Male Ejaculation/Orgasm
The formal definition of male ejaculation is “the release of semen from the penis”. During sexual stimulation, semen collects in the ejaculatory ducts located where the vas deferentia join seminal vesicles within the prostate gland. When stimulation reaches climax, a spinal reflex causes contractions to the muscles within the penis, urethra, and the prostate gland. These contractions propel the semen through the urethra and out of the tip of the penis. Although male ejaculation and orgasm occur simultaneously in most cases, they are not the same process. An orgasm, specifically, is the rhythmic muscular contractions that are a release of accumulated sexual tension and result in an intensely pleasurable sensation.
The rhythmic contractions occur initially at 0.8-second intervals, just as in women, and account for the spurting action of the semen during ejaculation. The intervals between contractions become longer and the intensity of the contractions tapers off after the first three or four contractions. Semen usually takes a few seconds to appear … ejaculatory inevitability (the point at which stopping is impossible) … because of the distance the fluid has to travel. During ejaculation, the sphincter of the urinary bladder is tightly sealed to keep urine from mixing with the semen, as well as making sure that the fluid travels forward, or out.
There are a surprising 20 million sperm/ml of seminal fluid, and average ejaculation consists of 1.5-5ml. Semen contains aboutonia, ascorbic acid, blood-group antigens, calcium, chlorine, cholesterol, choline, citric acid, creatine, deoxyribonucleic acid, fructose, glutathione, hyaluronidase, inositol, lactic acid, magnesium, nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium, purine, pyrimidine, pyruvic acid, sodium, sorbitol, spermidine, spermine, urea, uric acid, vitamin B12, and zinc -- but all in very modest quantities. Some of this is designed to nourish the semen enroute, while other ingredients are designed to neutralize the acidic environment of the vagina (which would normally be inhospitable to Sperm). In case you are wondering, most of these ingredients are indeed very healthy, and an average ejaculation contains only about 15 calories.
Since orgasms and ejaculation are separate, it is possible to have either without the other.
In situations where ejaculation occurs on its own, there are two main causes. In the first, involuntary ejaculation occurs during sleep, and is known as nocturnal emission (formally) or a wet dream (in slang). The second main cause is known as Premature Ejaculation), which is a sexual condition in which a man consistently feels he has little or no control over the timing of his build up to ejaculation.
Orgasm can occur without ejaculation. Retrograde ejaculation is a condition where the bladder's sphincter does not close off properly during ejaculation, so semen flows into the bladder. It is commonly found in men who have multiple sclerosis, diabetes, or after some types of prostate surgery. Before you get worried, it can also occur occasionally in men who do not have any serious problems. It is not physically harmful, but it can render the man infertile and he may have a different sensation during ejaculation. This condition is also known as a 'dry come' because the man may experience orgasm, but no semen is released from the penis.
There is also a condition known as retarded ejaculation, ejaculatory incompetence, or delayed ejaculation. It is a sexual condition in which a man is unable to ejaculate even though he is highly sexually aroused.
I'm a girl, I'm 19, and I can't squirt.... :(
When you and a guy are having sex, try having him insert tghe head of a drum stick an inch or two inside your vaginal area on top of his penis. Then have him experiment with the way he moves it and tell him how you feel when he does it, i.e. which way feels better, then experiment until he finds the perfect way to stimulate your "G-Spot". Also just relax and enjoy it, don't make squirting your goal, because most likely it won't happen if you're too self conscious about it. Also if you feel the urge to pee while you're having sex, DO NOT hold it in, you are actually getting the urge to ejaculate, not pee.
First a couple of things, I've been reading the comments sayin that guys find it attractive when the girl swallows the cum... I've always learned that swallowing cum is better than spitting it out. When swallowing the cum, ur stomach acids break it down. (u cant get pregnant from swallowing it) but when u spit it out, its a way of transmitting a disease (if there is one) because it can enter thru cuts in ur mouth. My boyfriend has no trouble cuming. Its natural. At first I couldnt give him oral cause I'd gag when I did it. But I learned that deep throating isnt a good way to start off. So I worked my way down and now he enjoys it.
