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Every teen age guy will have memories of a girl like this one, or should have. And notice I say a memory. *Later you will have memories of bad jobs and employers the same way. *Even some kid you knew when you were little who used you to get his hands on something you had that he wanted.
What I'll say here is just a guess given what you have written.
DMC87 is telling you right in my opinion. *What he says is straight up, but I wonder if you can get past your emotional
fix on this girl to understand what's happening to you.
Girls and guys both can play the game she is playing. People play secret games with unsuspecting people or partners in a paracitic way to gain an outcome. It's important that you get your eyes open to what is happening now and keep an eye open for it in any relationship you enter into in life.(having this skill can be healthy if you don't get too carried away with it)
It sounds like you had a year together and she knows what she can expect from you.(she could have been seeing this other guy a lot earlier than you knew about) *If she designs to find another guy, but doesn't want to be without a guy at her beck and call to fall back on, she is playing both ends from the middle. *People of all ages do it but it doesn't make it right. *Just getting away from this person and meeting someone new will give you much better odds of finding a healthy relationship you seek. *With this girl, she is positioning herself to charm your affections and if you keep giving her her way there is no telling what she may try with you. *At worst she will get pregnant with the other guy she wants and when he tells her to get lost she will come back to you claiming it's yours. She may yell and scream at you in front of some of her friends (to witness for her) thinking she can trick you to admitting it may be yours. *This is an old trick, but in recent years with so many women now becoming judges in the courts it is much more difficult for girls to pull off. These
women Judges saw these games growing up as girls too, and
aren't as easy for girls to bull shit at the male Judges.
When she comes back to you from time to time saying it is to make it easier on you(for her dumping you) BEWARE. *Even if you two aren't having sex(and she may even offer to be your f***-buddy) people will have seen you with her. *So if she says you got her pregnant at a certain time(even if she was sleeping around
with the guy she really wanted to be with at the same time) you may be the one she bails out on. *Should she have a child you may get stuck paying support for it....that could be for as much as the next 18 years.
I'm just saying this stuff to fill in on some of what DMC87 is telling you. *Just tactfully blow her off and life will get better because you will have given yourself a chance to do better.
(the next girl you meet, kinda clue her in about this girl too,
so she can't try to mess things up for you and your new girlfriend) She may be playing you for a sap and betting she can string you along to appear to be a hottie.(bait other guy's with you and let them think they can take her away from you...and exploit his jealousy this scheme to get dates with new guys). *She is her own worst enemy now, so don't let her drag you down with her too!(if she keeps it up in time everyone around will know all about her and she will probably find some poor sap to take her to another town where she can try to make a fresh having wasted years of her life)
There is an old black and white movie titled, * "The Last Picture Show" which has a girls in the story who is like the girl you describe. *You could find this old movies and watch it. *I've seen girls who date several guys thru the Christmas season just to get a bunch of gifts to showoff to other guys and girls how hot she is. *Likewise there are guys out there who are sexing any of four or five different girls they have on the string without any of them knowing about the others, so they can feel like they are the big stud and brag to the other guys in the locker room.
What usually gives these people away is their having to
travel out of town or working odd hours or responsibilites that keep you appart frequently. They may have to go with their folks to a relatives etc frequently....when they are really seeing someone else. **Still when they come back to you they are all charm and may even bring you little trinket gifts to razzle dazzle you with. There's so many ways to cheat.
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