Her First Time
Most women are naturally a bit afraid of their first time having sex. Will I enjoy it? Will it hurt? Will I satisfy my man? Is he the right one? These are all questions that most women think about before their first time. The truth is that your first few times having sex will not be remembered as your best sex ever. Most women agree that the first time often hurts a little, is uncomfortable, and is often very clumsy. Once you get passed the first few times, you will start enjoying all the pleasures that this type of intimacy has to offer.
Being Ready
The first thing to consider is the person you are with. You want your first time to be with someone you really care for and that really cares for you in return. Since sex will most likely be not that great the first few times, the person you are with is what you’ll want to remember. Many women often rush into sex before they are ready because their friends are doing it or because their boyfriend is expecting it. Neither of these should be a part of your reason, there is no correct amount of time to wait; you just want to make sure that you will not regret the decision later.
A few questions you can ask yourself are: Do I trust my partner with my life? Can I see myself having a long relationship with this person? Is he pressuring me? Is having sex for me, or for someone else?
Although everyone has anxieties, if you don’t feel you are completely ready, wait. If the guy you are with really cares for you enough, he will understand that this is a big decision, and you don’t want to rush it. You do not want to give it up to a guy who is worried more about his stature with his friends then your feelings.
Tips
- Choose a place where you feel safe and comfortable, your bedroom may be the best place.
- Choose a secure time when roommates / parents / friends won't come barging in.
- Gain some experience ahead of time. You want to have explored foreplay for quite awhile before you take the plunge. Having a good understanding of how your and his body works as well as having played together will take away much of the tension. Make sure that you feel 100% comfortable in the nude with the lights on, as having sex will be much more intimate then looking at each other.
- Communication is the most important thing in a sexual relationship. Make sure to talk about doing it ahead of time to make sure that you are both thinking the same thing. Getting the topic out in the open allows you to become more comfortable with the topic.
- Most women feel pain during intercourse the first few times because they aren’t used to having an object penetrating them. This can be reduced dramatically through fingering. Whether you finger yourself or your partner fingers you, stretching out your vaginal opening will definitely improve the experience.
- Feel free to say stop when ever you want, whether you haven’t started, are starting, or are well under way. It may be because you are getting cold feet, or something about the situation feels wrong, the reason can be whatever you want, just make sure the person you are with will honor your wishes.
- Excessive dryness of the vagina can be a problem, especially when nervous of the first time experience of intercourse. Although lubricant will not stop all the pain, it will definitely decrease it to some extent. K-Y Jelly is most often recommended, and it can be purchased in our online store.
- There are a few positions that are really good for starting out, depending on your concerns. If you want to be in control, then we suggest having your partner lie on his back, and you can straddle him “cow girl style”. If you would rather be on the bottom, the missionary position is probably the best way to start.
- If your partner has erection difficulties, or ejaculates prematurely - either of which often happens the first few times - be supportive. This can be one of the most embarrassing things that can happen to a young man, and if not dealt with properly, can result in ongoing problems. If erection problems do happen, try to stimulate him a little, and take some time before you try to put it in again.
- The most important thing you need to know is to practice safe sex by using protection. Whether it be to protect you from pregnancy, or to prevent contracting STDs, you want to protect yourself to the fullest extent. Until you have been with your partner to get checked for STDs, and you are on other birth control, there is no excuse for not using protection. Just because there is no excuse not to use them doesn’t mean that guys will do everything they can to get away from them, and be prepared to hear everything from it makes me go limp, to it takes away from the pleasure, to they were sold out. You can buy condoms at most pharmacies, or order them online from our online store.
Remember, this experience should be an extremely special and intimate time for both partners. Good luck, and remember, the best sex happens with people you care greatly about.
My boyfriend and I have been discussing it for quite some time and we decided to have sex. We have tried a few times but something always gets in the way. Well, we decided were going to in the next few days, and it should all go as planned. He wants to make it special and have it be in a nice place, comfortable place, etc. but today we decided to just try it a little. What I "dont get" is, knowing all the facts and statistics, is how girls my age (Im 15) younger and a little older can have sex like 10 times and not get pregnant. That's my main concern. We plan to use a condom, but im worried it may break. Basically im wondering how you guys my age and a few years older can have sex, even unprotected, numerous times and not get pregnant. Do you have a "secret method" or something? Please let me know. Anyone who can answer this please do. Not just those in my age range.
