Anal Intercourse
There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger inserted into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may find the insertion of a sex toy or penis very arousing and stimulating. This section contains all the essential guidelines for enjoying anal intercourse.
Getting Started
Some people are not very open to experimentation with this body part, as they are scared that it will cause great amounts of pain, or the whole thought of it is grosses them out. In any event, make sure to communicate with your partner to avoid bad reactions. If your partner refuses, don’t try to force them, it will be a horrible experience for them (and ultimately for you) if they are not comfortable with the idea.
If you are trying to convince your partner to explore this world, using something as large as a penis is definitely not the way to get started. You should start by getting them comfortable being touched in the area, then move up to using a finger or two, and then, when ready, finally moving up to intercourse. Please refer to the anal fingering to please women, or prostate stimulation to please men sections to learn more about anal play, plus using anal sex toys and analingus. Until your partner is ready to receive, their anxieties will cause their anal sphincter to tighten, and trying to push through will be extremely painful, so be patient!
Cleanliness is essential with virtually all forms of this type of play. A bath or a shower is a great primer, and can be the start of the festivities. Once your penis or sex toy has been inside the rectum, don't put them inside anywhere else until you have washed them. Carelessness in this regard can cause a very serious infection. Make sure to use copious amounts of a good lubricant, and start as slowly as possible the first few times.
The Largest Misconceptions of Anal Intercourse
Most people believe that anal intercourse hurts and that it is always an uncomfortable experience. This is quite simply false. As with any form of intercourse, the anus, like the vagina, must become used to the activity. Any woman who remembers her first time having sex probably recalls a painful experience. In fact, the first couple of times were probably painful and not that enjoyable. Did they stop having sex? In almost all cases, they didn’t. Anal intercourse falls under the same guidelines for both genders; it takes practice to get accustomed to the activity. Pain is usually a sign that something is being performed incorrectly, not that the act is wrong. In most cases pain is due to a few reasons: the receiver is too tense and tightening, the giver is pushing too hard, there isn’t enough lubricant, or that the penis or toy is still too big to put in (based on current experience levels). Using fingers and smaller toys is the best way to get used to the feeling, and it is advised that you increase size a little at a time. Once you have become comfortable with the idea and concepts you will probably find it very pleasurable.
The 5 Major Guidelines
Always use a lubricant. Unlike the vagina, the small amount of mucus a rectum produces is completely insufficient for anal intercourse. Therefore anal penetration should always be accompanied with an ample supply of lubricant. Water-based lubricants are latex-compatible and highly recommended.
Stop immediately if your partner asks you to stop. If your partner is too tense to experiment, all forms of anal penetration will cause a great deal of pain. We are not saying to stop trying completely, just don’t push yourself onto your partner, as this will only result in a bad experience for them, and make them less willing to try again.
Take it slow. When experimenting with anal sex for the first few times, go slow. There is no rush and if you take your time you will probably both enjoy the experience. There should not be a great deal of forcing required. If lubricated properly, an object should slide in somewhat easily. We recommend using your fingers ahead of time to loosen them up first for the first few times.
Sufficient desire alone does not guarantee pleasurable anal sex. Read the other four points.
Always communicate with your partner. As with any sexual activity, communication is essential. Talk about what you want to do, discuss beforehand your desires, tell your partner what you like and don't like while engaging in anal intercourse. Basically, be open about your preferences and feelings, and, be receptive to theirs.
Understanding the Anus and the Rectum
A minority of men and women respond with orgasms to anal sex without direct genital stimulation. Women probably do so through pelvic muscle contractions - and a small minority through the sheer excitement of being penetrated anally. For men, an orgasm may be experienced because of pressure applied to the prostate gland. They are no doubt responding to indirect stimulation of the penile bulb. Orgasms from anal stimulation are most likely to occur when the participants become thoroughly absorbed in their sensations and fantasies.
The main function of the rectum is to act as a passageway for feces, but feces are not normally stored in the rectum except just prior to a bowel movement. Small amounts may remain in the rectum. This is one of the reasons that it is recommended to use condoms during anal intercourse.
The rectum is not straight - see the sexual anatomy diagrams. After the short anal canal that connects the anal opening to the rectum, the rectum tilts toward the front of the body, sometimes as much as 90 degrees. Then, after a few more inches, it swoops towards the front of the body again. A person can learn about the shape of his or her rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles and body positions and concentrating on how it feels. Make sure the object has a flared base so that if you lose your grip, it won't slip into the rectum and become temporarily irretrievable.
