Cunnilingus Basics
Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and has the potential to give her an exceptional Orgasm. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for those who require a large amount of clitoral stimulation, it is the easiest way to orgasm. Besides, lots of women expect it these days and men who perform great cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered fabulous lovers.
There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious; meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don’t like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. The smell of a woman is normally fairly mild and pleasant, being quite arousing to the partner. The type and degree of smell can vary considerably from one woman to another and at different times it may be stronger (e.g. closer to her period).
If your partner has a smell that is more than you can handle, or she doesn’t feel comfortable with you down there (thinking you won’t like the smell), suggest taking a nice hot shower or bath together. See the Bathing and Showering section for more details on how to make that bathroom experience a whole lot of fun for the both of you.
Before reading further, you may want to get acquainted with this region of her body by reading the Her Erogenous Zones section and having a look at the Female Diagram.
Remember, there is almost nothing you can do that will feel bad (so long as you are gentle), so relax! Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area should feel great to your partner. Also, once you find something that works, don’t stray too far away from it unless you are moving to something that works better, or if you are teasing.
Exercises
To be able to perform for extended periods of time, there are a number of exercises that can be used to strengthen the muscles in your mouth. Here are a few tongue exercises and positions for performing cunnilingus:
Exercise 1:
Stick your tongue as far out of your mouth as possible, and then try to touch your nose. Once you are in this position, hold the same muscle groups still and begin moving your tongue around. Practice in sets, moving the tongue clockwise, counterclockwise, and up and down.
Exercise 2:
With a loose jaw, point your tongue while simultaneously trying to keep your tongue in constant contact with the top and bottom your mouth. Once you are in this position, practice moving your tongue in and out of your mouth. For the more advanced student, try keeping your mouth closed and circling your tongue around inside of it, while of course, maintaining position. An extension to the advanced exercise is trying to dissolve a lifesaver held in your teeth from the inside out.
Exercise 3:
Stick your tongue straight out of your mouth, trying to keep your tongue flat and relaxed. Slowly, while holding the position, practice curling the wide tip of the tongue upward, downward and side-to-side. Practice in five sets of ten, holding each move for 2 seconds.
Exercise 4:
Keep your tongue relaxed and open your mouth. Move your tongue in and out of your mouth forwards and in both directions. Practice in five sets of twenty.
Advanced Cunnilingus Techniques
For more advanced cunnilingus techniques, please click here.
My Husband & I have been married for 3 years & I have really tried talking to him about going down on me. He says he has just never done that before & I dunno if he is scared or what is making him hesitant to do this. But, I really haven't denied him of anything, either, though. One of my girlfriends said that I should deny him of bjs & sex until he can't take it anymore & gives it up. I don't know about doing this to men, lol. It seems like a bitch thing to do. I'm just not like that. I want oral sex so much! I LOVE IT too much to not have it in my life, its so good. Any suggestions, Ya'll?
Here's some advice: be careful who you listen to.
There are some guys who don't want to give oral sex, just as there as some women who don't want to give oral sex. If you withhold oral sex, or all sex, you're probably going to start an ugly battle of who can withhold more -- and eventually, not just sex -- and I can pretty much guarantee that you and your husband will both lose that game. Don't put your relationship at risk like that.
The best thing to do: continue to talk about it. Find a time when neither of you are stressed and bring it up without blaming him. Let him know that oral sex is important to you. Ask why he's unwilling to do it (he's new at it? he had a bad previous experience? he doesn't like the taste? it's a cultural or religious taboo? maybe something else?) and tell him that you want to work with him to try to get past whatever is bothering him.
Ultimately, he may not be willing to give you oral sex as much as you'd like, or maybe at all. As hard as it might be, you have to respect their decision -- and that goes the other way, too, guys. That's when you'll have to decide if an unfulfilled sex life is really a deal-breaker (as in ending your relationship), or whether you're willing to find something else (maybe not as enjoyable) that works for you.
Good luck to both of you.
