Matt, check out what toys are available. *My suggestion is to start small and "work up". *There are too many varieties to mention... from "butt-plugs" to "ben-wa balls" and even ordinary dildos... People usually hate this advice, but if you're going to a sex shop, ask the clerk. *They can be very helpful... I know it seems embarrassing, but
they do work in a sex shop and I doubt you'll ask anythig they haven't heard before...lol.
They only two real suggestions I might make are a U-shaped dildo for her- it offers anal and vaginal stimulation at the same time. *If you both are into anal play, you might try a double-headed dildo- you can both use it at the same time.
Have fun...
