5 Ways to Make a Connection
Being able to quickly establish a deep bond with a woman is an ability that most guys lack. Often guys speak in a logical manner, not listening to the woman and turning every conversation back to their one and only talking point: themselves! This makes it hard to make proper connections and the woman does not feel as though she has had a great conversation.
Here is what you need to do to overcome this:
1. Relate things to them, not just to you or your life:
When somebody tells you that they have just had an interesting experience, like going to Thailand for example, it is a common mistake to instantly relate it back to yourself with your personal experiences of Thailand. Instead, try to imagine their experience, bringing out their memories and showing an interest in their unforgettable holiday. Don't immediately make yourself the subject of the conversation, first connect for a while allowing the woman to elaborate on her experience and then it is fine to relate it to yourself.
2. Use what they give you:
When someone is talking to you they usually give you information about themselves: their feelings and their lives. These are perfect opportunities for foundations of connections. Often people ignore these and talk about themselves; instead, grasp every opportunity and connect on each point before moving on to the next.
3. Be Observant:
Women have usually put a lot of effort into their appearance and often, to their dismay, this goes unnoticed. By picking up on something interesting in the way they're dressed or a particular aspect of their outfit (their bag might match their shoes, belt, earrings and dress), they will be impressed with how observant you are and be glad that their effort hasn't been overlooked. You can pick up on general aspects of their appearance or comment on jewelery and accessories which often have meaning or a story behind them.
4. Be empathetic:
When someone has an interest, passion or particularly strong opinion on a subject, there are three main ways of connecting to it. The first is to simply say "me too" that shows you have common interests, the second is to disagree (but be sure to back up your views). The third and most effective response is to show that you can understand her passion, interest or view - even if you don't share it. For example, if someone likes cooking you can show that you understand why she might enjoy it without actually sharing her passion.
5. Talk about things that evoke feeling:
Find something that they are passionate about - it could be anything from friends and family, to travel or even ballet. Connect with them on these subjects by showing that you understand why they have that particular passion. Don't simply gloss over them by saying "me too" and instantly changing the subject. Try to keep the conversation going and lead on to ask about her other interests.
Use these steps during conversation and you will quickly form a connection within hours, as opposed to weeks.
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is there an article like this for women?
Does this connecting thing also mean talking about you share their intrests?
i have good luck with girls but i just can't hold onto one for more than a month each one has said that i just got boring what should i do
Well relationships aren't all just talking.
I'm in my first right now and the way that we keep it from getting boring is just sort of teasing each other when we're kissing.
Touch her and make her feel special. Do something different each time. That's what my bf does and we've been together four months now. xD
hey man, im 17 and having no luck with the ladies. i like this chick but im not sure if she likes me and we r really good friends and i dont want to come on to her a way that would hurt our friends. what should i do??
If you really do love her and you think there's a chance for a relationship drop some subtle notes to her five days before asking her out. See what she does. Don't be creepy btw.
Hey, I've just turned sixteen and there's this girl that I fancy and I have no idea how to make the first move? We only know each other by names and arn't really close. I know most of her friends in school really well and she knows most of my best mates really well. But we have never really talked.
Any help would be great?
start by casually striking up a conversation about something. maybe a casual compliment on her appearance? or something that recently happened at school? take a little time to know her. connect with her using the tips listed above and dont show her too much affection for her just yet. maybe hint it a little but dont make it obvious. once you get to know her a little more and your in the friend zone try to flirt with her a little bit. if she likes you then she'll let you flirt. good luck! :)
Hey, I've just turned sixteen and there's this girl that I fancy and I have no idea how to make the first move? We only know each other by names and arn't really close. I know most of her friends in school really well and she knows most of my best mates really well. But we have never really talked.
Any help would be great?
I'm a girl. But anyways, I really like my ex again but I don't know how to tell him. The only reason we broke up was because how far apart we live. I really need help with how to tell him I still like him without coming on too strong. PLEASE HELP ME! Thanks.
im 14 and ive been friends with this girl forever and i wouldnt wanna reck that but i started to feel like i liked her more than just friends
what should i do
taht's a difficult situation because, as u probably know, not many couples stay friends after going out. i'm also a 14 yr old guy and i had the same problem, i asked her out eventually but she said no but we're still friends and i haven't given up
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any help on how to approuch a girl,im 13 and want to ask someone out without looking like a retard
i feel so robotic and lonely,and dont want to pass something by,im either a clumsy twat or a nerd
Dude, just relax, that girl is just a girl, if u think of her as a goddess u will screw girls like gutsy guys so when ever u see her just approach her and start talking about anything, if she has a friend with her talk to her as well just be yourself cuz if u try to act females catch that fast, for example when I approach a female I always have a story, a funny story, it builds rapport with her. After that just ask her out to some place and take it from there :) good luck.....
im 14, ive only had one girl...i want another soon....i have alot of people i can ask but wat could i say to make them like me?Ladies
KEEP YOUR WEE WEE IN YO PANTS! hahaha.... did you ever hear of A- sextuality?