First of all, luck has nothing to do with it, when people don't use a condom during sex they just end up pulling out right before ejaculation;
there for she wont get pregnant, this is not a hundred percent affective some times sperm can come out before ejaculation and get some one pregnant to i recommend a condom and birth control; (: hope i helped;
well first off guys who dont use a condom are retards and if they arent getting their girl pregnant than its just luck or she is on the pill(or other birth control) also girls are more likely to get prenant 2 weeks after/before their period so if u have it right before or right after than it will be safer but as long as he knows how to use a condom than u should be safe but just be careful
me and my girlfriend have decided 2 have sex, but what ive read on the site kinda worries me. somewhere it said girls dont orgasm till theyre 18 or 19. How the hell will my girl enjoy it if she dosnt orgasm? I feel im really missing out on something important.
that's not true at all, girls can have orgasms the second they are born. However because it is her first time she probably wont and actually it might even hurt her at first. The best way to give her an orgasm at this point is through fingering and oral and just finding out what she likes. Dont worry if she doesnt her first time most girls dont but soon enough she will be moaning like crazy so dont worry
my first time was really spontaneous, i was staying over at my best friends house, at the time i had a lot of confusion about my sexuality and i had told him i was a lesbian, we had joked about if ever wanted to try sex with a guy that he would be willing, and i honestly figured we would end up having sex at some point, but i didnt expect it that night. weve always had a physically affectionate relationship, so we were lying in bed, kissing a little, when all of the sudden he got more intense and rolled on top of me, i felt a bulge in his jeans rub against my leg, and i knew what was going to happen. it did hurt a little at first, and i was so scared that i didn't say anyhting, which i'm sure was one of the reasons that first time was so...i dunno, almost horrible? lol, but he got me to talk and he tried different stuff and now we are together and it is no longer at all horrible ;)
Guys!m abt to get married ..and dat wud b the frst time i'll have sex..m really scared and worried abt it..please tell me does it really pain a lot?and i have also heard that skinny people suffer a lot compared to fat women..is this true?
first of all CONGRATULATIONS! waiting till marriage is a great accomplishment...let me go on and say im a pretty small girl. My boyfriend is always telling me im supper skinny and tiny from my V. My first time with him i was 21 and a half and he was 29. it HURT a lott bt he was very careful with me. He said dat night he confirmed dat me being soo tinny and tight made it hard for him and it was a given that i would be in pain. i actually had to slow him down and even stopped him a few times....
:) thats exciting. for me it didnt hurt at all. i didnt bleed or anything. it was painless. and im not fat, im little. but not like a stick (haha) it really depends alot of people have told me that they were hurt but alot of others have said that it didnt hurt them at all. (like myself) Congratulations :)
First off I like to say: I'm happy you made it to marriage with your virginity!!! :D But My first didnt hurt me. I guess it depends if you're comfortable with that person. And of course you are. So it might hurt but not bad, more like a shot (to me) Just relax and let him know when its not right. Thats my advice. And the fat thing vs. skinny. I HAVE NEVER HEARD THAT!! Im skiny and my sister is big but it was just a different exprience. So whoever told you that is WRONG!!! It's the person's own exprience!!
i was only just 14 when i lost my virginity and it didnt hurt a bit. i dont regret it either. since then ive had sex with 5 other different boys which people may think is bad for my age and saying its only been 6 months since i lost it. but sex is for all ages and my advice to those first-timers who are nervous would be - dont be scared! it didnt hurt me at all. my first time wasnt the best but you really do improve at it. sex is great & it really doesnt matter what age you are.
age matters. 13 and 14 year olds should not be out having sex. im sorry and im only 20. so im not an old fart either. but i have a 15 year old sister and if she were to tell me that she was out having sex with a bunch of guys. i would duh put her on some birth control but 14 and younger is still basically childhood. sex deserves responsibility.
six months, 5 different guys?!? sorry that is bad
ok, so my first time was with my best friend. i have always been attracted to him (& vise versa). he was being sent to military school, which really upset me. the day before he left i went over and hung out with him for a while and watched movies. after a while we just started cuddling and holding hands. i have been friends with him for a long time, but i never ever wanted him more than then. he took care of me, knowing what i would want. it was soo sexy. i cant see him anymore, but i dont regret our last goodbye.
guys: when its your ladies first time, look into her eyes and tell her something she wants to hear.
that set me off. ok, so you dont have to tell her you want to 'fuck her hard', unless shes that type of girl. i am. just remember who she is, thats important during her first time. know what she might like and learn from there...
i am only fifteen, but i know what its like to feel like you love someone. i have only had vaginal sex once and oral once. but, i know what i like.
ladies: dont be afraid to tell him what you want and what you want to give him. it just makes it that much better. communication is key, plus its hot when he whispers in your ear sexy things...(& vise versa).
My first time was not long ago, only about 2 or 3 months.
I'm happy I waited unlike my friends who all regret their decisions. I'm 16, all my friends had drunken mistakes or stupid flings just to lose it..
I waited till I was ready and comfortable with my boyfriend..(cutest thing, he wont call it sex, or fucking its always "making love" unless..hes in a kinky mood ;) lol ) It was my first time, not his though, but he made me feel amazing.. I'm unbelievably self-concious, so he told me I didn't have to take off my top or anything I wasn't comfortable with..
