Female ejaculation & G-spot orgasm
Q. When it comes to female ejaculation, I’ve heard that most guys don’t realize the amount a woman actually comes when she has g-spot orgasm – do you have any ideas for how to explain this to a new sexual partner? I don’t want him to freak out and make him think I’m peeing on him. Also, do you have any ideas to deal with how soaked my mattress gets?
A. Female ejaculation is a topic that readers constantly write to us about. I think that telling your potential partner all about how you come could be hot. Besides, what man wouldn’t want to make a woman do that?! Someone who’s grossed out by the concept probably won’t be able to please you anyway.
Here are some suggestions for what to have on hand for the wet encounter. There are some excellent products for this type of thing made by Liberator. They make throw blankets for the couch or bed, cushy waterproof mats for outdoor/indoor play and ergonomically shaped pillows that can improve your g-spot experience. The products come in a variety of removable covers that are washable. It’s also a good idea to have a good quality lubricant on hand – my favorites right now are the water-based lubes by Jo and by O’My.
Although you might feel shy explaining female ejaculation to a potential partner, use it to your advantage. If you never explain fundamental things about what your body is capable of, you’re selling yourself short and limiting your sexual experience potential.
*Copied from the Message Board (Brandye 18 Oct 07)*
The "Q." reinforces a specious stereotype. Women who squirt may squirt with what you call a G-Spot orgasm or with a clitoral orgasm; women who do not squirt, do not squirt with either type.
Dealing with the fluid has been treated so many times on the forums. Towels, plastic sheet, do it on the grass. No, the last has never been mentioned but I have often been tempted.
*Copied from the Message Board (BigKahuna 20 Oct 07)*
The majority of the guys I know, including myself, find it arrousing... However, we don't always like to be surprised by having our sheets soaked... (we hate doing laundry!)
*Copied from the Message Board (sera300 20 Oct 07)*
And you believe women love to do the laundry and have soaked sheets? I hate sleeping in the proverbial "wet spot", not always caused by me.
*Copied from the Message Board (BigKahuna 20 Oct 07)*
ROFL not sure how its spelt... but touche!!!
*Copied from the Message Board (Laika 28 Oct 07)*
I have never heard of a guy who would say "no" if you asked him to talk about issues regarding squirting... Actually, just hearing such topic they all go crazy, nearly like "yeah yeah, let's talk...", ears big like a bunny trying to hear everything. Probably, best way to start the serious conversation in order to get attention... off topic, but I hope it makes sense.
Other thing is I think it's mostly women who feel uncomfortable about this feeling nearly like peeing and leaving quite a similar result. I guess a good way to avoid the fear of soaked mattresses would be doing it in the bathroom, shower, bathtub o anything like that - where you deal with water all the time anyway.
*Copied from the Message Board (digger10 14 Nov 07)*
i would be happy if during the oral caressing of a womans lower area,she were to spray me, i would gladly lick all of it up and hopefully have it happen again.
me and my boyfriend have talked about it on a serious note, he gets mad at me when i hold back from an orgasm, but it is so embarrassing when i do "squirt"... it just seems grose.. i know its natural, but it just seems like i am truely peeing.. but it feels sooooooooo good.. its like a never ending orgasm.. my question is.. is it bad to keep having sex during that orgasm.. its because he is fairly large and my "cum" seems to not come out until after he pulls out.. is it bad?? should i just jump off during orgasm?? or just keep doing what i am doing..
if you feel good going what your doing..keep at it
if he could last, and you could go for a round 2
or if you want to see all your gloriness, have him pull out, rub his dick around getting all your pelvic region wet in your gloriness
its what works
not what may seem "RIGHT" or told to you what is RIGHT in others eyes
your life
your vagina
YOUR ORGASM
i cant find my wifes g spot she has never orgasmed like that . how do i find it and what are some great techniques
me and my boyfriend are trying out many new positions and i just found out more about the G-spot today. normally when we have sex i get orgasm from my clit. and never from my G-spot. i have searched for it recently and i have found a washboard like spongry area, but when i rub it or do the come hither motion..i just feel pressure. i dnt feel anything. can u help me figure out how to stimulate the G-spot?