hi my name is jimmy day! i have chatting with this female for about 7 months now, we text everyday all day long, she is married and i am married, we workout together every afternoon.. we talk about everthing in world together,she says im sexy, cute hot etc.. when i tell her that i dont want to be freinds anymore she says, that im crazy and shouldnt say that kind of things... she know that i will be there for her at all times.. she also say no om=ne has ever treated her like do... but she always says no when i ask to slepp with her, we already have to hide this friendship because of our spouse.. does anyone knows whats going on and what to do..she knows that i want her really bad too, is she intrested or not.. im clueless...
well im 17... ur like wtf he is a youngin or w.e however i pick up a very large ammount of girls and ik what im talking about. ok here is ur deal. one u have gotten in her head if ur not strechin the truth abt what uv said. thats the hardest part! gratzzz. now u need a setting. ur main problem is u arnt forcing her to think about it the way u want to. u need to put her in a place where she needs to realize whats going on. she will realize that u are what she wants, and she doesnt want to loose u rather be closer. but she knows cheating is wrong just as u. so she will try n stop it. get her alone, get her in the mood, make her make a decition. get some balls no offence. dont be like"... hey can we have sex now? we have talked enough" not the way to get a girl bro.
I'm perfectly capable making a first move, but I suck at holding conversations. I'll respond to what you're saying, but you've actually got to put some effort into the conversation too. Women tend to expect everything from the man; we always have to initiate, support, and guide the conversation entirely. I get along with other guys well because they actually talk, instead of responding blandly and then sit there waiting for me to carry on the conversation for them. As the conversation wears on, I run out of questions to ask them and the conversation dies. Maybe I just need to listen better, so I can find connections and probe a little deeper into topics they like, but frankly I don't know. Any advice?
god i love what i do. ok so the main thing abt this talking thing is every girl thinks that the next guy is gunna be a fuck head and boring... which u are apparently. u make the first move now follow it up. what u have to do is somthing she wont thing u will do. somthing out of the ordinary that a guy like u.. what u look like from the first inprestion wouldnt do or wouldnt care about. if she has anything on uk about without sounding gay reply to it showing that u have brains and want to connect with her. after a girl is woken up in a convo they wont shut the hell up. rather want to know more. not be afraid that ur first move is all u have.... ehem
I suck at "1st move". I think my main problem is that i don't have "guts", afraid to be rejected :S
i guezz i b patient
Hey chichi, I'm 28 and I've always had trouble when I try too much, the best girls I've ever been with weather for a week or 3 years have always come along when I wasn't out looking for them. Last time this happened was 4 weeks ago now, I went out with a friend for a good night and ended up meeting someone and going back to her place. I didn't have to try it on with her once or anything, just chatted and didn't stress. I'm still seeing her and hope it will continue.
Relax, chill out, stop trying and be yourself.
hello im 18 yrs old, im havin problems wit gurls..it really hard for me to get a gurl idk y i never really had a gf or do anythin sexual wit a gurl beside sukn her tits..im so lonely never been in love stil a virgin i jus reach my breakpoint u kno to kill myself i cant take anymo i dont want sex i jus wanna experience love, cuddle, etc a reason im alive....plz reply me juniordabest23@yahoo.com
well, i'm 15 and i've nvr had a girlfriend but i want one really bad. problem is once i get one, i wouldn't kno what to do i mean, what if I screw everything up. i have a lot of friends who are girls and i want to put our friendship up a notch but they keep saying no. i dont know what to do.
u poor freshie. here is ur prob u think way to much. ok so "once u get a girl". dont worry abt that GET A GIRL. now to do that dont look for a hottie for ur first one. just wont happen cuz she has experince at ur age. ok so to get a girl u need to connect. when they see u hanging out or not with u, u need to look intresting or bascitly when ur with friends dont look like a looser or w.e. dont make her feel really inportiant. good/unexperinced guys do this. they treat a girl 2 well. 2 bad things can happen from this. one ur taken for granted. 2 she "just wants to be friends". FRIEND ZONE u wana stay away from that. in order to do that. when u talk keep it short and light. always bring somthin into it. dont be like ok ill give u the math hw. be like it took me soooo long to do... i think i deserve somthing for it. she will be all cute then u say fine but nexttime it wont be so easy and so on. im bored of this message good luck ttyl.
Don't worry about it buddy! Find something about yourself that can appeal to the ladies, for example, if you're funny or athletic, find someone who is attracted to that. I'm 15, and I don't know much, but I know that being someone you're not doesn't work. I used to try and change myself, and then when I gave up and started being myself again, that's when the girls started noticing me. Everybody can get somebody, just don't give up!
Hey man, don't stress, it's all good :-) It's not a race, I was 23 before I lost my virginity. I was even older before I had any kind of meaningful relationship... My problem was I was just too preoccupied with myself and my career, but it's different for everyone.
Just be yourself. It's good that sex isn't your priority, nice girls tend to run a mile from guys that just want sex. And you sound like you're looking for a nice girl to me.
Don't worry, you'll meet someone, you've just got to be open to it. And have a bit of faith that you are a decent guy that someone would want to be with, I'm sure you are.