Cunnilingus Basics
Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and has the potential to give her an exceptional Orgasm. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for those who require a large amount of clitoral stimulation, it is the easiest way to orgasm. Besides, lots of women expect it these days and men who perform great cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered fabulous lovers.
There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious; meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don’t like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. The smell of a woman is normally fairly mild and pleasant, being quite arousing to the partner. The type and degree of smell can vary considerably from one woman to another and at different times it may be stronger (e.g. closer to her period).
If your partner has a smell that is more than you can handle, or she doesn’t feel comfortable with you down there (thinking you won’t like the smell), suggest taking a nice hot shower or bath together. See the Bathing and Showering section for more details on how to make that bathroom experience a whole lot of fun for the both of you.
Before reading further, you may want to get acquainted with this region of her body by reading the Her Erogenous Zones section and having a look at the Female Diagram.
Remember, there is almost nothing you can do that will feel bad (so long as you are gentle), so relax! Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area should feel great to your partner. Also, once you find something that works, don’t stray too far away from it unless you are moving to something that works better, or if you are teasing.
Exercises
To be able to perform for extended periods of time, there are a number of exercises that can be used to strengthen the muscles in your mouth. Here are a few tongue exercises and positions for performing cunnilingus:
Exercise 1:
Stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible, and then try to touch your nose. Once you are in this position, hold the same muscle groups still and begin moving your tongue around. Practice in sets, moving the tongue clockwise, counterclockwise, and up and down.
Exercise 2:
With a loose jaw, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to keep your tongue in constant contact with the top and bottom your mouth. Once you are in this position, practice moving your tongue in and out of your mouth. For the more advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it, while of course, maintaining position. An extension to the advanced exercise is trying to dissolve a lifesaver held in your teeth from the inside out.
Exercise 3:
Stick your tongue straight out of your mouth, trying to keep your tongue flat and relaxed. Slowly, while holding the position, practice curling the wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and side-to-side. Practice in five sets of ten, holding each move for 2 seconds.
Exercise 4:
Keep your tongue relaxed and open your mouth. Move your tongue in and out of your mouth forwards and in both directions. Practice in five sets of twenty.
Advanced Cunnilingus Techniques
For more advanced cunnilingus techniques, please click here.
well No one is ever really good for their first time, the reason why i say that is because when you are having sex for the first time, you don't know what you really like. You have haven't tested your boundaries. when eating a woman out i like to start teasing her to get her really wet so i can enjoy her sweet juices,what i mean by teasing is to bite her neck followed by gentle kisses, our running my tongue down her body occasionally stopping for a nibble or a kiss and then when i got to her pussy i wouldn't dive right in a start eating no i would take my tongue a circle the out side of her pussy or there is bitting the inner thigh, Altoids like the mint kind you know how they make your mouth cold well it can give a women a cold sensation when you are eating her out, she will enjoy every moment of it. well hope this helps.
I really want to do this but my gf won't let me, any help please
I'm thinking about my first few times when my partner wanted to do it with me. I was shy about telling him I thought I was going to be stinky, and (this is how naive I was) I thought it was "dirty" - like guys really didn't like to do it.
I know this is a dumb Q, but have you asked her why? If she seems shy about it or just says, "I just don't want to", you can help her by saying, "I think you are beautiful... Are you worried about how you smell? Because I love the way you smell." Reassure her you will be gentle, reminding her that she likes your kisses and that's what it'll be like "down there". She may have had a really crummy experience or two before if you're not her first lover, and you have to reassure her that you'll go slow and stop if she's not enjoying it. Tell her every step of the way, reassuring her the whole time that you want to taste her and show her how pleasurable it can be. I am confident that, if you show her patience and proceed slowly, she'll come around. It's all about trust.
(And, just for me, I was never into flavored lubricants. I just like it naturally. But I'm sure there are girls out there who say they can't have it without the flavored stuff. So just ask her, but the first time I'd just to au natural to show her you just want HER.)