Kinda like tickling yourself, it may be hard for you to get enough into it to actually feel pleasure. Have your bf try it.
I have only had that happen to me once, and it was when I was on top (it felt weird because I thought I was peeing)
My fiance was thrilled and wanted me to do it again, but I couldnt.
I would like to do it again, but our sex these days are just quickies because we are so busy.
well can somebody tell me what I do wrong not to cum like a peeing sensation? I always tell my bf when I think I get off but I really dont know? Please tell me what position that I can do or something to help this situation....
Orgasms usually don't feel like you're peeing... I think you may be confused... The sensation you may be referring to is the urge to pee, like a full bladder? The most well-known orgasmic sensation are powerful contractions and they don't feel like your peeing at all! Unless you're squiting, which may kinda feel like that, but anyway... Try to figure out what YOUR orgasms feel like. Don't be searching for someone else's sensations. I believe they're different for everyone. You probably ARE climaxing, you just don't realize it.
it can feel like that
....you can be a squirter, just not gotten there yet
as a back up, go the the restroom first--empty our bladder
go for it, get to that point...and keep telling yourself, let go, have fun, its hot...anything that will keep your mind open
cuz once your mind is down..the libido goes down
Okay so this is really emmbarrasing but
im 16 years old and i lost my vifginity
in July...I hear everyone saying that sex is this
great thing and it feels amazing but i dont feel
that way =( like i have had orgasms before by masturbating and by my boyrfriend going down on me
but im so confused as to why sex doesnt feel good
it doesnt hurt or anything at all but it
just doesnt feel good so i dont enjoy it. he feels really good and he gets to come but i feel bad when
he asks me if it was good and i have to lie lol
i talked me my boyfriends mom about sex and she said
its cuz the guys doesnt know what they are doing..
but ive had sex with 3 guys and its the same with all
3 of them and they all have different penis sizes so.
anybody have any ideas as to why it doesnt feel good?
I am much older than you are but I lost my virginity when I was around the same age. I actually had the same issue. I think it has a lot to do with age and finding the right partner. As you get older you will find that it "feels" better. Sex is something that is meant to be shared with someone that you care about. I don't mean to preach by any means but I have been there. Not that there isn't something to say about "just having sex," but you will find it much more enjoyable when it's with the right partner. Don't lie to him. Tell him the truth. Perhaps that will open the door to more experimentation so you can find what you like. Sex is not just about him...it's a partnership that should be about both parties equally. And...his mother has a point. Men slow down and focus more as they get older. When they are young they can be more concerned about getting off than anything else. Like I said, just talk to him and be honest. See what happens...good luck.
You haven't had one yet. You are only 16, slow down, and have sex with the right guy for the right reasons and you will undoubtedly love it.
P.S.
Most of your friends are lying.
When I have sex I can only have one orgasm because I feel too sensitive after the first orgasm. by the way I am talking about an orgasm from the clitoris. I hear about women always having more then one. How can I have more then one orgasm?
my girlfriend is also very sensitive after the first orgasm. if i want to make her cum multiple times, i have to slow down and ease her back into being aroused. unless i want to be a jerk, then i grab her crotch and she convulses. :P haha no but that's not uncommon. some women are that way. you need your partner to ease you back into it. practice by masturbating. have an orgasm but don't move your hand, slowly start masturbating the way you normally would until the initial sensitivity fades. if my girlfriend has a really intense orgasm, it can take quite a few minutes to get her ready to go again.
Me and my partner have sex it can be amazing at times when i have my orgasms but sometimes i just cant catch it certaain days any suggestions?????:]
I can never get myself to let go to actually cum and to have the big orgasm. Any tips on how to make myself let go and just do it?
Don't worry about it. Don't chase it. Don't even think about it. Just relax and enjoy whatever you're feeling. You may be getting too excited so that it feels so good you have to stop? Maybe that can actually work to your advantage. Stopping and starting gets me to my hardest orgasms, but it is so hard to do tht with a partner because it is so easy to feel selfish. Explain to you lover that you just want to enjoy it, and see how long you can last. Focus on the journey, not the destination.
