Cunnilingus - Advanced
Take a few minutes to read Cunnilingus Basics and then come back here to fine-tune your approach with some special earth-moving, hip-shaking, mind-blowing techniques that will have her panting your name and praising your game! Try all of these in one session and she might not come back down from the heavens until the morning:
The Lick
Leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed, try licking her from vaginal entrance up to her clit and following the outer edges of her vagina along both sides. Repeating this technique going up and down and vice versa can be a great opener.
Labial Hold
While holding the two parts together with your lips, run your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time.
Tongue Intercourse
The majority of a woman’s nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside. Target them with your tongue by inserting it into her vaginal opening. Techniques are pretty limited due to the length of your tongue, but try moving your tongue in and out, as well as in circles around the inside of her opening.
The Flick
Spread her outer vaginal lips with your fingers. With your tongue pointed, gently flick your tongue around her clitoris. Feel free to roam, but keep coming back to her clitoris, as it is the most sensitive. This drives some women wild, and others find it to too intense. When stimulating her clit make sure to start out gently if you aren’t sure how she likes it. When you try this, pay attention to whether those moans are ecstasy or pain.
The following techniques should not be introduced until your partner is really hot (i.e., very wet). These are more intense techniques, and may be too intense for some women, even when nearing orgasm.
The Clitoris Suck
Expose her clitoris by spreading her lips and lightly pull back her hood. With her clitoris exposed, give it a quick little suck; pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a lot like licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky. This feels incredible, and is a fine thing to do if you feel like tormenting her – but don’t overdo it! We recommend not using your teeth nor using heavy suction when starting out.
The Clitoris Hold
Take her exposed clit into your mouth and gently suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm.
The Tongue Tube
Roll your tongue into a tube (if you cannot do this, forget about it because it is genetic and you can't learn it). This technique works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into a tube around her clitoris. Slide it back-and-forth; in effect, your tongue is doing something similar to a woman's vagina around a man's penis. This is likely to bring any woman over the edge to an explosive orgasm.
ABC’s
Try using your tongue to spell the alphabet on her genitals. This works surprisingly well as your tongue is always moving in different directions. Learn her favorite letters and the orders that work the best!
Other Tips
A good lover’s hands never stop moving, so keep exploring, insert a finger, or massage her thighs while you perform.
You can also try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed or blown to add extra stimulation.
Having a mint in your mouth while you are performing cunnilingus can also improve your results. The mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance.
Try some - or why not all - of the above techniques and neither of you will regret it. Techniques like this are sure to help her achieve that (sometimes) elusive Orgasm!
If we ever meet up then I can do that to you no problem only of you want to
I am 19 and this is my first time on this site. I am not a virgin but i am having some difficulties. Have had sex several times and i am usually more worried about the guy finishing so i tell them to do what they need to do to get off but so i have never orgasm with a guy.... when he leaves i have to masturbate so i can function.... is there something wrong with me??
Also i like to be tied up and stuff but im to embaressed to ask guys to do that... i need some advice please
I used to be exactly like u!! I was scared to death to express the fact that i liked to be tied up (among other things) but i learned that if i didnt communicate i wouldnt get it so my man and i started talking about it one nite and come to find out he loves the exact same stuff and now we are both the biggest bondage freaks on the planet! so definately express what u like. trust me its worth it.
women just take longer time to orgasm then guys do. and no, don't be embarrassed to ask about being tired up, just don't give him anything if he doesn't, that should work
my bf says that he loves going down on me. sometimes he stops doing me just so he can eat me out. personally i like it!! a lot!! i dont even have to ask him to do it he just does it. just thinkin about how he does it gets me hella wet!!
Me and My Girl wanna have oral sex (well sex ingeneral...) but we dont know if we are ready. We both looked at this sight and we like alot of the things on it(manly this here) and we wont to try but know know how to start. I feel like a clumsy kidd when i start to even touch her pussy. We get so flustered with each other... I feel so silly... Can any one help?
i think its romantic and adorable when a guy doesnt really know wut to do. just experiment with her and ask her what she likes. honestly if it doesnt bother u that she doesnt quite know what shes doing than it probably isnt bothering her. just take it slow, relax, and have fun
I absolutely love going down on my girlfriend. She is a shy girl and doesn't say much about it. For some reason, don't know why, I love to give a light smack to her entire region with all four of my fingers. Is that annoying to a girl???