We made love in his bed, with candles and he played my favourite band in the background, he stared into my eyes the whole time, sped up and as he slowed down he kissed me and whispered "you are so beautiful"
It was so sweet... It hurt like hell, but I didn't notice too much. It was amazing, and my advice to all is to wait till your ready and in a comfortable relationship :)
My first time happened not too long ago...It almost seemed perfect. I was wearing his favorite shirt and something just came over me and I really wanted him to make love to me. It didn't really hurt at all; maybe just slightly when he began to penetrate me. But once he was inside, it felt so right. He moved at the right pace, looked me in the eyes the entire time and made sure that he made everything comfortable for me. It was better than I thought it would be for my first time and surprisingly, I didn't bleed at all.
ahh, i love looking back on my first time. i was so young & anticipating the night i would loose my virginity to my boyfriend (who i am still with). it was good because he was really gentle & only thrusted lightly so it didn't hurt me as much.
well my first time i was not scared it was like 2 months ago and im 19 years old i know of course on ur first time u bleeed but we did it again like a month later a bleed again i dont know why
so i'm still a virgin and don't want to have sex just yet, but i get sooo horny sometimes and i get tempted to just do it. i always feel bad after just making out with a guy so sleeping with him isn't going to happen. would it be silly for me to buy a toy or something to just satisfy my "craving"?
I am too and I know exactly how you feel. there's nothing wrong at all with using toys. although I'm a virgin, I do know what I'm talkin bout. it probably is better to go ahead and try having something "down there" so you can get a feel for the real thing.
If you're not comfortable having sex with him just yet... it's perfectly alright for you to get a toy for yourself. Hell, it might make your first time a little easier, since it'll be (somewhat) used to penetration.
It'll also help on nights when you can't be with your lover and yet you're still horned up. Course... there's always phone sex...
Me and my girl have tried plenty of times and I can't seem to pop her cherry. IDK what it is? Is it me. I help put her at ease we do some oral? Then give it a try but I can't seem to. I try to make it as easy on her as I can and less painful. Sometimes I wonder if my penis is too big or what. I even thought of letting her sleep with someone of her choice to pop it so I can be more pleasurable for her. But IDK what to do.....can someone give me some tips or something?
Popping her cherry is not going to make sex feel better. So don't let her use that excuse to sleep with other guys. Also maybe her cherry has already been popped. Have you thought about that? she's probably lying about you being her first. Or just give it to her HARDER!! Rail it.
i remember my first time. i was 15, he was 16. i regret it, but i dont, only because when my current boyfriend and i started having sex, he was 18 and i was 16. and i must say, it was not awkwardm enen though im his first, and hes my 2nd, and it was absolutely amazing!and our relationship is still going strong, so i'd say we did somthing right.
~Ali
i rememeber my first time i was 16 and he was 15... really nothing special at all.. disapointing and very uncomfortable..
My first time was painful but not too painful! My cherry did get popped and I bled but not excessively but looking back on it I would have waited.
my guy and I are talking about marriage in the future. We're currently discussing sex ideas. He's really confident but I'm nervous. We've started to have little phone sex conversations and that is sort of helping me, but i still feel weird afterwards.
To the guys out there reading this. Make her first time special with lots of planning together.
Something to remember for the right reasons.
NOT ON HER PARENTS LOUNGE ROOM FLOOR WHILE THERE ASLEEP IN BED!
Take it from me not a good idea.
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My first time was only last week, im 19 an was really scared, but my bf put me at ease, and i felt comfortable after few minutes...
i thought it would have hurt so much more, but was fine after few minutes. i wanted it to be special an wait a few months into my relationship, but it didnt happen that way, but im glad i've got it over and done with now
my first time was with a man i loved very much, still do. he was not a virgin but clearly i was. it was probably the most painful thing i have ever done. the first time was miserable, and not to scare anyone off it, but it was not good at all. we worked on it however and now things are amazing ;]
my first time was intresting too
godddddd i had always said i will save it for someone special then a guy i've known invited me over for a bottle of wine. we must have done it about 4 times that night in sooo many different positions lol. not how i saw my first time but it was a good night :D
Just pointing out that the girl in the above pic has some really great breasts, I think she's a D? Or is that a pushup bra?
If the guy is really thick, then make sure he puts plenty of lube on before entering her for the first time!
mine hurt.. but it wasn't as painful as i'd thought it would be... it was fun and hot! lol
My first time was definately an interesting one. It wasn't the normal, 'oh, Im in love with this guy', or at least in like. I met these guys at a hostel, went drinking with them, and then we hungout... And ended up having a threesome together. 2 guys, 1 girl. It was definately interesting. My first time, I lost every virginity i had, and i had an amazing time.
My first time i wasnt scared at all, and i can say that about the third time it didnt realy hurt anymore and that was some of the best sex i've ever had (he really knew what he was doing).
I was a virgin so was my hubby. I shudder to think the experience i have build up now ... Lizz
Lizz, did your first time hurt?
Well I am not sure, but it was a mixture of pain and pleasure and although we both fumbled a little bit, trying out the missionary position, it was very tight on my side so I lubed myself a bit and once penetration got going, I just naturally responded with the little bit I had read in books. I must also say that I don't know how it was possible but we must have easily had about six rounds of sexual acts. It was Great LOL
Lizz
Your guy sure has stamina!
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