I am desperate... I am 33, actually less than a month from turning 34. I have been w/ my current bf for almost 3 months. From the beginning sex was an issue... he questioned right away whether I got off. I didn't... I have only been able to have a clitorial orgasm w/ a vibrator. So how this has all gone is he is obsessed w/ getting me off. Now keep in mind, he is a little younger, late 20's, he's been w/ a lot of women and he insists they've all gotten off and had hard orgasms. He told me he's gotten girls off so hard they have actually clenched their vaginas so hard it's pushed his penis out. I've read about this, I know that it exists, my question is why the heck isn't that happening for me?
He hates the vibrator. He hates the fact that I can get off hard w/ it. I will not suggest using it, he'll freak out. He is not content w/ me being able to get off on my own, he is obsessing w/ getting me off vaginally. So obsessed that is really putting a lot of pressure on me to the point where if I could successfully fake it, I would.
He is not mean in the way he talks to me about this. But none the less the things he says bothers me. He has told me that it is basically like doing it just to do it and that he feels like he is not sexually exciting me and that discourages him. He says that he does not think that I am into him. He says that having me be out of this world arroused by him is what makes him horny and that he is not getting that from. I told him over and over that he does arouse me that he turns me on and that I love being w/ him. He is measuring his own sexual worth by whether or not he can get me off. I have assured him that the sex is enjoyable, I feel emotionally connected to him, I feel like he loves me, I feel special and all the ingrediants a woman needs to feel satisfied. None of that is good enough. He wants to me to get off during sex or while fingering me.
I purchased a book on the Gspot, we read most of it. He tried the things the book said. He says he doesn't think I have one. After 20 minutes or more of fingering me, he says maybe I just don't have one. He says any other girl he's been w/ it's been easy to find. He says maybe mine is just deeper than most. He's also told me that my clit is very small. He can get me off by going down on my and vibrating his lips on my clit but he can not get me off w/ just his finger or tongue. He actually is the only one to get me off that way and once he even made me squirt. I am starting to believe that my vibrator has gotten me to the point where I can't get off w/o it or some other forceful vibrating type sensation. He brought it up once, I read it on here also, so I'm thinking that may be the case. But that is the only way I've ever been able to get myself off. I know no other way to orgasm.
I have read about Gspot orgasms. I believe they exist. He's told me stories of his past experiences and I all I can say is wow, I want that w/ him. He is so let down that he can't get me off and we have had hours and hours of discussion about it. There really isn't a right way to tell someone you are losing interest in them b/c you can't get them off, but he somehow managed to tell me w/out being an asshole about it. Still hurts my feelings and makes me feel pretty worthless. I have never felt not satisfied after being w/ him... but somehow he feels he's not connecting w/ me.
Since its still very early in our relationship we've agreed maybe I'm the type of woman that needs more than a few months to completely let go and get to the point where I'm loosened up and not tense and it will eventually just happen. But I can think back as far as my sexual experiences began and I don't think I've ever gotten off by penetration.
Not only is this a problem for our relationship, but it's really depressing me that I can't even find my Gspot. I have tried. Diagrams are too confusing. It's like I want to go to doctor and have him point me to it. Is it possible I don't have one? I've had my share of partners and he is actually the first person to ever question me and care enough to figure it out, but at the same time, he's frustrated enough to give up and just have sex w/ me to get himself off and be done. That's not fair to me, it's not really been that long that we've been having sex and we are still getting to know each other.
Sorry this is sooooo long, but I am really at a loss and desperate to figure this out so I can have this earth shaking Gspot orgasm I've read so much about. I want to tremble and shake and feel like I am completely out of control. He tells me girls get that way, and I've read about it.
I welcome any and all advice. Please, I am desperate!
First off, sex is supposed to be about pleasure and should not be stressing you out. You are lucky that you are with a guy who actually cares about your orgasm, the two of you both just need to be patient with this and figure it out. He wants to feel like he is a big man who turns you on and gets you off and there is nothing wrong with that. Can you imagine if you were with a man that could not cum from sex with you and how you would feel about that? It's not anyone's fault, it will just take some patience and experimentation.