When my boyfriend goes down on me for a little while I am fine, After that i start regreting it, i dont know why or even if its normal. I mean i really like it but i push away a little bit later. Why do i do that? Is it normal?? Please Help Me
hey..i asked my partner if she wanted me to do oral to her.we talked about it and i could see she wanted me to.but still she was telling me "no we cant","no we shouldn't","no its not right".after a while a slipped down between her legs and i went for it.she definitely liked it.but then she kept saying "why did you do it,i told you not to", and then she started crying.she she said she had regret it.i don't understand.what is going on?
i'm sure she did want you to do it, but she probably was nervous or didn't feel ready.
when you decided to go for it you made the decision without her approval and it probably upset her.
i would try talking to her about it again and ask her why she got so upset. maybe it is something you can work on together.
hope this helped :)
my g/f and I have been having sex for months now, but when it comes to going down on her she does something that puzzles me. I go down on her and she seems 2 b enjoying it for about 5 minutes then suddenly she pushes my head away from her and then engages in pleasuring herself, then we have sex. Is it cause she doesn't want to orgasm with me down there or is it cause I can't help her achieve and orgasm? its quite confusing. any suggestions on this?
sounds to me like shes scared to come with u down there. maybe try telling her during that u want her to come in your mouth or something along those lines and let her know that u want it to happen
I love giving my gf a good lick but often find my selfe resorting to useing my fingers as I feal Safer and givs a more imediate vocal responce. can any ony give me any aditional tips as to what is good and what to avoid Thanks :D
well ive been trying to get my gf to have an orgasm but its not working , we,ve tried fingering and licking but how long should i do this for ? i really want her to experience an orgasm
me and my partener have been going on for more than a year now. we have a good relationship as well as a good sex life. however he doesn;t go down on me. i'[ve tried everything, showers, food, but he just won't. i even stoped giving him bj's so that he would go down on me so i would do the same. but is just not working. please HELP me. wat can i do?
talk to him...explain to him that you need to have the satisfaction and that you dont think its fair on you as you were so willing to give him a BJ make sure he listens to you, you never know he mite decide to go down on you after a long conversation!
i love when guys go down on me but the guy that im with right now doesnt like to, i give him bjs and i feel left out because he wont go down on me and i love it!! help me how do i get him to go down on me
some guys just wont do it no matter how much you try
so i sugest you either get a guy that likes doing it or forget how it feels
refuse 2 go down on him!! refuse point blank to so much as kiss him down there and see how fast he jumps betweek ur legs!
Both my gf and I are virgins and she recently gave me my first blow job. I want to return the favor but I don't really know what to do... any advice?
there's a good chance that if you guys are virgins and that was the first real sexual thing you did she will probably be uncomfortable with you going down on her. Many girls, especially young ones who haven't had a lot of experience, are very shy about their bodies and if you really want to return the favor you just need to compliment her a lot, kiss her body everywhere like the neck and stomach areas, and then over time start kissing places like her thighs and breasts and eventually she might ease up and let you perform oral and in reality all the tips are here but each girl is different and you will just have to find out what she likes, my gf for example doesn't really enjoy clitoral orgasms but loves g-spot orgasms so when I perform oral on her I also finger her to get g-spot stimulation while i stray away from the clit i simply lick kiss and do all the tips here to her whole vagina and not just the clit, so everyone likes something different and it might take time but i am sure ou and your gf will be enjying each other soon
Be gentle! I can't stress this enough. Less is more...until she grabs your hair or ears and pulls you closer...that means she found the spot and wants you to stay there and keep doing what you're doing.
well my bf and i tried this today but we wanted to be more kinky in our sex lives and we did we explode with fruit and me loving cherries and him loving cherries also we desided to put two cherries inside of me and a cherry parting my lips and we also got whipping cream and creamed my breast and put cherries on them and we creamed my pubic area and on top of the cherry parting my lips so in all i had four cherries outside of my body and two inside he loved it and i loved it when he was searching for the two inside of me he got all of them and some extra juice with his cherries it was my first time cumming in his face and OMG did he like it
OMG, that sounds soo hott, I have breafly menchend it to my gf but she dosent seam to like the idea, one of the reasons why is because she is worried about if I can't get the cherry out. Do you have any tips on 1. Helping me convince her to, and 2. Just some pointers on what works and what dosent
i really want to experience oral, but i'm afraid he might find me unnatractive down there. I shave, but i'm scared he might think i have a bad odour or he will notice the stretch marks on my things or something. people keep telling me that he will be so aroused he really wont care and that guys really dont notice that kind of stuff. is that true? and i'm scared oh him seeing me totally naked. anyone have any suggestions on how to get over these fears? be great to hear from anyone. cheers.
