Threesomes – Guide to
Some people are attracted to threesomes for reasons similar to those enjoying group sex (but with just one less partner) – and some for other reasons. There are those simply looking to ‘try it all’ - perhaps during their more experimental college years … or those recently divorced after significant years of marriage (particularly those who married very young and missed out on the experimental years) and looking to spread their sexual wings by stepping outside the norm. There are also very sexual men and women who are just looking for more variety, and merely want/need more than the typical one-on-one sex act - at least once in a while.
A threesomes is a more intimate and ‘personal’ version of group sex with some unique characteristics, and so merits its own separate consideration.
Before reading this article further we recommend you check out our Introduction to Multi-partner Sex, then come back here to read-on for the specifics relating to threesomes.
Definition
A threesome is the act of one couple with an additional individual (or just three individuals) performing sexual activity together. A grouping of more than three lovers is described as ‘Group Sex’.
Difference between 'threesomes' and 'swinging' or 'polyamory'
Threesomes can be an aspect of Swinging or Polyamory, but it can also be different in that it does not require any of the participants to be in relationships with one another (whereas swinging and polyamory does). However, being a couple can be advantageous in getting a threesome initiated by inviting someone else to simply join in.
Different types of threesomes
The most common threesomes involve men who are looking to fulfill the fantasy of being with two women at the same time, especially if the women perform bi-sexual acts during the course of the threesome (otherwise known as ‘show time’)! There are also women who want to experience being with two men at the same time (not as uncommon as you might think). However, there are also threesomes consisting of the same sex (i.e. 3 men or 3 women). There are also threesomes that include bisexuality, and those that don't; some just want to experience their partner in a physically intimate situation with another person.
Why would someone initiate a threesome?
In addition to the points explored in our 'Introduction to Multi-partner Sex'...
A man or woman might be looking to please their partner by fulfilling his/her fantasies or bi-curious tendencies, and so agree to a threesome with another. Then, there is the bi-sexual person who is simply looking for that occasional excitement of a threesome.
For many bi-sexual women, having sex with a man is like having dinner ... it is something you have regularly. However, having sex with a woman is like having dessert... something you treat yourself to occasionally!
Swingers (defined as otherwise monogamous partners who have some level of sexual contact with one or more other people) will often enjoy any kind of an orgy, including threesomes. Also, a person who is looking for a lot of attention and wants to be the so-called ‘meat in the sandwich’ is a prime candidate for initiating a threesome.
Pros and cons of threesomes
In addition to the points explored in our 'Introduction to Multi-partner Sex'...
For very sexual people, or for those who are bi-curious, a threesome can genuinely be an electrifying experience. For the couple, most of the advantages and disadvantages are very similar to those experienced in full-blown group sex, but in a more limited way. Threesomes can be a great ‘intro’ to group sex, giving new participants a feeling of greater control as they explore options away from monogamous sex.
Also, some people simply prefer the distinct feeling of a threesome – whereby the intimacy of monogamous sex is more retained, while including just one other person is an additional thrill.
One option of a threesome is to make one person the star, and let that person lay back while the other two devour him or her, making the person who is receiving at the time feel like a real prince or a princess! A great idea for a birthday present too! However, it’s nice to take turns receiving and giving, so that everyone gets a turn to be a prince or a princess.
But how does the outsider - the ‘guest’ - fit into the equation? Being the outsider in a threesome can be a great position to be in, because there is no love or emotion involved; you are there exclusively for the sex act. In most cases, the guest gets treated like a princess or prince, because the guest is the source of exhilaration and variety for the couple. Many times the guest is the couple’s fantasy come true, and that’s a pleasing feeling for the outsider. So, if you like a lot of attention, and if you like to fulfill other people’s fantasies, definitely consider being the guest in a threesome.