You can try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed to add extra stimulation. You can also use these to add to your own fantasies. A mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance.
I'm not sure I'd like to get eaten out... Yeah, yeah, I bet it feels amazing (so I've read) but... It's embarresing. I know a lot of childish boys who complain about such things. 'She's hairy' - 'She's smelly' or so on...Though I shave and clean myself nicely, I still don't want anyone near me like that. Once I was with an extremely attractive guy who wanted to go on a date with me and do things, but I came right out and told him not to touch me... Not cute at all, I know. Maybe it's just my insecurity, but getting eaten out is just a no for me.
Ignore my spelling and grammar mistakes~ :]
You are afraid about what your Partner is going to think about you after he goes down on you, afraid of rejection, most men enjoy it, I am a man and i enjoy giving My GF lots of pleasure, she enjoys it. I think You might to if you are with the right person who will not encourager you to do it, but who will embrace who you are and your guard won't be up so much.
Other points to keep in mind to make cunnilingus exciting and fun are:
1. Share a shower or bath together before you start to make sure that you are both clean and add gels, lubricants and food to enhance the experience for both of you.
2. Ask your partner what she likes. She can give you directions such as harder, slower, faster, more circles etc - This is something you must do or just listen to her reaction to get direction!
3. Fill your own mouth with as much saliva as you can before you begin and never touch or lick the clitoris when performing Cunnilingus with a dry finger or tongue; it's a total turn off for your partner.
4. Don't go for the clitoris straight away make sure she is warmed up relaxed and aroused.
Try gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva area and work your way up to the clitoris don't hot it straight away with cunnilingus - you need to warm her up and relax her.
5. Use a variety of ways to arouse her. We cant stress this enough.
If you repeat the same method your partner will become insensitive to it, keep in mind variety with Cunnilingus and don't allow her to turn off and expect the obvious.
6. As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two into her vagina as well if you wish and open up your options to please her.
7. Continue to touch and hold her as she orgasms from cunnilingus and most importantly after she does. Make sure she knows you love her and have enjoyed it to
8. The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire head of the penis.
Always be very careful not to be to hard, as many women are very sensitive in this area - Ask your partner all the time what turns her on.
Cunnilingus can enhance any relationship and most women love it and getting it right, is all about responding to what your partner wants.
She will tell you or simply listen to her moans for direction!
i lov when my man gos down on me its so ucking amazing. what akes it moe sexy is at h cant wait to do it to me he gets right into it. now that he works awa we dont get enough of anyting i see im maybe six days out ofa month. when we do se each other its mind blowing he loves the tas and we have also experimented wit ood too just gotta love it. makes m so wet just thinking bt it.
This guy I know talk about eating me out all the time! Gosh it drives me nuts. ;) we're not going out technically but it's still fun to talk about. It makes me soaking wet down there ;)
i AM iN THAT SAME BOAT RiT NOW! i GET SOOO WET WEN WE JUST TLK ABOUT SEX PERIOD!!!
i'm the same way!! lol i get wet easy. :) he loves it. ;)
My husband is the master at eating me out! He's been in Iraq so I haven't been getting any, but he's always telling me how bad he can't wait to taste me. I can't wait either! He just gets sooo into it, and it turns me on that he's so excited to give all this pleasure to me. I love it!
The first time I was going to go down on the girl with never ending legs and thighs, she started pushing me away, saying no, that's dirty, you will hate me, I persisted and when she finally let me down there I started slowly and worked up to giving her a wild ride! She had several orgasms in what seemed like waves, grabbed my head and mashed it into her crotch so hard that I had to pull back, preventing my teeth from hurting her!
What a feeling that is !
ok, i was the first guy my gf got eaten out by and she was really shy about it but i waited till she felt conferrable then i did it but when i tried doing it again a different day she still feel really shy..... is there a way that i could make her feel conferrable?