If you insert a finger about one half-inch into your anus and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the two sphincter muscles. There is less than a quarter-inch between them. The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system (voluntary), which means you can tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the autonomic nervous system (involuntary). The internal sphincter reflects and responds to fear and anxiety. It may cause the anus to tense up automatically even if the person is trying to relax.
There is the risk of sphincter tone (tightness) loss over time due to repeated dilation for insertive intercourse. Stool incontinence (poor control) can occur when anal sphincter tone decreases; this problem has to be surgically corrected if it becomes chronic. This is another very good reason to take things slowly and to never force anal intercourse! Everyone's body has different levels of ability to adapt; if anal intercourse remains painful (or even very uncomfortable) then it is probably best avoided - remember, there are still many other ways to stimulate and enjoy the anal area without full intercourse.
Though it is always wise to practice the safest sex possible, this is especially true with anal intercourse. The lining of the rectum is very thin, and can rip if there is too much stress put on it. By wearing condoms, you can greatly reduce your and your partner’s chances of transmitting most STDs.
im 14 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now but i want to do anal. i have tried 3 times before but we cant get it in and i just move away from him because it really really hurts :( Help anyone??
xxx
Just as him to go slow then use lube you can buy it from any chemist/pharmacy / drugstore and you don't have to be older that 18 to buy them. also use condoms the smoothness really does help (according to my ex) in getting it in. now I'm not bragging but her hole was sooooooo tight (bout 10cm circular at widest). and my ck is 3" wide (at least) so gettin it in was tough but lube, relax and condoms work wonders in getting it in. If the toys don't work also try praying to god for a wider asshole :D
Just as him to go slow then use lube you can buy it from any chemist/pharmacy / drugstore and you don't have to be older that 18 to buy them. also use condoms the smoothness really does help (according to my ex) in getting it in. now I'm not bragging but her hole was sooooooo tight (bout 10cm circular at widest). and my ck is 3" wide (at least) so gettin it in was tough but lube, relax and condoms work wonders in getting it in. If the toys don't work also try praying to god for a wider asshole :D
let him but it in you while he is soft not while he's hard if he goes in you while he is hard it will hurt you more let him go in soft and he'll get hard while he's in you and trust it will feel much better and yes use lube it helps as well and ps put lube in and around your ass and on his dick it will help
Well ur 14? and u want to do anal?
im 13 and my ex bf fingered me and ate me out. He always pressured me to do vaginal and anal intercourse. I think if u use some lube it might help. Just let yourself go. and relax. I use sex toys alot and they help with being comfortable with sex..Try doing a 69 with him and then go into anal. Watch it will help alot i promise
im 15 and if u dont mind me asking ..
how did ur bf tell you (let u know) that he wanted to do anal?
i wana convince my gf to try taking it up the ass but i dont wanna come straight out with it and put her off it forever
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I got her to do it by a little bit of cheeky sweet talking like "babe your ass looks so fine shame my friend can see the same sights or even more" or even " he so lonley he just needs some of (state name here) tasty ass to cheer him up" Make sure you both are in the mood for sex though coz it just sous like ur a peedo or a perv, also I only tried this once we had a stable and warmly random relationship so if she wernt in the mood I knew I was gettin some lovin of my Hunni also becareful how, where and when you say it it works in private cuddling or sitting on ur lap
the key to sex is talking about it. i was grossed out by the idea, but eventually i decided i wanted to try it.. we're still in the beginning stages and it hasn't been great yet, but he makes me comfortable enough that i would like to try again. always be open, comforting, supportive, and if you're good with your hands + tongue elsewhere, she'll likely be open too ;)
Tell her why you want it and make it seem like she would be so sexy if she did..
use a lot of lube, spread your cheeks, use a lubricated condom and start for him by just having him get the head of his penis in and very slowly work the rest, its all about patience, it might take 15 minute just to get half in and you guys may find out thats all you can take
i'll just take it in the pussy... not so brave to tek it in the ass!!!
I am with my first luv.which isn't my first.I want 2 give him the pleasure of bein my first anal experience.I don't know how 2 approach him with this.I am 36 and never had anal sex
Well.. I have wanted to do this for a long time. The idea of anal really excites me, I love pornos with anal etc. My husband and I finally did it the other night and WOW was it great. Here are some of my tips for trying/ preparing for anal.