NOOOO!!! THAT IS THE BEST!!
I have degenerative disc n joint disease in my spine,including my neck n he has hip replacement on both sides (I'm 39yrs old n he is 41yrs old)... any advice on positions for oral(both 4 him 2 me and me 2 him) n intercourse that would take some pressure off of those areas so we can both enjoy countless hours of love making in all forms ??? Thanks
I want to perform oral on my girlfriend but it would be my first time and I'm really nervous anyway I can help that?
ok my gf goes dow on me all the time but i want to give head to her too and want to now the best position ant help?
Just relax and do it the best position is to just have her spread her legs and put your head down there. Its your first time don't go too crazy just get to understand what her likes and dislikes are and bam orgasm.
I need help. My gf let me go down on her once in a year. She says she don't like it but yet she orgasimed when I did it. And it was an intense one. How do I get her to let Jedi it again. And I told her she dosntsmell bad so that shouldn't be the problem. And she can't give me head cuz she gags... I
How do we get around that? Cuz she wants to do thAt to me but can't. She almost liked all over her bedtryinf a couple times
Speak of going down on her passionately, not respectfully. She probably figures your offer is out of charity. My boyfriend would offer and I'd say no. He was sweet about it but I sensed no sexual passion, just an obligatory nuance. I didn't want his charity. And I'd feel on the spot and say no. And if/when I'd let him, I'd always feel rushed. Then while dating another guy, he said he wanted to do it for me. I said no. He said yes. I said no. Then he said "I have to! Let me at it!" and just starting licking away. It was just what I needed- uncontrolled man lust. Sometimes he'd stop penetration for it. As long as you know her well, and you already do other sexual acts, and you're in a private place, and as long as she wasn't orally raped as a child, just force it on her. She wants you to desire it and not be polite. Next time the two of you are conversing intimately, casually mention how much you enjoyed eating her out.
And as for her gagging. On her part; practice practice practice. On your part; patience patience patience. Be encouraging by telling her she does a great job and what she does better each time. She's just tense because she's not used to it. Eventually she'll be comfortable and learn to get turned on by doing it to you and she'll gag less and less. It'll get easier for her every time she does it and every time you make her feel like she's good at it.
i have all the basics down i can make my ex cum when i eat her out and i can use my tongue and my hands at the same time but i still want to get to that next level and get better how would i go about doing this???
A mirror! I would love to be able to watch my boyfriend's tongue slide through all the folds of my vulva. Just a hand mirror big enough to see your face and her vagina. I asked several times but he seemed inconvenienced by it. Too bad, it would've been phenomenal.
And if you're not moaning while you do it, MOAN! The sound makes me forget everything else in the room, and the vibrations from his moaning mouth touching my clitoris feel electronic! And there's something so transcendental about hearing the breath of your lover.
And if you want the kind of sex that leaves you feeling spiritually high and godlike, look up tantric sex.
Try giving her something small, like your finger, to suck on while you go down on her. It can get pretty lonely up there and sucking on your finger could remind her that you are turned on by her face and her vagina which will make her feel great.
If your a boy and trying to get your girl to let you go down on her you could try a distraction. For example, I didn't want my boyfriend going down on me and he wanted to since I was always going down on him but one day he distracted me with a flavored condom (don't judge me haha) and he started kissing down my legs and pulled my thong to the side and just did it. It felt great and he's getting better every time :)
my gf was terrified of my head being down there and she was so afraid and one day I just put my head down there and started licking and she couldnt stop me xD so guys just try it when they are unawares but if they still dun lik it back off, rape is baaaaad lol
by distractiopn i thought you meant like a "look at that" kind of distraction and i got this hillarious immage in my head
"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” - Robert Heinline
Lol geez you think we are that dumb? Lol but distracting does work, my ex did it and ever since I love guys who do it!
hahah me 2
XD your not the only one. Might be something interesting to try.