If he has disease, you will catch it whether you spit it out or swallow
Hey guys. I'm 13 and I can get an orgasm but I can come. What age to guys usually start being able to come?
it can be any age from 13 through to 18 or even later, just depends on each individual, so dont worry!
I've give my bf a blow job but could never swallow his come.it has a bitter taste. is this because his a vegetarian??
i heard that you are what you eat, females and males taste better when they eat more fruit..my boyfriend loves to load his food with salt, and his is salty, so my thought is that it could be bitter because hes a vegetarian
I don't think that the fact that your bf is a vegetarian to where it would affect the taste of his semen.
Generally the semen is said to be bitter and not always a treat that everyone likes.
Does he ask you to swallow his cum or do you just do it cause he likes that?
back to the vegan part. Semen shouldn't be affected by his food preferences. Don't take my word on that, but my opinion is the diet shouldn't affect the semen's "flavor".
His diet actually can really affect the way his cum tastes, more acidic fruits and veggies, are more likely to make his cum taste alot better(: So does candy, my bf has a serious sweet tooth, his cum tastes sweeter usually when he's been on a sugar binge for a couple of days(; Some of my friends did a lil experiment with our guys and whatever you do, DO NOT have him eating alot of dairy. Eww is all I can say for me n my guy. Dairy makes my bfs cum taste nasty. Sooo I hope this helps you a lil even tho I jumped a round alot(:
*Sinder3ll@
diet has a big part of the way semen taste..too much red meat makes it salty and bitter same with to many vegitables to much sugar makes it sugery fruit helps alot get your man to eat pineapples it works...the best way to have "good" tastin semen is for a balanced diet..if your vegetarian than use fruit..
Ok, so I have tried many different techniques in handjobs, as well as blowjobs in order to get my bf to orgasm/ejaculate. However, nothing works. We have tried various lubricants, and he has ever showed me how he does it himself, but for some reason when I do it, he just won't cum. When we were having problems with the hanjobs I figured a blowjob would get it for sure, but we're tried that many of times too and none of it works. I thought perhaps he has one of the conditions mentioned in the article, but he told me he has no problem when he masturbates. He says it still feels really good, but its not an orgasm and its not ejaculation. He tells me he is just not into it enough...which I don't understand. Help on why this is happening?? I just want to give him pleasure like he gives me and although he is always grateful, I wish I could give him pleasure the way he gives it to me. Thanks
I've kinda had that happen to me once or twice. I beleive control has a lot to do weather a guy cums. No seceret a guy wants to be in control and if you are doing all the work on him then he might be feeling like he's not the boss, so to speak. When he's masturbating then he'll get that feeling of control, ya know. Do this, lay down on the bed on your side with your head on a pillow and have him basicly fuck your mouth, you can move your mouth a little but let him work his penis in and out. This way he'll be in control of the movements, and let him put his hands on your head to kinda move your head how he likes. I did something like this once and it was awesome, worked great. Look let him cum on his terms not yours, seems like you're trying to give him an orgasm and that's not going to work, it needs to come from him. Make since, let me know what happens, Ok
well with my bf, i am able to get him to come, but he has to relax first....he feels guilty that he is getting all the pleasure.....and he cant give me any at that time(usually "that time of the month" and he isn't crazy about sex at that time) so once i finally convince him that i am having as much fun as he is....and i am enjoying making him feel good....then he can relax enough to climax. it is a tricky thing.....sometimes it takes a while too....but keep practicing.....like others have said....im sure they still enjoy it!
I personally know the position that he is in. I have gotten handjobs and blowjobs from multiple women and I just don't feel like I'm close to cumming. Don't get me wrong. It feels Great! but not enough to get me over the top.
I don't know if this would help, but try putting on some porn while you're giving him a blowjob or handjob. His mind set may be more about being in place as the guy in the porn, thus is what most guys like to do when watching the POV videos.
Try that out and see if anything happens and if he cums. If he doesn't, then have him masterbate in front of you and watch him go. If he doesn't finish off, then he must be embarrassed or just a little conservative about masterbating in front of someone else. I don't know
Just talk with him and see what he's thinking about when you're giving head to him or a handjob. If he's not focusing on you or thinking of some dirty fantasy with you or another person, then get him to watch porn or even try some sexy outfits.
