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I think the topic gay/lesbians contains way more that "visually appearling o not appealing". I think has also to do with people's fears AND rejection, yes rejection.
Let's say a man is interested in a woman and she is a lesbian, but he first didn't know, then telling him that she is a lesbian can be seen by him "you are not good enough for me" and not as it actually is "you are not attractive for me, because I'm looking for something different, but you are still an ok person".
see the difference? some might take it as a huge rejection and by this those agressive emotions come into play.
Why have many hetero guys problems with gays?
I think because they seem them as "not real men" (if they look feminine), but I could also imagine that they are afraid of them, because they are probably way more intouch with their emotions and other things as well, they have easier access to sex etc. So basically the gay men could be seen as superior to the hetero man, because he basically has what the hetero man would love ot have but can't get:
- being more in touch with his emotions > can more easily talk about problems and doesn't have to feel that he is no real man when he is sad etc (of course generalization but you get what I mean)
- sex! it's well known that many gay men have many sex partners in their lifes, so far I know all you have to do is to go to a special toilet or some places and you will find quickly somebody who is willing to have sex. I have seen once in a movie where a gay man explained the gay world to a hetero man: "imagine a forest and a lot of very sexy women are walking around, when you walk by they check you and and make obvious moves to show they want sex, you can pick the one you want, an no they don't want money, they really want sex". Considering this you can say that prositiution is offering to the hetero men what gay man get for free: sex at any time they want.
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