He'd be Excited To Do It. And As For Seeing you Fully Naked, I Dont Think He'd Know Where to Start
we guys normally dont care about that stuff
i personally love giving oral but never really pay attention to what the body looks like down theere to horny to care
most guys close there eyes anyway and usually are only focused and pleasuring the women
...Guys won't notice that stuff. They see sex. Or they see their partner wanting pleasure and now are in the mindset of making sure they have an orgasm. Work (that turns them on) for them, fun for you. If you're really that bothered by your own odor (have you smelled yourself lately?), just take a shower before, or do it IN the shower. Sometimes if you need a "smell mask," I suggest scented lotion on the inner thighs. It may help. If that doesn't work...try eating healthy and drinking lots of water and juice. Pineapple if you can. The smell that comes from your own fluids comes from what you consume...so watch what you eat and drink!!!
What JeremyBrie is saying is true. I love to give oral and for me it's all about giving her as much pleasure as I can. I do prefer a woman that is closely trimmed or bare because hairs can get in your mouth and the last thing I want to do is stop to find it and get it off my tongue.
I do admit that there are certain shapes of vaginas that turn me on more than others. I prefer the Labium Minora that are exposed rather than internal, but really once my mouth and tongue are dancing around the clit and diving in to tickle the G spot it really doesn't matter much. Things like stretch marks I don't pay attention to because as we age things like that happen whether its from growing into an adult, having kids, gaining or losing weight.
As JeremyBrie asked, have you smelled yourself? If you think you have a strong odor it could be you are close to that time of the month or what kind of panties do you wear? Tight panties can keep the vagina closed and make it easier for yeast to grow and cause odor.
Anything you eat, drink, smoke or take makes a difference to your taste. I'm not a smoker, I'll have a cigar on occasion, take any kind of drugs prescription or recreational and I've had women tell me when they give me a BJ that they love the way I taste because of it. I can tell if a woman smokes by how she tastes, if I've been with her several times or dating a while I can tell where she is in her cycle.
I've only been with 1 or 2 women that had a strong odor that I had a problem with and the solution was simple. I ran hot water on a clean wash towel no soap or anything and started at her ankle lightly caressing it up the inside of her thigh, when I got to her vagina gently wiped it outside and a little inside, turned it over and down the other leg. It got here very wet, cleaned her and removed the odor.
Hope some of this helps.
Most guys don't notice stretch morks if you let them go down on you. If you have showered before getting with him, there will be very little odor or taste. Being shaved also helps with odor. Some guys want a clean shaved pussy, others like some hair, so it is hard to tell. My wife used to keep a full bush and I still went down on her. She has since trimmed and even shaves most of it now. I do like the trimmed shaved look and feel especially with oral. I first learned to enjoy the scent of a woman just from girlfriends that only allowed me to finger them. The scent left on my fingers was so different and I learned to savor it. So I had great anticipation to go down on her and breath in the scent and actually taste her.
As far as him seeing you totally naked, he will be totally thrilled with just seeing you. Don't buy into the hype that only people with perfect bodies can be naked. If so, no one would ever get naked if they would be seen by someone. My suggestion would be to go to a nude beach and spend some time. Once you see the variety of bodies and people just enjoying being nude, it should help. Also it would help you to get naked around people and be relaxed. It really is not a sexually charged event. Just people enjoying the chance to be nude. If you can't make it to a beach, find a spot to just get naked and spend time nude. I really enjoy being nude outside, but it is hard in the winter to do that in the cold. So I spend little amounts of time nude after showering or changing clothes in the bedroom. Much of the enjoyment for me with oral sex on my wife is how open she has to be with nudity and sexual inhibitions to even let me go down there, so it is freeing for both of us. good luck and enjoy.
I'm scared bout the same things as you. but as long as you take a nice hot shower and shave (unless he doesn't mind pubic hair) then you'll be good to go. he'll only be thinking about pleasuring you, so don't worry about your body. you might want to use a gel or put some nicely scented lotion down there beforehand. hope i helped some.
i dont no but my bf like me to give him a blowjob and stuff(i dont mine) lol but i dont think he do this to me how can i make him feel comfortable doing this 4 me and tryin to make him feel dat lickin pussy not bad(fact is we both teenagers i woner is dat teenage boys not down with this then groww men teenagers boys i no said its not bad pussy tast good)
well next time he wants a bj just tell him to go down on you most guys like that but if he thinks its weird then you might have to find a new bf that will take care of your needs and wants
and cunnilingus is the only
thing i can think about
i want my girl to feel
like a "woman"
Well if he doesn't, I will. Hehe just playing.