The most common difficulty in being the guest in a threesome is when he or she is participating with a couple who has never had a threesome together previously; this especially the case if you are the female guest where the wife/girlfriend is not bi-sexual or bi-curious, and the husband or boyfriend tries to push a bi-sexual act on his partner when she’s really not into it! That can really put the female guest in a very uncomfortable situation - and easily cause upset between the partners.
In other cases, one partner might start to get jealous watching his or her partner having sex with another person – especially if they feel left-out, which obviously results in making it a distressing situation for everyone involved. Needless to say, the guest can end up feeling responsible! A crucial rule is to make sure that no one gets left out! Too often a spouse gives more attention to the guest than his or her partner … no, no, no! Always make sure your partner gets just as much attention as the guest does! Not doing so can literally end a marriage. An easy solution is to take turns in giving and receiving, and be aware of how much time you spend on the guest; when it’s your partner’s turn to be the prince or princess make sure that he or she receives the same amount of time from you, maybe even a little more.
Conclusion
For those of you who are planning a threesome for the first time and have absolutely no clue as to what to do ... believe us, when you get right down to it, most of it will come naturally!
The beauty of threesomes, especially when Bi-sexuality is a part of it, is that each participant can almost always be giving and receiving at all times. It’s an incredibly hot experience that we believe everyone should at least consider trying ... at least once in their life!
We hope you have found this guide useful in making an informed decision as to whether this type of MPS sex is for you – or not. If you’re looking for more information regarding alternative choices, please refer to the rest of our related Multi-partner& Alternative Lifestyle articles, plus our highly active and informative Forum.
Threesome is a great way of having sex with a lot of fun attached. I prefer a 1m2f so does my gf. Of course I let my gf choose the willing partner and thusfar she has always come up with one that enjoys the clean fun that is associated with it. The thing that I normally avoid is anal intercourse, but when it come to lesbian acts on the 2f I really get turned on. Obviously I have to share my c**k between two females and depending on who wants what I normally alternate between oral and virginal.Well as for my cum normally it is shared almost equally, whether ejaculated on there body, p***y or in their mouths.
It's a good choice to try out a threesome. I can tell you it's real fun especially if the other partner is female. Why not ask one of your friends and say you willing to share abit. I am sure you'll get one and besides you'll know the person in question, health habits, cleanliness etc. There are many a girls who fantasize for a sexual act of this nature and I am sure amongst them must be one of your friends. I don't hold back on my GF 'cause she enjoys lesbian tendencies and thats how she wanted me to share her F partner with me (but only on a threesome). Contrary to what what may happen I think your BF will appreciate you more for exploiting different avenues as many steady GF's wont walk this route. Just be careful though. Take precautions as I thing that you would not fancy your partner to be impregnated by your BF and you you left out in the cold.!!
We have an occational threesome. It's ok, fun and real great especially if I have two woman to contend with. My GF dont mind, but she does not want to be screwed by two males at the same time so thats her right for feeling like that. I guess two woman can do alot in common to one another and then enjoy a single male, but it is somewhat difficult for two man if you not gay to perform sexual explicit acts in front of a single female.My GF tells me it just will turn her off.
we have yet to have a fmf but have done the mfm a couple times and have talked about me doing things with the other m which i wouldnt do any way im not even courious and she told me it would be a deal breaker she likes being the meat
my boyfriend and i want a threesome.
being bisexual just makes you want both sexes. and my bf cant do what a girl can.
we've been looking forever. and we got to the point where we check craigs list. xD
but i just want to find another girl that is willing for a one hitter quitter. no strings attached, and would just have fun.
we just dont know where to look!
mind you im 17 and hes 21. [not that he looks it.]
we've tried almost everything. and no luck.
as a matter of fact as we speak he is out at a gay club looking for a girl. if this doesnt work, i dont know what will. T________T
My gfriend and I have been going out for 7 months and are quite in love. iv always had a fantasy however of having my gfriend with another blokes.. even with previous gfriends; as well as me with 2 girls off course. I haven’t thought of this for 7 months now… but just recently I have been imagining my gfriends with other guys usually random. I would never want my gfriend to leave me, cheat on me or love another guy, but it doesn’t make sense when I think about it I just like the thought of it.