I do like to give myself a little enema, if when I shower and clean my anus I feel "anything". Then I have a trick that some gay friends told me about. I insert some Preparation H ointment inside my anus. It has some lubricating properties as well as it can "numb" the canal a bit. It comes with a applicator which goes inside you. In addition, it is VERY important that a good amount of lube is used.
Now ladies, this is important, when your man is inserting the head of his penis, push out your sphincter muscle, like you would if you were going to the bathroom. If you do this at the same time he is inserting the head, it helps it to pass through the tight sphincter muscle. Now the man should just stop once the head is in. He should reach around and stimulate the clitoris and let the woman determine the amount of movement. Basically just stay put and let her move back and forth to control penetration. The man should be stimulating the clitoris the entire time if possible. Ladies, do not forget how important it is that you really let your mind relax and think sexy thoughts. Maybe you are imagining that you are with 2 men etc. Done correctly, with a "hot" movie playing, this experience can be AMAZING. Good luck !
so I have been with my present girlfriend for roughly 6 months and have been sexually active for a while, but we had yet to try anything anal related. she hadn't had a seriously sexual relationship before so she is new to a lot of things and i knew she wasn't necessarily open to the idea of anal.
my best advice is to start in small steps by using different methods to tease her. the easiest method i believe is to try analingus on her. when you are performing oral on her, tell her there's something new you want to try, and lightly lick the bridge between her vagina and anus. if she responds well, keep going and lightly lick her anus. i promise, there are no bad tastes or smells. i honestly was a little nervous to try it with my girlfriend, but she responded amazingly well to it, and i don't find it repulsing at all.
if she's comfortable with that and enjoys it, ask her to bend over in doggy style and perform analingus while fingering her. she'll love it.
it just takes patience. don't expect to rush this all in one night. take your time and let her adjust to the new experiences. a type of fingering you can try it using your index finger to finger her anus and your ring finger in her vagina or visa versa. most certainly use lube.
all these are good techniques to help her adjust to the idea of anal. i knew that if i told my girlfriend i wanted to perform analingus on her she would have been hesitant because the idea doesn't really sound appealing, but trust me if you're girlfriend is sexually open to new things she'll love it.
when she is finally ready for anal sex and prepared [like taking a warm shower ahead of time and such], i found that the best position is for her to lie on her chest completely flat on the bed and spread her legs. her anus muscles will be very loose and you have complete control of how slow to go.
most important thing is communication. make sure she's ready and ask if she's in pain and if she's okay consistently. hope these tips helped!
My hubby is so large and the only way we can do anal is if i am numb first. it may b numb but i still get all the pressure...i like it but i want to not have to use hte numbing stuff so any advice is greatly appreciated.
how about just ask him to go slower and not pound you. maybe even if he goes slow for a while then speeds up it wont hurt so bad. Also you have to be really relaxed.
thanks for the advice
Have tried anal intercourse, but only with my current BF of 6 years. It is tight, alot of lubrication is needed and we always don't have a condom on hand. My BF does pound hard and it is painful at times this, despite the fact that after a hot bath and solid fingering before we proceed. I must say that I do have the ability to reach orgasm if I am f.ckd in the a..s, but I would rather have a load down my throat....it's more exciting.
Okay, I've read all that was said about preparing and performing anal sex however, my concern is will my anus go back to the size it was before or will it stretch out and stay that way? Nothing I read says anything about anus stretching and returning to its size or if this really happens --please anyone/someone help ease my concern with this --this is the last piece of information I need before I can actually feel comfortable and ready for my boyfriend to introduce me to this form of sex. I am ready and willing however the idea of my anus stretching and staying that way is stopping me. Help!
Your anus, isn't going t stay that way. While the backdoor wasn't designed for it, neither was the mouth. As long as proper precautions are taken, and the giver is gentle until the receiver is ready and plenty of lube is used, you will not experience permanent stretching.
With that said, you might experience some leakage directly afterward, this is normal and nothing to worry about. Just clean up the area and don't worry.
Ok I hear your concerns. The best for you would be like what I did. I let my BF start off very slowly, plenty of lubrication, fingering and a hot bath before a session. I think restrict yourself to like twice a month and as your anus opens up you can than decide if you are comfortable.Thus far I have not had any anal strech other than the normal strech thats bound to occur. Remember your a..s hole is not designed for sex but if done in moderation can be a wonderful experience.I dont know the size of your BF's c..k and his pounding habits, but mine quite a size (8") and his pounding habits are agressive. To overcome this I used different positions before going for "doggy style", which is sometimes still painful. Overall having anal sex for almost six years now, my (once a month), ass hole is still in shape and I do enjoy the penetration.Good Luck.