Hahaha, now you've got me thinking that, hahaa :P
hey my boyfriend and i have been trying oral sex and i pleasure the heck out of him but for some reason we've tried all the techniques and he still doesn't seem to pleasure me at all i don't think it's because he's not doing it right i just don't think i get stimulated with this type of sex, and is that possible?? or is there something wrong?? help!!
have u told him to check out this site and read some of it???
i was exploring cunnilingus myself for my gf. all i want to do is please her...
Ok so My g/f wants oral sex but when i try to go down in 5 minutes or so she pushes my head back.... i em confuse because idk if she doesn't like it or because i em doing it right and she doesn't want to have an orgasm in front of me??
Ask her why she keeps pushing your head back, find out if you are hurting her. Tell her that you want to please her and would like a little instruction if you are doing it wrong, she should respect that!
my g/f and I have been having sex for months now, but when it comes to going down on her she does something that puzzles me. I go down on her and she seems to be enjoying it for about 5 minutes then suddenly she pushes my head away from her and then engages in pleasuring herself, then we have sex. Is it cause she doesn't want to orgasm with me down there or is it cause I can't help her achieve and orgasm? its quite confusing. any suggestions on this?
it probably is because it becomes to intense to her. respect her wants but if she is into BDSM at all, you might want to tie up her hands so she can't push you away. if you keep going, trust me she'll end up screaming =]
im 16 right and im dne everythin apart from this ... and i want to have it done to me lol, its not like ive never been asked but i didnt know wht to say , but after readin this i want it reall bad and got really turned on but im abit shy about asking my guy to do it for me lol
any suggestions?
i'd say be strait forward and say, hey would you mind going down on me?" or if you want you could slip it into dirty talk, if you have a steady boyfriend then you could just bring it up, maybe show him this web page if possible. but no matter how you say it make sure you don't beat around the bush or he might not understand what you want
"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” - Robert Heinline
Also try ice cubes. Have your partner put a ice cube in their mouth and licking and sucking on you clit. But start licking with out, get her nice and hot before the ice cube. My ex had a metal tongue ring and when he sucked on ice it made the ring SOOO cold and when he went down on me it felt great, something different. Gave a good sensation. And guys or girls, please don't forget the boobs and nipples. When going down on a girl reach up some of the time and give the nipples some attention!!! I know I love it!!
my g/f constantly askes if she smells alright down there. she will even interupt me during giving her oral sex which is a big turn off.
then tell her she does before she even asks.
I agree, if I was ever self-conscious about stuff like that a guy telling me he loves how I taste and voicing that he is enjoying what he's doing would definitely reassure me =p
I've always been skeptical about this. I always thought that it would smell horrible and everything down there. Then my boyfriend told me that he wanted to try it, and that he was nervous about me givning him head, so we compromised. I was extremly nervous when my boyfriend was about to do it, and then he did and it's now a crucial part of our sex life. Honestly, what I was thinking in my head was "Oh God, Oh God, Oh God, Oh God...OH MY GOD!!!!" Definately worth a try. ;)
uh hey virgingirl here question: how 2 u taste sweet down there? any foods or methods anyone knows do tell cuz i want 2 smell nd taste my best when i have sex. THANKS VG
I was told if you drink fruit juices you will smell/taste better...Not sure that it is true, but I would be a little weird about eating vegetables some of them make you smell worse =/ ugghh.
eat fruits and vegatables, also as long as you clean yourself you should be fine. if you still wan tto taste sweet down there try flavored lube, but make sure absolutley no sugar gets anywhere around there. just eat healthy and keep it clean and you will be fine
"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” - Robert Heinline
i love giving my girl oral, and i'm always trying to think of new tricks to add to keep it interesting. i'm thinking of humming while i'm eating her out, especaly when i suck her clit, has anyone done this or had it done and if so what was the response?
"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” - Robert Heinline
im 14 and a sex addict and i know that not all guys have that ultra toungue. Guys please make that toungue vibrate. THEY WILL BEG YOU FOR MORE
My boyfriend gives me oral a lot and he's very good at it. He tried "the clitoris suck" the other day and I can't say I enjoyed it. It hurt more than anything due to the fact that I was so sensitive. I wouldn't suggest this.
