It's strange... when I was younger... that's all I wanted to do was "shoot it in her". It was all-about intercourse. But as I got older, I opened-up a bit.
Now... most of the time, I feel like it's a "waste" to come inside her... when there are so many OTHER ways to ejaculate; in her hands, in her mouth, on her chest, on her tummy, on her ass, on her vagina, straight in the air as she masturbates me (or into a towel for those nights we just wanna go right to sleep afterwards)
I mean, I still DO cum inside her... but not 100% of the time like I used to.
Regarding the "Facial": It has to be in context.
If you are forceful and impose it on her against her will in a selfish act of domination... of COURSE it's degrading.
If it is something she likes as an acceptance of your seed that she loves to feel all over her body... face included... then it can be a loving act that causes pleasure for both WITHOUT degradation.
Anything done for the "right" reasons and mutually enjoyed by both parties should harbor no guilt or shame.