Anyways, recently iv been fantasizing about having a 2M1F threesome with one of my mates (who she thinks is hot). The thought of my friend enjoying my girl is soooo exciting, and my girl taking his c**k and swallowing him cum as well.
I know this guy really wants to “pig roast” a girl and my gfreind is well open to ideas, she got me to shag on a buss nd plenty in public, as well as other things.
But after reading this article im really discouraged, I know I wont be jealous but I don’t wana spoil our relationship…
Any suggestions on goin through with this? I would like to do it so he doesn’t know what is happening but rather the flow nd a few pints took us there
I'm having my first threesome in a couple weeks. It will FFM. This will be the first time for all three of us and my fiance and I want it to be focused on the other girl, so basically have it female centered. Now she's really nervous about it and not very comfortable with me (a girl) playing with her pussy, though she's fine with the kissing and having sex with my fiance (and I'm totally cool with it too). So the question is, what can we do if we're limited in such a way? I know we're going to have a good time no matter what we do and I'm hoping the next time I can play with her pussy, but since this is the first time for us all, it would be better to start slow and easy. Any suggestions?
First of all I see you feel cool about your fiance screwing another female. How does she feel about you perhaps screwing with her bf. Now the question..explain to her about a female understanding another females anatomy better than a male.Maybe you ought to be alone with her and perform lesbian acts together just to get it all together. Eventually you will, with her and your fiance be able to indulge in a threesome.This is how we started but it's not routine or else some jealousy may set in and than you got problems. Good Luck and enjoy.
My boyfriend and I have a person lined up for a threesome but arn't sure how to get it started. Anyone have some ideas of a kinky game or something to break the ice?
My boyfriend and I wanted to have a threesome and we were wondering the same thing. Growing up there was this game that always aroused me because I always thought I would be dared to kiss a boy. (I was closeted growing up) So we did a search online for a generator for these sexual dares. We found some good ones and what we did was printing out good ones, a lot, and mixed in pieces that said "truth" to give it a twist. So you cut out all these dares and truths and we folded the pieces of paper and we would start out with drawing from a bowl. That allowed us to get to know the third person and it was really fun. You should try it if you are still wondering how to "break the ice".
You not saying whether the third party is male or female.I as a female enjoy to have two males (normally my hubby and another person) but seeing we normally choose someone who we have a good and non biased attitute I thoroghly enjoy the scenario. You can start off by having it gently where we call it the rhythm style. I position myself to receive vaginal sex and at the same time I perform oral sex on the other one. As we get more into the rhythm, the two males alternate and each one changes position. When the one who is penetrating me, my mouth at the same time is thrust into the c**k of the next one.
We don't do anything elses, besides changing styles and position and for sure 30 minutes of exquiste sex takes place. In the final analysis (with me) I love to swallow semen so it is time that one at a time ejaculates fully into my mouth and when all's over we just collapse in a frenzy. The whole process is easy, enjoyable and very kinky.Don't have any hangup, anything goes so just enjoy it. Depending on your choice don't jump into double penetration immediatly as some skill is required.:)
Lizz
So my boyfriend has recently increased his talk of threesomes. I have only kissed another girl once, when i was drunk. It excites me to think of myself with another girl and him watching but I could DEFINITELY not handle seeing him with another woman. It would drive me crazy and not be good for the relationship, I mentioned this to him and he said all he wants is to see me with the other woman. What are your thoughts on a threesome where the two girls fool around and then only one has sex with the male, is this plausible. Does it pose problems? Is it awkward. Should I do things with the girl beforehand so it is not awkward the first time ?
never shit where you eat, learned that the hard way :(
Y do u have sex with other guys at ur job? I'm confused...
