I'm brand new to this site, but absolutely had to respond to this topic. I used to HATE anal sex because I don't think I had experienced anything more painful in my life! I had no idea how to make it not hurt. I would be in doggie position waiting for penetration and trying not to tighten up, but doing it anyway and then getting the pain I always did and curling into the fetal position on the bed. Not very sexy!
All the tips I have heard on here are great! You definitely want to have the power to move back on the penis. You want lots of lube. But here is a tip I have been telling friends and have been getting tons of "thank you's" for!
1. Get a nice little vibe.
2. Get all lubed and ready in doggie position, if you like
3. Put that handy little vibe on your clitoris and just let that wonderful warmth start to head towards your pleasure zones.
4. Let him know when you're really relaxed and ready, he can be playing with fingers, gently touching, licking, etc in the meantime.
5. By the time you are really hot from the vibe, your anus is very relaxed. He can slowly start to guide his penis into your anus.
6. Move back and forth on him if you're not comfortable with him taking control yet.
7. Have a wonderful orgasm. he he.
I can usually cum in about 1 minute doing this and looove it! I'm like a guy and can't even begin to hold an orgasm back. It comes up on me sooo fast!