I love when I'm with my girlfriend to eat her out.. She wants more and more. I love gettign that pussy mad wet and watching her legs shake and her in pleasure.. I never get tired of eating a woman. She just has to keep it nice and trimmed or shaved.
whenever i go down on my GF she never lets me kis her mouth or go near her mouth, because of the taste and smell. which obviously ruins the moment so for her i havn't gon down on her as much as i would like to. So what can i do to change this???
I won't kiss a woman directly after I've gone down on her. Even if she wants me to. I just say "that's for me only!", and it's actually pretty sexy. If I'm at her place I will take my toothbrush along, and quickly go into the bathroom to brush my teeth so I can kiss her before I eat her out again. Women love the thought that you are thinking of them, so it's really a plus, rather than a negative.
It just means she doesn't wanna taste her own cum. Its not really something you change unless you kinda surprise her.
i find it kinda kinky when my bf kisses me after he goes down on me cuz i can taste myself on him. he also says he likes the same thing but then again we're kinda freaky so lol idk to each his own i guess
I've been with the same guy over about a year and a half. Everything started fine-good sex and often, he would go down on me and vice versa. For the past 9 months we barley have sex- maybe 3 times a month if that, and he hasn't gone down on me once in 9 months! BUt i go down on him more than 5 times a week. We've talked about it ALOT, but with no results... What's the problem here?!
Problem? No problem, Hes getting a blowjob 5 days a week.
ok, no seriously maybe just try and trade. "I'll blow you if you eat me"
If he says no, then just don't give him any.
First to begin with the key word is communication. You must communicate with your partner in order to know what they want and don't want to try.
Secondly its the best thing any man can do for a woman in my experience and so far I've had no complaints and love doing it.
If the smell or taste is a situation then take a shower together and wash each other beforehand. It not only induces arousal it also eliminates some of the fear.
And last, but not least enjoy the emotional connection between you and your partner. That is also important as well because if there is no emotional connection it doesn't feel the same.
the talking thing actually does help...if u talk with ur gf/bf about it then u can see what they like before u start
try a vinger and water douche,might think he is having a pickleif he likes pickles get the clit he will love it
ok so my boyfriend has gone down on me before but he hates the taste and smell, and i wish he would do it more cuz it feels so good. does anyone know a way to improve the taste and or smell of it?
try washing down there a little more often?
i do, alot. he's just skeeved out by it.
Fruit juice, lots of it. About 5 hours before doing any activities.
OMFG reading this drives me sooo nuts :p i want to be eaten out now ahhh :P my bf wont do it as much as i would like ahhhhh :S :(
What is wrong with that boyfriend? I could eat mine every single night if she would let me. I haven't tasted her pussy in over a week and it is driving me wild thinking about it. Tonight I am going down on her and spend some good time licking, sucking and tasting her sweet pussy. I get hard just thinking about doing her right nowl
Just wanted to report back. I did go down on her last night and I can't believe how nice it was. She had on a nice pair of thong panties and so it was easy to slip them to the side and start to lick and taste her sweet pussy. It wasn't long before I pulled them off and went back down to enjoy her sweet taste. She was enjoying it and was nice and wet. I left down below and went up for some nice long deep kisses for her. She could taste her wetness on me and seemed to enjoy tasting what I had been enjoying. I then had to go back down on her and taste some more of her wetness. She wanted my cock in her so I had to leave my meal and move up to insert my cock. It went in nice and smooth due to the amount of wetness. I pumped on her for awhile enjoying each thrust. Went back down and gave her more oral for a slight break, but then it was back to f**king. She finally had enough and so it was my turn to finish. I exploded in her and it felt so nice to feel the cum leave. I pulled out and we laid by each other for awhile just holding each other. When we were ready to get up and clean up, I gave her pussy one last kiss and got a little taste of my cum from her. All in all a great session of sex.
wow i got hott just reading that lol u should totally write erotica u could make some serious money
yeah u would
i love doing it giving my woman pleasure see her relax and see her watiching me ,holding my head a little pressure as she is cumming.but have only one thing a lot of women give you a bj then you give them pleasure your a pervert amazing.but i do love it,when you see and hear the pleasure your giving her its all worth while makes you happy ,to know you have done her proud
Sooo like yea i go down on ma girl but how long should i be going down on her???
i love goin down on my girl! and she luvs it 2 cuz even if i pull away a little she shoves my head back into her nice wet pussy!?! god i wish i was with her right now!!!