My boyfriend has been involved in multi-partner sex in the past and seems to really enjoy it. It has recently become the topic of conversation. He wants me and another woman with him. What are the rules here? Are there rules? I find women attractive and enjoy kissing them, but as for performing oral on a woman, I'm not so comfortable with that. I also am not sure I am up for my man performing oral or kissing the other woman. Any suggestions???
If you find comfort in kissing another woman, just let your imagination go a little further and let she start performing oral on you first. After a few tries you will find your body adjusting to the enjoyment she has to offer. Thereafter get youself going down on her, and gradually start the 69 position. Once you have mastered the art of oral sex on a woman, start with your BF. Believe you me that it is just a matter of time that you will get oral from him as well. Once you have come to a position of getting relaxed, get the next woman involved and with no strings barred the rules (actually there are no rules...anything goes) just fall into place. Good Luck and Enjoy.As you say you seem to enjoy it so get the maximum benefit out of it.
Lizz
Lizz
WOW how could someone be okay with their husbands penis entering another woman and vice versa and the guy who likes to taste other mens sperm in his wifes mouth, that's f***ing wrong on so many levels, you should just blow your friend yourself you fag.
i am in a relationship with a very sexual woman that i love, but it is my fantasy to have a male get involved as it is my fantasy to see another man take my girlfriend, or see her suck his c**k. i know it is also her fantasy to have two men at the same time but i dont know if she would go for it, although she is a very sexual woman and she can be a kinky and naughty as hell. or she may take offense to it if i ask her and might think i do not love her. i truly love her but it would be such a turn on. i want to ask her if we can try this, but i am embarrased to and would not know how to go about it?
bring it up while your having sex you'll know if she likes the idea then in a few days bring it up again out side the bed room "you know i was thinking about 3some we talked about the other night.I liked that thought. what do you think about it?"
worked for me
I was like that at first. I seemly pop the question and start a conversation of the topic. She at first thought that I was referring to a woman being the third wheel, but was fucking surprise when I suggested a man. She loved the idea and the rest is history. The threesome was so much fun that we try to have one at least once a month or every other.
I really want to try a threesome with my girlfriend as i would like her to be turned on with two c**ks. She had a laugh one night saying we should have a threesome but i don't know if she was being serious.
We tried a different format of double penetration within a threesome which my hubby and I seem to enjoy more and more. My hubby this time as usual the only one who has access to my anus let Male1 lay flat on his back and i then went woman on top of him dropping my vagina onto his, I would say, 9 inch penis. We passionately kissed one another and as my ass was now completely exposed my hubby straddled me from the top ... but mmmm ... no condom this time and he lubricated me well with some olive oil. What an experience!!! LOL :) I hope for more soon.
Lizz
As a variant to having an anal an vaginal penetration, we also tried at a time a threesome 1F2M, but it was all to do with strictly mouth penetration. Those woman who don't mind having two c**ks taken up the same time just be careful as some of our mouths may not be able to accomodate two c**ks at the same time. Although I battled for a while as I am not a "wide mouth", I found the easiest to be is let The c**ks cross over into your mouth and push against your inner cheeks. The culmination of the Cum resulted in me almost gagging so be careful ... you most likely going to get more than your mouth can hold. A better option would be to get a facial ... depends on the individual.
Lizz
We decided again within a day to change the format and indulge in a foursome. 2M 2F. I must tell you that those chosen by us for this purpose were a couple who knew us and know our sexual fantasies,but are not necessarily our house friends. This was a new experience to Dave and myself, but it did culminate in some fantastic orgasms. Everything we fantasized about we performed ... only once again anal penetration on me was reserved for my hubby. We are now contemplating another foursome, but this time it's 3f 1m. My hubby is busy setting it up.
