Female Orgasm
Before You Get Started
Some women seem to have an incredibly difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse; that is if they are able to orgasm at all. The most common reason for this is that they don’t know their own bodies. Society has had this brilliant effect of instilling into our minds from childhood that masturbation is sinful, wrong and dirty. Well, everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, but all common sense dictates that this couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Thanks to this misconception, many people, especially women, have stopped themselves from learning their bodies, thereby reducing the chances of being able to fully enjoy sex. It is hard for many women to unlearn all that they have been taught, and they often feel that “touching themselves does not bring pleasure”. There is some truth behind that - they are not lying, they do not feel pleasure. However, this is not because there is no pleasure to be felt, just that they have been indirectly taught to not enjoy it. Getting beyond this will take time and patience, so never rush your partner.
If your woman has never had an orgasm (this is often the case if they say, "I think I’ve had one"), you will want to refer to the Female Masturbation Guide to get things started. Learning to please a woman who can’t orgasm on her own is extremely difficult, so we highly suggest that you start with getting her to play with herself, and allow her to learn how her body reacts to different stimulus.
The last note has to do with your approach. Orgasms can’t be forced, and the more pressure you put on her to cum, the less likely it is to happen. Take things slow, learn techniques, experiment with them and find what works. If you start getting frustrated when you aren’t seeing results, it will show, and unfortunately make it even harder. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable - as soon as you make it too serious, it takes away from the pleasure!
About Orgasms
There are two major types of orgasms a women can have - clitoral and G-spot (otherwise known as vaginal orgasms). When masturbating, women usually learn to get themselves off using their clitoris. There is nothing wrong with that, but it leaves the whole world of vaginal orgasms untapped. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren't familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. While you learn to read your partner's body signs, it never hurts to ask a question, especially if you are trying new techniques.
Coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman, if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman's clitoral area is nothing compared to masturbation or cunnilingus. One can incorporate manual stimulation to the clitoris during sex, but this is not very necessary if your woman has had vaginal orgasms in the past, and if you know how to hit the g spot correctly. To learn more about positions and the G-spot, please refer to the G-spot article and Sex Positions section. No one wants to involve geometry into sex, but it is wise to know which positions stimulate the G spot the best. In order to help her achieve a vaginal orgasm, you need to make sure you are "hitting" the G-spot with each stroke.
Many men fantasize about the myth of female ejaculation. Well, for starters, its no myth, most women should theoretically be able to have them. The key is G-spot stimulation, but all of this is also well described in the article on Female Ejaculation.
Some Ideas on Getting Her There:
First of, we would like to remind you to relax, and not to make her orgasm the purpose behind the encounter. The more of a goal you make it; the less likely it is that it will happen. Relax and enjoy yourselves, as that is the most important part.
The Grind
During Intercourse, you want to increase the pressure exerted on the woman's clitoris. This can be accomplished by rotating your hips just like when you are "grinding" on a dance floor. Try to really push against the front of her groin with the area just above the penis. Rocking back and forth or side to side is a really good way of getting started.
Rule of Thumb
With the woman sitting on top, the man should lie flat on his back, pelvic tilted upward, and stomach muscles tightened. You want to arch your hips upwards to improve the quality of “the Grind”; this can be achieved easily by putting a pillow under the man’s bum. He then should put his hand over the woman’s pubic region, and place his thumb on the woman’s clitoris. While the woman is riding her partner, he can simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.
T Position
With the woman lying on her back, the man should lie perpendicularly (i.e., at a right angle to her, thus forming the ‘T’), while straddling the woman’s far leg. Depending on the woman’s flexibility, this can be a great position for deep penetration, while exposing the clitoris for manual stimulation. This double stimulation is very gratifying and can often lead to the big “O” really quickly.
The Maximizer
The woman lies on her back, legs tightly held together. The man lies on top, or stands/kneels, in front. Instead of being directly in line with her, the man should be at a slight diagonal. Both of her legs should be over one shoulder, or on one side, of his body; he should begin penetration. This position is designed to maximize female clitoral stimulation and is easiest to perform with the man standing or kneeling (i.e. the woman should have her legs hanging off a counter, couch or bed).
Using Sex Toys
Sex toys can be used in virtually any sexual position, and thanks to the creative people who design toys, if you can think of a toy, chances are its already made. If you have never used one, you can read our comprehensive section on buying and using Sex Toys. Then visit our online store to find products designed to increase stimulation during intercourse or masturbation. The following is a summary of some of the most popular types of toys:
Vibrating Clitoral Suckers
This class of products works as follows: put the cup part of the toy over the clitoral area, squeeze the pump a couple times to build up some suction, then turn on the vibrating egg, which is generally attached to the cup. The suction is great because it draws more blood to the clitoris, making it more sensitive, as well as it keeps the toy hands free. It can be used during intercourse to add incredible sensations, but some varieties may prove a little bulky for some positions.