Second, forget about the G spot or vaginal orgasm. A lot of women can't have these and I would suggest focusing on the clitoral orgasm since you have done that before, but you just need to focus on achieving this during sex. This includes you touching yourself during sex and showing him what really feels good on you. Ask him to incorporate a vibrator into the mix with him inside you, be willing to try anything and you will eventually find what works.
If you are worried about him becoming frustrated or not being sexually satisfied because you can't reach orgasm, take the time during sex to let him know how sexy you find him and how much he does turn you on. A great blowjob that focuses on how much you love his cock is a good way to start...
Good luck!
hi, am very sad i am a guys from panama and me and my girlfriend where virgins AKA first timers like 5 months ago yesterday was like the number 10 i have sex with her well..... to the point i was doing it... with her and after a while i was using coondom but i pull it out a little and there was a liquid pretty much like my semen i smell it didnt smell like nothing was white and thick/slimy .... dont knwo what to think please help me i need some info about this if it a squirt or i dont know what i have been pretty faidfull i swear i have no problem with ladies but i love her im 19 i started a little late for personal reason thats all to say please help !!!!! before i do something stupid or dump her for not trusting her
thanks i am waiting for ur answer
and dont be afraid to be hard or been to sincer
just tell me the possibilities please
Darling, you are completely normal. Please don't let your man get inside your head this way. The majority of women only orgasm through clitoral stimulation as with a vibrator or oral sex. G-spot orgasms are just a bonus for some and not the only way to achieve sexual satisfaction. Don't be ashamed to incorporate your vibrator into lovemaking if need be.
Im a bit younger, 17, but i have been having the same problem with my girlfriedn for the course of our relationship of 5 months. I was not inexpirienced, i've done my best to make sure all my partners climax, etc., but for some reason, not with this girl. I love her very much and would do anything to give her the pleasure i've made others feel but i just dont know how to anymore. It has been crushing my self esteem at a constant rate for the entire course of our physical relationship. i tried many times doing what i know from expirience, then, realizing it wasnt working, i just asked her to show me what she likes. she began to, but, we had to stop because her brother knocked on her door. once he left, i just started doing what she had done. she twisted, she turned, she moaned, nearly screamed, but never came and before i knew it i had to leave. its been like that for 2 months. i finger her, she moans, screams, gets very wet, but doesnt actually orgasm. its killing our relationship. is there anything you can tell me to help??
stupid question!
how do i know where my g spot is?
HELP!!! PLZ/:
It's back up towards your belly button (not super deep) and feels sorta bumpy. If you're trying to find it yourself, either put one leg up and insert a finger from the front, or use a toy (I recommed a small shampoo bottle or something else cylindrical but not with a rounded head or curved. They're harder to manuever.) From the front, use the classic come hither motion, and from the back, try moving it up and down rather than in and out. To me, it kinda feels like when you get butterflies but lower and more centralized, but I've also heard it described as like you have to pee. Don't expect to cum or squirt the first time, just enjoy the sensations.
our g spot plays hide and seek. lol I found mine once and never could find it again. rofl
I have not had a real orgasm with my boyfriend during sex or oral... I only ever orgasm when I pleasure myself. Is he doing something wrong or am I?? Please help! :S
You're pretty normal. You are probably not doing any thing wrong other than worrying too much. Try masturbating in his presence, he will enjoy the "show" and eventually you may feel comfortable letting him take over.
i cum but i never have orgams during sex which is normal for me but i get them during oral sex and i want to have one knowing he doesnt like to do oral sex tht often and we he does its never long enough for me to have one since he believes he isnt good at it
hi, am very sad i am a guys from panama and me and my girlfriend where virgins AKA first timers like 5 months ago yesterday was like the number 10 i have sex with her well..... to the point i was doing it... with her and after a while i was using coondom but i pull it out a little and there was a liquid pretty much like my semen i smell it didnt smell like nothing was white and thick/slimy .... dont knwo what to think please help me i need some info about this if it a squirt or i dont know what i have been pretty faidfull i swear i have no problem with ladies but i love her im 19 i started a little late for personal reason thats all to say please help !!!!! before i do something stupid or dump her for not trusting her
thanks i am waiting for ur answer
and dont be afraid to be hard or been to sincer
just tell me the possibilities please
If it was hers, it's just deep vagina juice sweetie. It's okay! Perfectly safe, just doesn't taste or smell as good as the shallower juices. If it was yours, it was probably just precum, and again, nothing to worry about.
