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Quote[/b] (richard114 @ Sep. 05 2003,02:50)]What it is I am nearly 20 years old and I have never had a girlfriend and I feel like the only 20 year old never to have, recently this has been getting me down. The problem is I am not very good around girls, I get very shy and never know what to say and I can not just go up to someone I don’t know. All the girls who I like have always been in class at school/college or friends of friends etc. Since changing jobs I left behind a lot of girls I liked but I don’t seem to be meeting new ones. What I want to know is how do I meet girls? I know it sounds really lame but as I have said I don’t have the confidence to just walk up to a girl and start talking to her (where would I start) and anything thing I am not one for going around the town drinking which is what everyone my age seems to do. I just feel so low at the moment as if I am never going to meet anyone :-(
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First of all, don't try so hard. As a matter of fact, embrace being single, learn to appreciate it. That's some peoples' biggest problems, they constantly complain about being single that it looks unattractive.
I know you said you don't like to drink and stuff, but you ever consider night clubbing, becoming a night-crawler?
If you live in New York/New Jersey, Chicago, or Miami, then you're in luck. These cities have the best night club scenes in the country and if you reside in one of them then you're in luck. Maybe other cities have slamming night clubs too, I don't know for sure. But get your butt out to one regardless.
Night clubs aren't the best places to meet girls, go with the attitude that you're there to dance and have a good time. Who cares what other people think, and yes you'll get rejected while other while women dig you. I can write a whole essay about the wonders of night clubs. It's a real confidence builder, so go out and have a blast.