Regular Vibrators
For those of you who are looking for something with a little more functionality, we recommend getting a regular vibrator. The can be held in place during intercourse to stimulate whatever you want, they can be inserted anally, and can be used on their own as well. They are available in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and purposes.
Vibrating Cock Rings
This class of products is ingenious! The toy is basically a ring with one or more vibrating eggs attached. Simply slide it down the shaft of the penis, turn on the vibrating eggs, and voila, super pleasure for both parties.
Play O (UTOPIA) Orgasmic Gel by Durex
Try Play O ... it is an unscented gel to be applied to the cllitoris and surrounding area. It uses a combination of ingredients designed to stimulate, increase desire and bring intense orgasms. We rated it a 8.5/10! Click here to check out our detailed review.
I have been having sex with my girlfreind for about a month now and its been great. We both really like it. I can give her orgasms but only if i rub her clit and am thrusting at the same time. I want to give er an orgasm without rubbing it and i know i can do it because i have almost done it once. what do i do?
try a rear entry position like spooning or dogy style u will hit her gspot more often and she will likely orgasm without u rubbing her, if she isnt into those positions try propping her up on a pillow so ur thrusting at an upwards angle
anyone have any new and exciting ideas for masturabation????
try doing it in interesting places like maybe in public while being discreet like in a crowded restaurant or something where u wont really be seen if you're quiet about it
GOOD WAY TO CLIMEX.
SEX IS GREAT GIFT BY GOD.DONT LOOSE EVEN A ONE MOMENT OF FILLING HORNY.
THIS IS 8 0R 10 MINUT GAME. JUST PLAY IT WELL, PERFORM GOOD.
:- JUST TRY TO FEEL U R IN THE HAVEN.
:- THINK SOMETHING WHICH U LIKE TO THINK(IMAGIN) ABOUT SEX.
:- DONT BE UNROMENTIC.
:- TRY TO EXITE UR PARTNER BY DOING SOME NAUGHTY THING.
:- UNTILL U CUM DONT LET CUM UR PARTNER, TRY TO CUM TOGETHER. TALK DERTY BUT SEXY SWEET DURING INTERCOURSE.
:- DONT TRY TO FEEL ANYTHING WHICH IS STOP U.
:- DO SOME THING TAHAT U WANTS TO DO WITH UR PARTNER.
:- MAIN THING IF U DONT LIKE SOMEHTING THAN TELL UR PARTNER.
:- PLANE,LIKE DOING SOMETHING BETWEEN INTERCOURSE OR FORPLAY OR AFTER PLAY (THINK ABOUT IT WHOLE DAY)AT FREE TIME WHEN U DOING ALSE (NOT SEX) AND DO THAT THING IN THE SEX TIME.
AFTER ALL ONLY HE CAN TOUCHES U TO THE CLIMEX. SO DONT FEEL BAD. FREE UR MIND.
ITS JUST A MIND GAME.
BOTH CAN HAVING GREAT SEX,NOT ONLY U NITHER ONLY UR PARTNER BY HELPING EACH OTHER.
I hope to one day experience an orgasm. My last partner was only concerned about himself. I could be so class to an orgasm and as soon as he was done he would pull out and be ready for bed! :(
Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for about 3 months now and she still hasn't orgasmed. She says it's really hard for her to get one and it's only happened once, she can't even give herself one. I've tried literally every trick in the book and I'm getting desperate. We were both virgins and I hadn't done anything with anyone else so I'm not sure if it's her or if I'm just that bad. :S She gets close pretty much every time and she shows all the signs that she's having one: she moans and sighs and her legs shake sometimes, she almost always feels like she's gotta pee, she's said she can still feel it throbbing even after I'm finished, she even ejaculated once (a white sorta thin stuff), and she says that it feels even better than the one time she did orgasm but she still says it's not one... I'm afraid it's because whenever she gets the "i've gotta pee" feeling she tries to stop it and it distracts her. Can anybody help me please? I love this girl and I'm afraid that if I don't give her one soon she's gonna find someone who can... HELP PLEASE
if you are fine with it just tell her that when she gets that... I have to pee feeling.. To just go
This certainly is a problem that most people have to endure at one point in time. My wife and I had been together for almost 8 months and I had the same problem. we just kept experimenting and not giving up. we finally accomplished something when she sat on the couch and slouched a tad. the penetration was deep and it hit everything. she was laughing and crying and emberassed because it was all over the couch and the floor. just keep experimenting, dont give up! and if she truly loves you she wont try to go somewhere else to find what you can give her if you just keep trying! Good luck_
I am only going on 17 but me and my boyfriend have been having sex for some months now and I cant seem to orgasm. It feels good but the feeling never turns into an orgasm no matter what position i'm in. I can orgasm when I masterbate but only when i rub my clit. I orgasmed once and i think it was because the condom had snapped and we didnt realise. Is it possible that condoms are somehow stopping me from orgasmin or am I broken? :(
comdoms do block some of the feeling
but here's my thoughts
you said you can orgasm through
masterbation when you target your clit
so try getting him to perform
cunnilingus (oral sex)
if he wont
then let him
put his hand
over your clit
and guide his hand
to where it feels good
show him what makes you
cum so he knows what to
do next time
and experment
it doesnt always have to
be vaginal sex
let him rub your clit
himself!