But talk to her. You guys should strive to be totally in tune with each other's bodies.
hey.. I need advice! I have just recently become sexually active with my boyfriend and it seems that I have difficulty to have an orgasm. I feel like there is something wrong with me but aparantly there is a certain percentage of girls which cant by intercourse. I really need some sex tips to spice things up because it seems that hes enjoying it and I am not. There are soo many on the website but what ones are best? PLEASE HELP! I would never dump my boyfriend over this but it would be nice if I could have some pleasure out of it too. Thank you.
I am 15 and lost my virginity to my boyfriend whom i love very much and i am still with him. I enjoy sex with my boyfriend one because i believe it's because we are in love and i feel that he is "The One". We are very close and we know what we like and what we want from each other. But, my problem is when we do make love to each other I never orgasm, he always cums but I never orgasm and sometimes he'll ask me and i can't lie to him I say no and he looks so upset. He say's he can't pleasure me the way I do him. I always feel bad when he say's that because I don't know what to do. I don't like to rub my clitoris while we are having sex because my arm get's in the way. How can I have an orgasm without rubbing my clitoris?
Get on top and rub your clitoris against his pelvic bone.
play with the angles of entry
with just the right tilt, your spot can be stimulated simultaneously with his thrusting
or if you rotate your hips with his motion
vibrating cock ring
oh there is this lil vib....its like a leaf (lol) but you just push it up to your spot and he can keep thrusting..you both the the vib
spooning
or rear entry and him or you rubbing yourself
doggy-with the same
I have been with a couple guys and the thing I want to know is it a good thing to be with a guy how doesn't make you cum? Cause they seem to just like cumming themselves... I seem to be kind of low on the list for cumming... Should I keep looking or find a way to tell them (which is really hard for me cause I am shy like heck telling them what I want!)
if you just want to please them ...FINE so be it
but if they are sexually lazy and don't even think about pleasing you
they are a shovonistic pig
thinking you're their for their pleasure
you are NOT
you have sexual right too
you have the right to ORDER your orgasm
or throw him to the curb
you can come and say no to him
he doesn't need to have on
HE ISN'T ENTITLED------ know that
yea, its a messed up thing, gettin yours and leaving him to the cold....I'm NOT SAYING DO THAT
but you have to know
HE ISN"T ENTITLED
your body
your vagina
your orgasm
...if him having one helps you get one...go for it
if you cumming together makes you "ONE" then go for it
but you are NOT THERE FOR HIS PLEASURE
communicate
say you want him to touch you this way
say...no i HAVE not gotten off yet...and really would like to
if he deny's you....get the fuck out of the room and drop his ass
don't worry,u just need someone to let u set the pace.I was like u i never came with my other partners i was2 shy and i couldn't tell if i came or not.Since being with my new man i have had the most amazing orgasms ever,we have even come together a few times which is a first for me.If u feel comfortable and relaxed with your partner,they give u enough stimulation and try different positions that may enhance your pleasure you will be on the way to a blissful experience.It worked for me i wish u luck
sometimes i can squirt on my own . how can my partner make me squirt . is there anything he can do .
K so im a virgin and im 17 my bf in 19 he is a virgin too but he has done some stuff with his ex... he finally asked me if i wanted to ever have sex bc he is ok if we dont and i told him i have never even masturbated... and he gave me a few tips but now he wants me to let him finger me... Im scared bc i dont know what to expect bc i have only done it to myself a few times bc it makes me feel bad??? any advice
Just let him do it once, and if you love it then you love it, and if you don't enjoy it then you don't enjoy it. But you will never know if you don't try.
if he knows anything about it he'd want to do it again and again. since the orgasm comes from the inside it feels good to a man feeling the heat of the orgasm coming up the length of his sex organ