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OK. we've pretty much established that i need to actually attempt to meet people rather then not try at all and still complain that i can't. this is what i'd like to cover in today's thread topic.
flirting and initial chit chat.
i'm not good at picking up on "signals" or "hints" from women.. (lack of experience a factor...but i don't have time to learn at the normal pace, i'm already 23, so i need the accelerated lesson plan.)
so say i'm chatting up a some girl at K-mart, a cashier, another customer whoever. what signals should i be looking for to let me know that she's also interested or is at least enjoying the conversation? any specific types of blinks or giggles or body language here? any subconscious stuff going on? (i know you women don't like to reveal your tricks, but read through all of my posts and maybe then you'll make an exception when you see how pathetic my love life is.)
on my end, what are some good topics, or lines, or things i should say that should clue her in and make her think "oh gee, this guy is flirting with me!"
most people develop thier own tactics, and maybe someday i will too, but for right now i need some tips.
as important as knowing when she IS interested, is knowing when she most certainly is NOT.
how can i tell she's getting annoyed with the strange guy who keeps talking to her for some reason? any visual clues here. what do you girls on this site do to get someone to leave you alone (besides mace, a knee to the crotch or a .38, i'd say those three are pretty obvious). basically i want to be able to identify the point in the conversation when it's time for me to bail and at least save face. i don't want to be one of "those guys", you know the type i'm talking about
also another topic i need clarified...wedding and engagement rings. ALWAYS ON LEFT RING FINGER...right? is it safe to assume that ANY ring on that finger is one of the above? or are other "decorative" rings also worn there? seems like un-attached women might want to keep that finger clear of rings to avoid confusing potential suitors.....such as "dating simpletons" like myself.
i think i'm really going to try to be a bit more proactive here. but i just want to have a clear understanding of the rules before i start the game.
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