[Rawbob]

Ok. So. If we read this scenerio, and read Bewitching's sitiuation, it's all a matter of perception.

Men, or women, who have been lied to or cheated on in prior relationships have every reason to FEAR being hurt - but they CANNOT FAIRLY ASSUME that every person they date or care for will ALWAYS lie or cheat.

That's what Dick was thinking and thats what it sounds like Bewitching's bf is feeling.

The solution is very clear, while not easy for the "insecure" partner to face. That solution is facing and accepting the following:
1) You cannot physically account for your partner's whereabouts 24/7.
2) If you "double check" on your partner a couple times to just "Make sure" he/she's telling the truth and they ARE. STOP CHECKING! If your fear was unwarrented, don't start an unending spiral of checking up and spying if there is no EVIDENCE of lieing or cheating.
3) If you want to see your relationship END, keep spying and trying to control your bf/gf - no matter HOW much they love you, no person can live happily in a virtual cage - eventually they will leave.

Also, for those on the "being controlled side" do take a bit of pity on yoru partner. Aside from their being "burned" in the past, (um, welcome to the human race, we ALL get lied to and cheated on in our lives), remember that any significant changes in your life (work, family, friends, etc) that cause a change in the amount of time u both spend together MAY trigger the "jealous meter" in your partner.

It's funny how during the first few months of dating and "infatuation" your bf/gf's constant calling was cute, fun, and romantic - but 6 months later, it begins to feel like intrusion. Keep sight of that. ALso, as every relationship progresses, there is a stage between infatuation and total committment where alot of things can happen. As you get older and more experienced in the ways of relationships, you get a feel for this more easily and re-double your efforts to keep things in perspective and order.

Hope this LONG diatribe helps!