I'm so happy for you and your hymen! (That may be a very poor attempt at humor, but there's a deep thread of sincerity in it, too.)
I also find myself wondering if there could be - at some subconcious level - a connection between your commitment to remain a virgin and the lack of orgasm. But I'd also quickly add, if you're happy and content, there's no need to worry about it, eh? Like I said in a previous post, some things are better left unanalyzed.
Congratulations on your conversation with him, also. Since we're talking about cyber... one additional idea to consider. He may enjoy the intensity that accompanies a woman's orgasm (I know I do! LOL). Cybering can also be about role playing...
You (both, so it's honest) might agree to a "faked" orgasm just for effect... sorta like a porn film with you as the stars and you're screaming...
I can help with the script. LOL
Stay on the board, Chriseis. I think you have a lot to offer.
Besides, you like my name.
Wally