My boyfriend Too is very good when it comes to giving me oral. And he loves doing it! He always uses the "Clitoris Suck" I love it.
Oh please oh please oh please. Easy on the clitoris. Most women don't like that area manhandled. It's such a sensitive area that when we masturbate, we really secondarily use it to orgasm, by rubbing around the labia to get through to the clit so it's not painful. It works like a charm. :)
actually some women find the "abc" aproach
too distracting to focus on and it will likely
distract you too while your busy trying to write
a "Q" your negelecting her.cunnilingus is about
pleasing your partner not studying english!
you must payattention to your moves very closey
denpending on her state of arousal she could be
moaning at a "Q" and yawning at the next one.
although quite a bit of women do like this
technique. but some girls cant take it they want
it slow and flowing. but either way try it
if it works keep it up (but dont spend all your time
on it as it will grow boring and tiersome for the
both of you) if it does'nt work then try something
else. either way if your crazy about women like
i am you'll do whatever it takes.
thank you
your friend
j.a.s
Oral sex is great. Been doing it on my wife for over 20 years now. She was hesitant at first to let me go there but really enjoyed the soft kisses on her bush and inner thighs. Once she relaxed enough to let me go to her pussy, she has been recieving ever since. I still need to start with the basics every time. This gets her warmed up and ready for the advanced techniques. Especially attention to her clit. Unless she is fully aroused, her clit is too sensitive to spend much time there, only an ocassional bush or lick. But when she is ready, she loves me to stay right on her clit with my mouth and tongue, doing the flick or suck or hold. Ususally I do this with my fingers in her and it just drives her wild. She also has enjoyed me moving futher down to the perinium and even rimming her with my tongue. Another nice thing recently is when she gets this turned on, I can move her hand down and get her to stroke herself. Normally she is hesitant to do this. But when aroused she has gotton into it. I like to take a slight break when this happens and watch her. She will work her clit, pull on her labia and insert her fingers. Watching her insert two fingers and move her hips and moan is a hot scene.
Now this doesn't happen all the time. Many times it is just doing the basics and then onto intercourse. But I love the taste and texture of her and do oral every chance I get. There are times I enjoy it more than her and she is willing to let me do that for awhile and then get to intercourse.
Itried with my wife but she s not cooperating. She feels burning sensation and never allow me to suck her vagina. I am so much fond of it I am searching for another willing lady partner who could enjoy the act witn me.
My girlfriend is Thai and speaks little English. My Thai speech is as bad as her English. So I had to indicate that I wanted to tongue her in sign language (fairly easy to do really). She took her pants off so quickly that she just about went through the sound barrier because she was so keen to be blown that way. That happened nearly 3 years ago now and she blew so strongly that I thought I had done her some harm. I have never seen an orgasmic blush the way she had at the time. I am still blowing her like that. The only difference is that now she she blows 8 to 10 times each time. Or maybe she only blows once but it goes on for 5 to 10 minutes. She is an ejaculator and at the end of it all my face is totally plastered with pussy juice.
At first I used to concentrate on tongue rolling her clit but nothing stays the same so she moved up to wanting to be penetrated, just about fisted actually. But lately I have started doing up and down strokes with a wide open mouth almost from her bum hole to her clit. It's almost like a couple of girls tri-bading. As I pass her vaginal opening I give a quick poke from my tongue and end doing a roll around her clit at the top of the stroke. When I can start her cumming this way before I hand her, she seems to finish stronger when we get to the hand stage. At that time I pump her with my full hand whilst tongue rolling her clit until she is blown right out. To my taste there is no better sex than this.
my girlfriend enjoys when i suck her clit... but it depends on how sensitive she is... this can be really painful if shes not warmed up. massaging her g spot and pulling softly at her vaginal wall while licking her rhythmically can make her scream. rubbing her inner thighs and touching near her clit can get her warmed up nicely. teasing her and breathing in her ear can make her really wet. one thing she also loves is just spreading her legs wide after iv been eating her out for awhile. i think this is the best time to just lick her calmly with my tongue soft and jaw lose.
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