Okay so this is really emmbarrasing but
im 16 years old and i lost my vifginity
in July...I hear everyone saying that sex is this
great thing and it feels amazing but i dont feel
that way =( like i have had orgasms before by masturbating and by my boyrfriend going down on me
but im so confused as to why sex doesnt feel good
it doesnt hurt or anything at all but it
just doesnt feel good so i dont enjoy it. he feels really good and he gets to come but i feel bad when
he asks me if it was good and i have to lie lol
i talked me my boyfriends mom about sex and she said
its cuz the guys doesnt know what they are doing..
but ive had sex with 3 guys and its the same with all
3 of them and they all have different penis sizes so.
anybody have any ideas as to why it doesnt feel good?
do you wear condoms when u have sex? that could be why, i dont particularly like it and feel uncomfortable with them. If not, try different positions or maybe try using lube, it can make things so much more..moist of you like, and might make it more pleasurable for you. Also, what the lady said in the comment below about being too young, that's a lie. You're not too young to feel pleasure and it shouldn't hurt at your age.
16 and three guys? Come on thats just not right, maybe its that you're too young to feel good. Granted I didn't wait much longer but I did wait until I was almost 19. You're still a little girl and should wait awhile before you never have an orgasm from incompetent men and start taking it out on them eventually...
tips on how to give a girl an orgasm
?
i cant seem to have an orgasm...ever. I used to have them all the time when i first started having sex, but after about a month it never happened again. Not from regular intercourse, not from oral sex, and not even from clitoral stimulation. I dont know what to do about it or even know what the real problem is..the only explanation i have is because im not as "tight" as i used to be. Need advicee..please help!
you might try some new positions. you being ontop is a good one... try some now positions and see what makes you happiest.
I have tried the play O some time ago, and I would agree with the review. It's offers that extra touch - so to speak :)
i cant seem to orgasim anymore,.. i used to alot when my boyfriend fingered me or went down on me,. but it just doesnt seem to happen anymore,.. im always almost there then i feel bad that im taking too long,. an just kinda give up on myself,. he wants to keep trying but i feel like ill never get it,.. ADVICE PLEASE
i used to have this exact problem. the answer is--DONT worry about if you are taking too long or anything else. everyone takes a different time to reach that point. my boyfriend told me that it didnt matter to him how long it took to orgasm, as long as he could make it happen for me. After i got into the moment and truly forgot about everything else except for the fact that it IS all about me at that moment, i could orgasm again. try that, i'm sure it'll work
The grind works very well to get me off, however it is a very uncomfortable situation if he has a lot of pubic hair...
Well, even tho i love sex for some reason it's almost impossible for me to have an orgasm, what can i do??
OMG! Orgasms are like best thing that could happen! My first orgasm was with my husband. It was the best thing ever. He's real good at it. But he can't seem to make me cum.:( Any advice on how we can make it happen.
first off all when i was 15 i had intercouse BUT i felt nothing and it didnt hurt at all. I didnt know if i was a virgin cause i remember hearing that if you have intercourse your not a virgin. but then someone said if he breaks your hymen your not a virgin. well he didnt break it cause i felt nothing. Now my second question when my bf was fingering me i had this strong feeling and i had him quit i was shakin but i was scared and had him quit. also when he went down on me the same thing happend. And finally when we had sex it hurt but it did start to feel good. I had this strong feeling like i had to pee and i pushed that feeling away. I didnt orgasm with him atleast i dont think so. See im so confused and it all sounds stupid
well, if you had intercourse, (morally) you're not a virgin. (technically) if you're sure your hymen didnt break, the you would remain a virgin (as such).
and the sencond thing, well, that would depend what this 'strong' feeling felt like. if it felt like something was welling up inside you, bursting to get out, chances are, its an orgasm. and the peeing thing....you were about to ejaculate! he must've been quite good...i almost got my GF to do that, but she 'held it in'. shame, really. i wish women would get to learn their bodies more.
sometimes i feel like i know them better than they do.
but remember one thing: if you get ANY feelings you dont understand, just talk to you're partner about it. and usually, its completely natural, and once you understand it, im sure you'll find it a lot easier.
i do hope this helps you.