As long as she wants! lol It really depends, I usually go for an orgasm or maybe two.
hahaha ok...
i like to taste my wife.. but it frustrates me that she doesnt cum when i do it .. is there anything that i can do to change that?
Have you tried fingering her while you do it?
cause when my bf goes down on me, its easier for me to cum if hes licking my clit and fingering my vagina
try teasing. it totally works. let the pleasure build a little and then back off. dont completely quit, just move to another area (down there) and then come back. do this until she is begging u to let her cum
Try getting your tongue farther up. And lick around her clit too. I love it when my bf does this.
sex immediately after you orgasm is really amazing and intense. if your guy likes what he tastes then he should have a throbbing hard on once you've came. i squirt when he's inside me and scream a lot more. its great! so guys get something out of it too.
my guy only has a problem going down on me after he has came inside me, which is understandable. thats why we always do it first thing, and although it takes atleast 40 minutes, he is still licking away like a mad man. i lost my v to him and everything else, so i was really scared when he first said he wanted to try it. i got more and more comfortable when he started licking me over my underwear, and eventually i let him do it. when he first goes down he uses his tongue very lightly and that makes me go wild. its true that you orgasm faster if he sticks to a pattern around or near the clit, just not on it- it makes me twitch every 5 minutes and it can get frustrating. a man should act as hungry and desperate for his girlfriend to come just as he does.
that is not fair to you at all. If you give it to him willingly, he should to you as well. But you don't want to force it on the person either. Maybe he had a bad experience but you should try talking about whats holding him back. But if you can get it from him, arent there those toys that can give it to you and it's in the shape of a tongue?
I have a rather large tongue, so i can get deep inside of my girlfriend. And i love to taste her cum in my mouth. She loves it. So fun! :)
well to start...
I don't really like it when a guy goes down on me.
I would like to try again. I've done it once. but it felt akward and it didn't really feel all that great to me. what I need to ask is that normal for a girl to not like it...or did he just not do it right?
And now I'm in an amazing relationship. and he wants to go down on me. but I'm kinda nervous to let him. He has tasted his finger after fingering me before. I asked him what it tasted like and he said "bitter". is that right? I don't know. but the first guy who did it, said he didnt like the way I tasted cuz it was "tart".
I want to let my boyfriend go down on me but I want to feel more comfortable letting him. And I want to know if there is anything to make it taste good to him. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me!?
Just relax, let him do what he is going to do. Obviously he knows what he wants to do, so lay back, close your eyes and put your trust in him.
Aw sorry. Don't worry, once you get used to it it actually feels great. Before I would feel uncomfortable mostly because i was worried about the taste and smell, but once you get over that initial feeling, it can feel very good. He might not have stimulated you as you like it so make sure to give him signs or say straight out- this feels good keep doing that, or if it doesn't say a suggestion. If you dont tell them it doesnt feel good, then they'll keep doing it that way. As for the taste- everyone has a taste even guys so dont get umcomfortable with yours. Just always make sure you're clean before someone goes down on you and it'll be fine. You can also try flavored lubricant =)
I have bin goin out wit my gf nearly a year nw nd weve tlkd about oral sex on eachother she says she wudnt (quite frankly i wouldnt blame her nt da best lukin ting) but i told her dat id go down on her nd she said dat she wud slap me if i did! Haha! I never actually tried to do it cuz really dnt wnt da rejection to kill da mood! Can anyone help? I have her pants unzipped my hand is down there! Wat should i do next other dan finger her cuz i really wnt to give her a gud time and experience!
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