Lizz
My hubby set up yesterday in the afternoon as promised a 3f 1m. This wasn't the easiest of encounters for me as we had to decide on the best way possible so that all three females should get a level of satisfaction from one man. Finally it was decided that my hubby lay flat on his back and I would blow him by facing backwards resting on my knees, and then slowly lowering my c**t onto F1's mouth facing upwards and staring at my mound. F2 then forward lay over my hubby's face and was getting tongued by him. This was a long chain and although all of us did have an orgasm, I think it was only Dave and myself who had double stimulation (a bit selfish on our side). Maybe someone can come with a suggestion of how 1Male will give maximum stimulation to three females at the same time. The only other way I can figure this out, is that 3F need to lay side by side next to one another and in this case Dave penetrates and orals one by one and with climaxing all 3F rush up to gobble his sperm. Problem is we may all not have an orgasm and this may cause some frustration.For now we have decided to skip this type until we can get a proper way of doing it.
Lizz
I suggested a threesome to my wife and she gave me the nod. As she is more content with oral sex she felt that her best option would be to have one of her female friends join us in a threesome, as a woman understands a womans anatomy better. It was, and still is, very stimulating as I have two to contend with, but the other female mostly concentrates on her vagina. At other times I have noticed sperm in my wifes mouth (not mine), I let her enjoy her sex orally and finally we agreed on a threesome again, but this time it was to be an extra male. The key to a threesome is good communication and not feel guilt afterwards. Just enjoy it :)
My hubby did catch me out with traces of semen in my mouth. This was as a result of me having performed oral sex on some of my work partners. I knew my hubby would not mind and that started an extra male in our relationship. We do however change continuously males/females within the threesome and if one takes the necessary precautions than the feelings GREAT!!. We already talking about an extra couple to join us for some kinky but more about that when we get going.
WOW that is so sexy. I love it when my wife gets home from being out and about and proceeds to give me a very sexy french kiss so that i can taste the cum she has swallowed. She sucks off my best friend and another guy from her office on a very regular bases. It is a huge turn on for me. I love to allow her to suck these guys off.
It happened quicker than I expected and last night, instead of a threesome I opted for a four person session. It included my Hubby and two male friends and obviously myself, the only female.
As I would only allow my Hubby to penetrate me in the anus, we set it up as follows. My hubby flat on his back and I was on my back ontop of him. He than entered my rear. The second male than entered my vagina from the front. The third male than had me perform oral sex.
I am no prostitute or porn star but one has to experiment sometimes what one sees in a porn movie. It was a great experience and I think the hightlight of it all was when all three males virtually had an orgasm at the same time. The drawback for me: A lot of cleaning up to do, although I had my fair share of swallowing and eating up most of the semen. Be bold and try it!! - but be warned, get equal sized and gentle males.
Threesomes can be great if all parties are really into the whole thing. My husband and I enjoy an occasional threesome with another woman. The thing that fully commited couples need to remember while engaging in a threesome is that it is all about sex no feelings involved. You and your partner will still have the same great sex together that you had before. The third person will leave and you and your partner will go home together. You have to leave all jealously behind, otherwise you just hurt yourself. You have to remind yourself how much your partner loves you and not the other person.
Bunny
Bunny, one thing you may have not thought about is when the three people love each other. I was in a triad (three person relationship) with my gf and bf, and though the sex was always great, the intensity of emotion of making love to two people you love and seeing them share themselves with each other is almost overwhelming.
Robin
Bunny you are quite right, It is an enjoyable experience and a third party can make a difference. However when the fun is over it's best the other woman parts without making contact with your husband. Could cause a problem. Seeing that a woman was part of your threesome, what's your take on another threesome, and get a male involved? This way you will be able to weigh up the pros and cons. After all you have let your husband do strange things to another woman together with you, now you need to do strange things to another man with your husband involved.
I am in a different situation as my husband allows without reservation over and above threesomes (both ways) me to have two males plus himself, thats 3 - and to put it bluntly have sex with me at the same time in all possible places, i.e. Vaginal, oral and anal. I am geared up for it so I have no problem. I have posted the facts on this page so you may have read it.
Lizz
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