You never know.
girls where do like the cum to go on your body? my gf is having a hard time dealing mith swallowing and suggested other places but it is sexier in her mouth
I do understand of where you're coming from.
Every guy find a girl that swallows our cum is attractive, but most of the time, us guys just want what us guys want.
We have a hard time FULLY understanding what the female mind and body wants.
i say talk to her and find out what is on mutual grounds. you know? talk with her. Whats the worst that can happen? you REALLY find out what she want from you? i don't know.
"But the greatest risk in life is not taking one."
my boyf was my first cock. when i first gave him a blow job i was scared because leading up to that moment i'd heard that sperm tastes horrible and its hard to swallow and there is too much. but actually i found it quite nice. nothing too bad. i've never not swallowed my boyfriends come, and i think some girls make too big a deal out of it. besides, it makes it better for men knowing they're giving u what you want (or what they think you want)
Hey Icant seem to orgasm when my lover and i are being intimate we will be going and going and it feels like im anout to and then it just goes away so if anybody has any ideas on wut i can do let me .
thanks
Shaq1
It may not be that you're not intimate enough but that you may be doing the same thing over and over.
I don't know what you're love life is like but if you do similar positions or similar locations, the spice isn't there.
Think of a really delicious plate of food. I don't care what type but lets just say its your favorite plate. If you were to have it every day for a whole month, you would get sick of it. But by simply changing what is on the plate with the main food, you can eat it every day and still enjoy it.
Think of that with sex. you're still having sex, but try new positions or try to do an all foreplay night or just for him or just for her night. you know? Spice things up.
Maybe trying it in different locations through out the house and possibly in someone elses house. The thrill of getting caught or just being in an unfamiliar environment is SO EXCITING.
Change it up.
my boyfriend has the same problem shaq1 I know how you feel sometimes he just pulls outta me when he feels like hes going to cum and just jerks off
Oh I know! It pisses me off! My ex did this all the time. Its like I don't do it for him.
I know that when were just want to finish off and do it ourselves, its not saying that you are bad at doing it, but we (guys) know what to do. its our penis and we play with it alot. That just how guys are.
We know how we tick and if he pulls out to jerk off cause he wants to finish on or in you, then he'll do what he does best.
Don't take it personal but if it starts to become and issue in your love life with him not finishing in you from sex cause either it was taking too long or he just wasn't focusing. Its always different.
Just communicate with each other. That is the key to anything.
my man and i have a great sex life and are intimate a lot. i can make him cum but jerking him off or giving him head. when we have sex, we go for hours and he won't cum inside me. he pulls out after he thinks i've had enough and then rubs up on my leg or stomach or boobs and gets off that way. i know he has a good time but why can't he cum inside me? i've had other boyfriends do it and it feels so good. am i not doing enough to make him wanna get off inside me?
is there any to cum more? i really want to be able to cum more but am not sure how. i've heard not masturbating is one way bu i don't want to give that up. is there any way? if anyone knows the answer please comment back. thanks, timbo92
hey timbo92 the way that u can cum more is by drinking alot of fluids like juice or water and stuff like that will help ok.
shaq1
I heard theat drinking pinapple Juse or fanta can change the taste of semen, but havn't had the prethought to try it.
Just eat plenty of salt and seafood, carbs and High fatty foods, it helps to make your semen taste like fruit.
if i ejaculate without having an orgasm,i dont feel satisfied.even after having sex for about 1hr with my girl,i still want more.why is that?
Hey,
You're lucky! When you're doing a chick and you cum, but feel no orgasm, you can keep going and you will cum later. These are called multiple orgasms.
The most important is to be open, stot, a bittle if you can, and then go in. it last longer ig\f you ejaucukate one time first. So dont`` "probleize" this."
jus like jack off then stop when u get close keep doing it and tension will build and like 5 times ul be amazed after that lol gf does it to me to get a more shoot out of me
HOW DO I CUM????? sry caps lock
well smithy123. I do not know if you are a guy or girl but I'm a guy and i personally know how to cum. Hehe. sorry. Just a guy thing.
