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I'm 26 and still a virgin. Thankfully, I don't think i'll be one for very much longer... I know how it feels to go yet another year without losing it. Amazingly enough, most girls actually think i'm good looking, I dress really well, and i'm doing very well for myself in terms of career, etc. Believe it or not, this can actually be a problem for a guy. I'm too serious for my own good and my interests are not typical of people my age. I'm often told im' an emotionless SOB, in jest of course, but there's an element of truth to it. Put this all together and i'm unapprochable to a lot of women; not because i'm unattractive in any way, but because there's an invisible barrier around me.
However, #1 problem has been that i'm a lazy mfer and an introvert. There's nothing wrong with being introverted, but it means i don't enjoy the typical places people our age go to meet girls. I hate clubs. I'd rather stay home cause i feel so out of place at them. Whenever i've gone to them, i feel like i have to go through the motions of pretending to enjoy myself when i'm really not. I did this in my first couple years of university, but then said "f*** it" after a while and I went back to playing computer games in my free-time cause i didn't feel like wasting anymore money at venues I disliked.
I've never had a real girlfriend, although there have been girls i've messed around with to varying degrees since the age of 17.. The one thing they all had in common was that they all came to me, I didn't really have to do anything to get them. Unfortunately, they were never around long enough for us to get to sex (they were usually on vacation when I met them), or maybe i just didn't push for it enough.. who knows.. The point is, I only had myself to blame.
Not too long ago, a girl came along that changed things for me. Because of certain situations that I won't elaborate on, I had to devote considerable energy into the courting phase. Just getting her to come out on a date with me was tough at first (it had nothing to do with her desire to do so). Things are rolling pretty smoothly now, and i know it's gonna happen sooner rather than later. I think that for me, the right girl had to come along. There were others before her, but i've fallen for this one pretty hard, and the others were usually leaving soon after we hit it off.
I think that for me anyway, a lot of the problems were ones i could have done something about had i been more pro-active about it. However I just filled my time with work and stuff isntead. If you want to accelerate the process, you're gonna have to find a way to meet new people. I'd concentrate on doing that before worryign about sex. If you're at all like me and don't wanna leave everything to chance you're gonna have to learn to make yourself more approchable.
anyway, get out there and gl.
Ps. if the post is rambling and/or incoherent and/or slightly off-topic, you'll have to excuse me cause i only got 5 hrs of sleep yesterday and it's now 2:30am, which is my cue to hit the sack.
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