I would like to try anal sex but I'm scared that I would poop everywhere and this would be my first time so any tips or advice would be helpful
there is the risk of sphincter tone (tightness) loss over time due to repeated dilation for insertive intercourse. Many receptive partners experience stool incontinence (leaking of stool or poor control) when they have anal sphincter tone decrease. This, needless to say, is very bothersome and uncomfortable and has to be surgically corrected if it becomes chronic.I COPY paste0this info from another website because it is very helpful to know the medical facts too. www.wwu.edu/chw/ask_the_doc_old/post/1-1000/0599.html
check it !! u learn what u need to know
no...you wouldn't poop everywhere. You would know way before that you would have to go to the bathroom. I've had anal sex and never has a women had that issue. If you are that concerned get an anal toy and use that for awhile to get used to the idea.
I have wondered for quite some time:
If a female has hemroids, and engages in anal sex, how would the hemroid condition be affected?
my girlfriend and i were doing doggy in the dark
and i accidentally stuck it about an inch in her ass..
she yelped and told me it hurt so bad that she NEVER wants to have anal.
im sure that if this wouldnt have happened she would be willing to work our way up to it someday...
id really like to try it
advice??
have you tried just reassuring her that if it was planned, and you did preperation beforehand it would be a better experience????
My husband has been wanting to have anal sex for many years and I have finally thought about it long enough and I'm willing to at least try. My husband and I decided to read up about it and it kinda made me not want to anymore. I saw that most people are saying they either have to use an enima or constantly feel the need to go to the restroom or it ends up "messy". Does anyone have any better experiences or advice? I know that it is going to be uncomfortable at first, but I don't want it to be so bad that I'm never willing to try again. I've read about alot of people saying that they have actually crapped on their partner. To me, that's gross. When my husband and I are having sex I don't want to be worried about that. That should be the furthest thing from my mind during sex and after sex. I just need some advice because I really want to be able to do this for my husband.
My girlfriend and I started anal about a year ago after a year of "I will never do that". You do not need an enema, you may want to shower if you recently had a movement. I can only rememeber one messy session, normally afterwords there is no brown stains on me, and no need to wash up. I prefer some natural odor, as I do not like eating a soap bar. You will start off nervous and clumzy. First don't go straight at it. Start off with lots of oral and regular vaginal penitration, add some fingering and anal licking. When you think you are ready, have him lub up with some KY(not too much as that may cause him to slip out), he will need to put some slight pressure on your anus and you can guide him in buy reaching around with your hands and slightly opening your behind. At this point just totaly relax and let him slide in. He should start off slow then let him in all the way. I can now pound my GF as hard as I can and she loves it. She can cum in either the cowgirl or me on top positon. Go for it and your hubbie will never look at another woman and will want to cream your behind every night....you will love it too....
I'd only do it, if you want to do it yourself also. Its not something you should feel pushed into.
Get him to start off small, with fingers etc. Once you're used to one finger, he can try two, and you can eventaully move up to sex. Remember to lube up lots.
Thats what my bf does, and there is no pain involved at all. It feels a little odd at first, but not uncomfortable. I really quite enjoy it ;-)
If you're worried about it though, you're likely to be tense, and thats gonna make it hurt.
As for any after effects, it feels slightly sore I find, for a couple of hours, afterwards, but nothing that is too bad. If you're worried about that, I'd try it during an evening, as opposed to morning/afternoon sex, so that you have a chance to sleep any ouchyness off.
It can be good fun if you approach it with the right frame of mind. If you're not really turned on, relaxed and prepared though, I imagine it could be horrible.
My wife and I both really enjoy anal sex sometimes. Prior to meeting her I had never had anal sex and it was something that she enjoyed. Lot of preliminary ass play with a lot of licking everywhere helps. Lube if you need it. The receiver must control the penetration initially and if it begins to hurt you stop, pull out, or whatever she says. You want to slip the head in then stop, she says there is an intense reaction that takes place in the first few seconds and you need to wait for it to stop. I always slide in very carefully and stop if there is any reaction.
She is always careful to be very clean before sex period since we both enjoy oral, but I have noticed she is particularly clean when she wants anal. I normally don't know that she wants anal until she gets me behind her doggy style and suddenly she will drop her hips so there is no where else for me to go. I get so damn hot then that I just about bust.
Take lots of time, do lots of ass play to each other so you both know how it feels, and tell him no ramming games.