Does he say why he doesn't do it or why he doesn't like it?
Taste and scent explains aloooot for young ones.
ladies..what are some foods or things we can do to make sure we as women taste good to our men?..My bf.. had a bad pussy with a past woman and I want to make sure all is sweet below..he is hesitent about it but sooo wants to he tells me.
I've heard that if you drink lots of water, it'll give it a mildly sweet or mildly salty taste.
I avoid anything with acid my husband love to look at me and tast me and there is nothing no sexier then ur man going down on you and enjoying it it is sure a turn on to look down and sex ur lover head between your thighs
im still a virgin and how does it feel to have sex and get a bj and do it anal cuz those r my fantasies
I can't say how it'll feel for you. But I know I like it. I only recently tried anal with my guy. I liked it a LOT more than I thought I would. ORal is amazing. I swear. If I had to choose one thing to do for the rest of my lfe it'd probably be 69'ing (since I like giving fellatio).
But how it feels depends on the person. I love everything so far. But I know some people who hate it.
my gf loves this. we do it when ever we can :)
My bf is the best at going down, he does circles around my clit while fingering me. I alsomlove it when he puts his tongue in me while rubbing my vagina, girls get your men to do this, its heaven!
my gf was scared of me goin down on her..then one night she let me ..and she said she loves it now..must be doin something right ?:)...guess it helps when you move your toung in a sideways motion instead of up and down..
and me9900 try kissen her and moving your toungue in a motion like you would from goin down on her..then kiss her neck and slowly kiss and lick your way down to her brests then down to her belly and kiss her belly then go down and get'er done im sure she'll love it :)
anyways hope my advice works :)
i love this sooo much, and my boyfriend said he wants to try it, but he keeps telling me tomarrow.
how do i get him to just do it?! wtf is he scared of?lol
Have you gone down on him before?
Maybe he's worried you won't like what he does.
Try 69'ing. Or push the issue.
Do what you want, don't wait for your boyfriend to say I am ready to go down on you. People are so non commital anyway. Get your boyfriend drinking and then go for a quick shower and get set up in your love nest with the cherry and whip cream. Let him see your cherry pie, he should go crazy. Be sure and moan a little, hump towards him, and talk nasty while he goes down on you.
Put a nice trim on your pubic hairs, put a little cherry wedged carefully in the outer part of your vagina with the stem sticking up, next put cool whip all around the cherry where your pubic hair used to be. Let the red of the cherry still be visible. Tell your man you have a very sweet snack for him when you invite him in your love nest. Incense, candles, low music, no bright lights. Don't forget to cheer your man with dirty flirty talk (Men love this) and humping towards his mouth as he worships you in your special spot. Women are "so wonderful" and you are his "Goddess". Tell him things like "OOOH,you are so strong" "I feel so weak when your tounge goes in me" "you control of me now, don't quit" "OOOH you own me" "My Pussy is yours" "you are my man" "I feel like I'm going to orgasm, please don't stop" "I luv U" "your tounge controls me" "eat me up" "I'm only yours baby" "OOOH, I've never felt like this before" "Put your tounge deeper in me" "OOOH"
seriously,100%...love going down...and staying down on my girlfriend...as we are in a monogamous relationship...i am the lucky #%^$@&*...who gets to taste,touch,smell,hear,and see my babies sacred space...to the exclusion of others...in addition the act is reciprocated...therefore a double yes....
A man can be great at it too of course, it just needs learning and patience. I think many men blow it when they are too rough with their tounges.
what do women like best ,a man doing cunnilingus ,on her or a woman doing it,heard women are much better at it than a man,just wondering,what the preference would be.
The only reason a woman is Bette at oral then a man is the woman know what she like and how to make a woman feel great giving oral she know where to lick suck or touch and if it is a light touch or a hard one a man can be taught what his woman likes or wants if she will tell him Me personnel love being bit and sucked
women probably at first cuz they know the hotspots better. But with practice anyone cuz they'll discover.
women are generally better when they first start but after both women and men do it for a while it's anyone's game, also a woman could give great oral to one woman and not so great to another it's all personal preference
"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” - Robert Heinline
There something ,you can do cunnilingus and have a dong in her must be an amazing feeling for a woman being licked on her clit and filled to as you lick it goes up and down love to get one have a picture of it
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