To add further...
It's all about intent. It's not the PHYSICAL ACT that makes you gay, it's the DESIRE to be with the person of the same sex. If a guy gets anally raped in prison against his will, he's not gay... he was raped. If you kiss your own arm, technically, that's a MAN'S arm you just kissed... YOU'RE GAY! * sigh *
Same goes with intimacy with a man & a woman. If the man is attracted to women and not men... he is not gay. EVN IF he likes anal play, or even if he likes using a dildo on himself or having HER use one on him to derive pleasure... it's not GAY if he still is not attracted to men and IS atracted to women. All it means is that it feels good and he's enjoying it.
Just because there's a vague similarity in a particular sexual act does not mean one is gay... heck, gay men kiss, so is kissing your girlfriend GAY...? Gay men will, at time,s penetrate their lover's anus... so if you penetrate your girlfriend's or wife's anus... does that make you gay... Why? Gays do THAT too...! No...
Most of the time, I see that it's a man's FEAR of his own sexuality that makes them react so strongly... it's not that they ARE gay, but they worry so much about NOT being gay that they read WAY too-far into things and it's a shame, because life is too short to worry about that stuff.
I have never participated in anything other than light contact in that area from my past and current partner. Never have I had any objects (other than thermometers & such as a kid) placed in there... but if it ever did happen... it wouldn't mean that all-of-a-sudden I find Harrison Ford a turn-on and I start sewing drapes for the spare bedroom.