If you don't trust him to not ram then you mount him and control the insertion and pace, stop if it hurts, keep just the tip in and play there for a while. If thats all you can take the first time, stop , clean him well and let him cum in you vagina or mouth. there are still times where that is all she wants and I'm so damn hot that I explode anyway
i find anal sex the most enjoyable.
I am not sure if anyone can shed any light on this. Me and my husband use to enjoy anal sex quite regulary. I had no problem with him inserting etc. I really enjoyed it. I then fell pregnant and after i found that it really hurt no matter how much forplay, lube etc that we used. This pain has gone on for 5 yers now and i really cannot bare it. I want my husband to feel his pleasure again and i also want to feel the sex at ease like i use to. Is there anything other than lots of lube and foreplay that we could try. The last time we tried i was screaming silently as i did not want him to know how much it was hurting. When i cleaned up i realised that i had been bleeding. We also find that it gets really messy (before and after the pain started) is there anyway we could limit this???
Tried it once with my wife and felt very uncomfortable with it. C**k just would not penetrate and when I tried to force it in she screamed in pain. We tried different ways and lubrication, but I guess if it was not meant for me or us then we rather keep away from it.Besides, infection can easily set in after asking various health professionals, but if any one has a suggestion maybe We would go back to the drawing board.
To follow up what I said it is strange but somehow my greatest turn on before sex is a naked ass. As this is a painful experience for my partner as far as penetration is concerned, I normally start off my foreplay by rubbing my erect shaft between her ass cheeks.I must say that I have to play it very carefully as there were many a times I exploded over my partners asshole and although she found it kinky, it is a bit unfair on my side to have a one sided cum.
My advice would be to buy something like Anal Eze (desensitizing lube) and start her off with a small buttplug. Anal Eze will make her anus less sensitive so the initial actions won't be so uncomfortable. Also, buttplugs are a great way to stretch her out a bit in preparation for anal sex. Check out extremerestraints.com and look at their lubes and buttplugs (there are plenty of other good places to buy these things, but I'm just going from experience).
Thanks Debob19.
Managed to get Anal Eze and a suitable butt plug. Used the stretch technique for a few days and the Anal Eze gives my wife an anesthetic effect. After about two weeks, and on her insistance, I finally started off slowly applying alot of lub and now six months down the line a new avenue has opened up. We regularly do anal,but we do it clean (she cleans up throughly). However my wife does not want me to use a condom, nor does she want we to withdraw when ejaculating and I find that as soon as I'm done most of the semem drips out over her vagina and she prefers to then masturbate herself to cum .( If she has not yet cum when I ejaculate in he "a" hole.) Anal sex is fun, we enjoy it and it's especially stimulating for my wife.
we're a pretty kinky couple. and have done practically everything. BUT anal. i feel so bad, because its his favorite thing in sex. and all he wants is to cum in my ass. just once. but the pain is so unbearing. a few months back, i let him try. we just slowly started out. and it got to the point of no pain. but it just felt too weird, like i had to use the bathroom. i didnt like it at all. so we stopped for a while.
but for about a month now. we've been using my vibrator for anal, while i played with myself. and it felt fantastic. i absolutly loved it. so we decided to try anal again..but no. the pain was too much. i couldnt stand it. he got in, and was so close to coming. [of course i was biting everything i could, with the pain that i felt.] but he slipped out. and there was no was he could go back in.
i bled as well after that.
now, im so confident to try it. all i want to do is let him have anal. but it HURTS doing so. i dont know what im doing wrong.
ive done it on my back, and stomach, doggy everything..it just hurts. the vibrator is fine..but his penis isnt..hes above average as well. so it takes more time to get used to it..or stretching myself out..
i dont know what im doing wrong. all i want is the pain to stop..we've pretty much done everything reccomending..taking time, lots of lube..everything. idk what the hell is wrong with me..SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!!
haha i even wanted to try drugs, maybe that would've helped me relax. :P
To Destiny808,
Anal takes a bit to get used to as I'm sure your aware by this point. It sounds like your having trouble relaxing to the point where its comfortable for you so I'll pass along the info that I know and you can try anything you haven't tried before:
Start small and build up, its like any form of stretching, you can't do the splits right now and forcing it will hurt. So start small, a finger, two fingers, plugs etc. until you've reached the point that you can handle his girth.
I reccomend buying a set of plugs in various sizes from very small up to the size of his penis so that you can slowly adjust from one to the other.