-johnny
im 17 now, but i started having sex when i was 15. i am able to orgasm really easily if i want to, all i have to do it think about it. but i want my orgasms to be more powerful. are they not as powerful because ive been having sex for so long? how can i make them more powerful during foreplay and sex?
make your orgasms a choice. Or try not to. If you keep the mentality that you can climax when ever you feel like, the moment won't seem so "Heavenly" as it could. Focus more on what's happening, what he/she's doing. And enjoy every bit rather then wait for when you want to cum. Maybe try to fool yourself to believing it's a surprise :]
Also, when Im having sex, I feel like I have to pee. Even though I make sure to go before we start it still feels like i have to. And i sort of tighten up my muscles and hold it back. I cant help it I just do that automatically. Is that a bad thing to do? Could that be stopping me from orgasming? I never have before.
Try stiulating your clitorius during sex with the same rhythm as your/your partners thrusts. I'm someone that can only have clitorius orgasms and doing that reallllly helps.
The peeing problem is to do with your g-spot and/or just plain pleasure. When a g-spot is touched (or almost) you get the urge to pee and also when your muscules are contracting because your enjoying it, that can cause it as well.
I am 18 and i have been having sex for almost 6 months but i havent had an orgasm. Most of my friends that have beed having sex for less than me already have orgasmed. When my guy goes down on me AND fingers me at the same time i shake and have a clitoral orgasm. At least I think thats what it is. I have no idea really. But when we have intercourse, it feels good but my clitorus gets no stimulation and nothing happens. then my guy comes and we stop and i am left unsatified because i want to keep going. Any help??
Its amazing...my currant bf and i were having sex and i could not stop shaking...hes like dont fight it and i had no clue why...well i just let goo and it was soo amazing he go soo turned on she we kept going well i could not stop...i think we counted 6 or 7 orgasiums and hes like holy crap. Afterwards we looked at the bed i socked his bed right through the pillow top mattress!!! I FEEL BAD FOR THE GIRLS THAT NEVER EXPERIANCE IT
I HAVE A PROBLEM GOING A LONG TIME AFTER I HAVE A ORGASM . WHY IS THAT. IF ANY ONE HAVE ANY COMMENT FOR ME ON THIS PLZ E-MAIL ME
I ONLY HAVE ONE ORGASM DURING SEX AND I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE WHILE HAVING SEX BUT SOME REASON I THINK MY BODY IS JUST SET ON HAVING ONLY ONE AND THATS IT NOT SAYING I JUST STOP HAVING SEX BUT I CANT HAVE ANOTHER ONE NOW THE ONLY WAY THAT I CAN IS TO HAVE THAT ONE ORGASM AND STOP HAVING SEX AND WAIT FOR A WHILE AND HAVE SEX AGAIN BUT THEIR IS NO GUARANTEE THAT I WILL HAVE THAT SECOND ONE UNLESS THAT PERSON REALLY DO THEIR JOB RIGHT WHAT CAN I DO TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE ORGASM
I have just starting having sex with a good friend of mine. Never thought this would happen. The sex that we have is the most intense I have ever had (I’m 43) and I am sure that it is the same for him also.
Our sex romps go from 2.5 hours up to 4 hours, almost non-stop. We only do this every 10 days or so.
On our last sex romp it was for about 3 hours, I had multi orgasms. We lost count after 5 or 6 times, he ejaculated 3 times. The orgasms were a combination of vaginal and clitoral. This time it was an early morning romp.
I was rendered useless for the rest of the day. I ended up taking a 2 hour nap after he left.
My whole body felt like jell-o for the rest of the day, and all of the next and even into the third day. I have never had this happen to me.
Is this normal?
I expected to be a little sore because of his size and it had been over a year since the last time I had sex. Bit the tingling sensation in my legs and body is a new experience to me.
Being with him is so incredible. The first time he touched my kitty it was almost instant orgasm. We were in the back seat of a car at lunch time. We proceeded in fooling around (no penetration) and I had 3 more orgasms and I gave him very good oral sex complete with ejaculation.
