going to be upset and it will ruin your friendship on both ends. She'll be mad if you pretend you just wanna be friends and then start getting snippy because she went on a date with another guy.

You've liked her a long time. Which is great and she's real lucky to have that. But all the stuff you've tried hasn't really seemed to bring her any closer yet.. There may be a reason for that and you may have to just accept it.

Be friends, but make sure you're being a friend for the correct reason. It sucks to get hurt in situations like that..

Good luck