Theres no such thing as too much lube, use lots and I mean lots. when you think you've got enough, double your amount. I reccomend KY warming gel, as it creates a soft warming sensation that makes it easier to relax (think how taking a hot bath relaxes your muscles, same principal)
Make a soft gentle atmosphere. Make sure you're very comfortable, make sure the settings exactly ideal for you relaxing. play some soft classical music, spray some perfume you like the smell of, take a hot bath, do whatever you need to do to be as relaxed as you possibly can.
Another method is using an inflatable dildo. the main stressful part (and therefore tightening) part of anal is getting it in in the first place, so get a inflatable dildo, put it in and slowly expand it inside, stretching you out without the stress of the penetration.
Anal sex can be extremely enjoyable, it can put pressure on the gspot as your doing it, also its taboo and your doing something "naughty" which adds a certain spice to the situation.
I hope this helps! Your lovers a lucky man, most women won't even try it out little less go through that much trouble for it.
that you so much. its means alot getting help.
im going to try relaxing more. i think thats the problem. since ive gotten to the point of thrusting without hurting. i just cant get there again. >.<
but i'll use these tips. and i think your right that i do need more lube. we just bought a warming one, so im sure it'll help. :)
thanks again.
<3
I posted this for someone else as well: Anal Eze desensitizing lube (I feel like a salesman, they should be paying for all the advertising I'm doing lol) works very well. It does exactly what it sounds like: desensitizes your anus, so it's less uncomfortable and doesn't hurt.
the problem with Anal Ez is that, if you are experiencing pain, then something is wrong, if you deaden the sensation, he can get in easier, but might injure you without knowing.
ok so my fiance and i were talking and the discussion of anal came up and she began to open her mind and to my surprise without me even suggesting anal or asking if shed do it she said shed be open to it and we decided we may try it tomorrow night when we have our time together which is hard to come by with our work schedules shes very tense and gets nervous and i want her to be very relaxed and ready what is the best way to approach this
i am a gay guy. me and my boyfriend of course have to have anal sex cuz i dont have a vagina or anything. make sure to use lube and RELAX and if u really wanna pleasure him as his cock is in ur ass tighten ur asshole with ur muscles and with really be happy =)
my boyfriend's interning in another state for a few month, and during a recent telephone convo, he expressed the desire to to have anal when he comes to visit in a few weeks. I've never done anal before, and though I want to please him, I'm very nervous about it. should I warm myself up, by fingering my anus, with lubrication, and getting myself accustomed to that sensation/ feeling before he returns? He'll only be here for a few days, so I want to make sure i'm ready for when he gets here....thoughts?
i heard that when u do this...that s**t will come out and go every where....is this true???
help me becuz i really want to try this but this worry is holding me back.....
ok. im going to try this.
well. my boyfriend and i Would like to try this. but i would like to know how i can make it to where i can not be so nervouse and we can both enjoy this. Please can anyone help me?
Reducing one's anxieties when first trying something new sexually requires a very loving partner whom you trust completely. I believe you need to become completly relaxed before attempting anal intercourse at any time. You should carefully plan your first attempt.
I suggest you first do those things that ordinarily put you in the mood for sex.
Next, get into the shower with your man and message and touch each other. Guide his hand to the places on your body where you want him to touch you.
Ask him to use his fingers to fondle your buns and your anus. This will excite him as he now knows you are willing to be penetrated there.
Ask your man for a message to relax your muscles and prepare you physically. You can use lotions or baby oil or what feels good on your body.
Once your ready, ask him to lubricate your anus with Astroglide, K-Y or something you like. He needs to take time to do this right. You will also want him to gently enter your anus with first one finger then two. This will help open you there.
Help your man put on a condom and lubricate his c*ck from top to bottom. Take time to make sure his c*ck is very well lubricated. Use as much lubricant as you think you need. You want to use as much as you need and not too little.
At this time, I ask my lady to get down on all fours. I do not knee down but instead get on my haunches behind her and enter her gently going in only as far as the glans. If she relaxes and opens up, I gently push in slowly. I limit my motion but try to gently move in and out.
My lady and I do not normally have wild orgasms when I f*ck her anally. We do this both to give us variety in our sex lives and also to give and receive the special feelings that come with this kind of physical intimacy.
Sex is about mutual pleasure and fulfillment. You are the person being f*cked. Let him know what you are feeling and ask him to stop if it's uncomfortable in any way.
ALR
Is it suppose to hurt after your first time n' bleed or is that a sign that you need to go too the hospital
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