Guy:
Simply keep your mind set in an aroused mood and watching porn helps out but if you have a good imagination, you should be fine. I'm not going to tell you how to masterbate, just some keys to pushing over the top. Keep your mind set focused on sex or arousing topics. If your body is tense, you will cum easier than if your body was relaxed. Thats just how the male body works. Once you feel the semen coming to the tip, keep going. don't stop or else you'll lose the momentum. Once you know you're about to blow, let it out. Thats all I can say.
Girl:
Since I'm not a girl, don't get mad if its not right. Pretty much, get yourself aroused and in the zone. most of the time, the females will have there eyes closed and just taking in the rush of emotions and sexual thoughts. Keep going. Don't stop. Once you've found the "sweet spot" not necessarily the G-spot but lets say rubbing the outside of inserting a dildo. I don't know. Just what ever you're doing and its taking you over the top, KEEP GOING! if you want it harder or faster, then do it harder or faster, but don't change the motion of what you're doing. Most guys that are fingering a girl will changing it up right in the middle of the best part. Like going to the bathroom right in the middle of the sex scene in a james bond movie. you know? it kills the mood and its hard to get back without rewinding. hehe.
So yeah
the biggest things with cumming is the mind set. If you're not there mentally, then the cum won't be spilling out. cool?
My girlfriend has recently started gagging while giving me a blowjob. I asked her what is making her gag and she said it isnt the taste or smell... but the pre-cum that oozes out. she can't take the texture. Any way of helping this other than a condom?
may be her body or her mouth can't take the taste of semen. Not every girl has the same reaction when it comes to swallowing cum. I know my friend's tongue would go numb just from the taste of the pre-cum. So everyone is different.
Just communicate with each other
that is the same thing with my girlfriend.... i will be getting a blowjob and she will stop and when i ask her why she will say im coming.....but i dont feel it.... and it only like 1 drop of cum
its probably cause she tastes the pre-cum. Tell her to keep going. She'll know when you're cumming man. She should feel it in the back of her throat or spilling out of your tip.
communicate with her. She doesn't know what its like to have a penis nor where the sweet spots are and how they feel. So yeah.
Talk with each other. who knows. you may find something out about your sweet spots that you didn't know of before.
when i masterpate and wank just before i cum my legs start to feel funny and a i cant stand up very well is this normal
usually after an orgasm, the muscles that are around your inner thigh, rectum, and the one that holds your pee in are tired cause you just had an orgasm.
It feel funny to stand cause just like a workout, you just used up the muscles. So don't be in a rush to walk and run about if you just cummed. Relax for a sex and let you're body recover for a minute.
well shit, you just had a fun experience. who wants to walk after that? XD
after i cum i dont feel like i want to have sex again, whats wrong?
nothing is wrong man. Its completely normal.
Think of it as a craving for food. Once you have started eating, it feels good and the main craving is slowly going away, unless you eat really fast.
But after you're done eating and you're full, do you feel like eating more? not really. Same thing with your penis. Once you've cummed, its hard to jerk out another one unless you've stored up some for quite some time.
its not wrong its normal
So when my bf and i ave sex he cums like crazy. but when i give him head he DEFINENTLY orgasms but theres no seman...WHAT IS GOING ON???
are you sure he is actually having an orgasm, and is it possible that he recently had an orgasm before because it takes a while to make new semen
So when my man cums he always wants me to swollow.
I hate it soooo much: /
But I do it, any tips on liking it.
you can try the magic berry.it's a plant that makes sour/bitter things taste sweet. you chew it up and for 30min or so it changes the taste of everything. lemons taste like sweet lemonade. no joke. i had an ex that tried it and she said my cum tasted sweet and she wanted to keep it in her mouth (and she didn't like swallowing either). it's legal and they sell it online. wikipedia or youtube 'miracle fruit'.
I used to hate doing it with my ex as well. But if you swallow quickly it's not so bad. You just have to remember that they enjoy it and for me it was worth the sacrifice of tasting it, but of course, that's just me. It's not the same for men if you quit at the very end.
if you dont want to swallow it, you could just let it ooze out of your mouth and over your body. my ex used to do that, never stopped looking hot.
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