He does not stop till he knows I can’t take it anymore. He says that he is there to solely please me.
He usually ejaculates with in the first 30 minuets. Then he stays hard and just keeps going. He usually ejaculates twice. The last time we were together he ejaculated 3 times. This was the time that rendered me into the jell-o state for almost 3 days. This is very intense.
This is not a bad thing – but if I had to go to work that day afterwards I would not have been able to.
Why is sex with him so much more intense? Help anybody?
My wife and I enjoy masterbating each other. Afterwards, I love to lick up her juices.
i have never had a orgasm but i would realy like to is there any1 who can help? coz l8ly i've been getting the feeling that its a myth
Try laying in your bathtub with the water running over your clit. try to relax and have a good time
I'm a virgin but i have been masterbating for about 6 years now. When i rub my clit i get a feeling like i have to pee and kind of like i high.. when i keep going I shake and my eyes roll back, but nothing ever comes out. What's wrong? or am i not really having an orgasm?
im naughty and im used to my body so i get orgasms easy. When i have an orgasm im just like the woman in the picture!!
I'm not sure if I've ever had an orgasm. The first time I was being eaten out I had this weird feeling, like I had to pee but after he was done the feeling was gone. Was that the beginning of an orgasm?
i am 15 and know alot about my body compared to most people my age, i masturbated when i was a virgin by rubbing my clitoris and inserting my fingers into my vagina at the same time and very fast which lead to an orgasm, although i can never orgasm by just fingering or just rubbing my clitoris so what orgasm must have i experienced? and am i not orgasming either way because im not patient enough? also recently when i masturbate (not a virgin) in the same way and iv been releasing white fluid (not like water) from my vagina but the orgasm still feels the same, i thought i ejaculated but i am not sure, can anyone give me some answers?
Okay so my o's are a little strange(but feel awesome) For some reason it just like plops out. all this creamy white sticky stuff. but it tastes like water. My bf loves when it gets on his fingers...... is thhis strange?
I only have an orgasm when im on top. I never got one on the bottom or doggy. How can i find a way to achieve orgasm in other positions??
im not sure when im having an orgasm cuz when i get going, and its just his fingers, its like i cant handle it. I make him stop it almost hurts and feels really good at the same time. is it an orgasm...why cant i let it go all the way through?
I am not sure if I have ever Orgasmed....But I really want to "get there". My BF always wants to ge t my there but i just can't. But when he is actually touching my clit it gets to the point where i can't even move and I'm shaking..is that an orgasm? But I'm sure I've never had a vaginal orgasm.....how do i get there...HELLLLPP!!!
I am not too sure if i ever had an orgasm, that will be clitoral orgasm because for sure because i have never had a vaginal orgasm. when my boyfriend plays with my clitoris i am highly stimulated and i even fell like peeing myself, actually i did on one occasion which was so embarrassing. What am i doing wrong?
Orgasm can be separated from every other pleasure. And about the pee: that wasn't pee... it was female ejaculation! But if you're still afraid of it, go empty your bladder right before sex. If you have peeing stimulus again, it's obviuosly not pee, so let it go! It will shoot out with a big force, but don't worry about it. That's female ejaculation. Your G-spot is probably stimulated through your clit. You can find an article about female ejaculation on this site.
It's a bit hard to describe orgasm. It's like a very strong feeling. But I think you know if you have one.
I have a few questions actually. First of all is it possible to have stage fright when with a partner, could this hamper whether or not you cum? I am a frequent masterbater and i know what an orgasm feels like, but it seems like i can never have one wiht a partner, could this be becuase i masterbate too much and am so used to the way i do it. My patner does a good job and sex feels good.... and i would even say he does it right so i dont understand why he cant get me off, even when he only does oral i never get off. Am i thinking too hard about it? I cant help but feel dissapointed when i do not get off. also, i shake alot durring oral, is this a sign of cumming? is there a difference between cumming and orgasming?
Try putting a pillow under your neck and letting your head hang over the edge of the bed, so your head is almost upside-down. This makes more blood flow to your head, which should give you a bit of a headrush so you don't think too hard about it, if you think that's what the problem is.
Or if you want to do it your own way, you could try rubbing your clitoris while he gives you oral; best of both worlds, right?
there is a difference between "cumming" and orgasming... you can get "wet" during oral sex and actual intercourse, wich some consider cumming.. but an orgasm is completely different with the eyes rolling back, and you feeling retarded for a minute, but with the leg shaking situation, all my boyfriend has to do is touch me and my legs shake, its just you being really horny, if you orgasm, you will know it.. trust me..
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