Fellatio - Advanced
Take a few minutes to read Fellatio Basics and then come back here to fine-tune your approach. Ok ... so now that you have gathered a good understanding of the basics, here are some more advanced lessons that are sure to knock his socks off!
Lesson 1
Place your guy flat on his back on your bed, in a well-lit room. Take his penis in your hand and LOOK at it. You will notice a point of juncture where the two ends of this irregular circle come together. If your partner is not circumcised, this will also be the point where the foreskin is attached. This tiny area is likely the most sensitive spot on his entire body.
Spend time caressing the head and those areas immediately surrounding it. Beneath the head of the penis (glans) is the shaft of the penis. Apparently, according to people who study this type of thing, the shaft does not have many nerve endings and does not, therefore, provide a man with any high degree of stimulation when caressed either manually or with your tongue to the exclusion of the glans head itself. You can add a high degree of pleasure for him by paying the right kind of attention to the testicles.
So LOOK at your partner's penis. Study it. Learn its areas of special sensitivity completely and be ready to apply your knowledge to his body with your tongue and with your lips when you bend your loving head over his cock.
Lesson 2
The most important thing to do at the beginning of going down on a man is to learn to gauge his reactions to stimulus. Once this is done, you will be able to finish him on demand, thereby keeping the favor from becoming a chore.
While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his testicles in one hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly, but carefully along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you explore along the underbelly you will learn those areas that give him the greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them.
For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where the ring of the head and the foreskin are attached; or were attached prior to his circumcision. Position yourself so that your tongue is in direct contact with the “split” in the glans head, and simply stimulate that area with any variety of motions; circular, back and forth, side to side.
Lesson 3
Place the head of his penis inside your mouth, but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your tongue, begin a circle motion around his head with the tip of your tongue. The head of his penis will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue the circle motion.
The technique is a great transition move between techniques; just make sure to experiment with the whole spectrum of pleasurable pressure, as this is incredibly stimulating just about any way it is performed. You can also incorporate spinning your head in a back and forth motion to add a little extra sprinkle of love.
Lesson 4
Now let’s discuss a technique that is probably the most common in the world; stroking the penis orally. Take his erection in your mouth by sliding your moistened tongue lovingly over the head until your lips close around the shaft, going as far down as you feel comfortable.
Remember the shaft is relatively insensitive to most stimulation, so the majority of the pleasure is coming from the head of his penis coming into contact with your tongue, roof of the mouth, and or the throat. Since keeping it in contact with something at all times can be difficult, a short and gentle stroking motion can provide a significant impact.
Lesson 5
Wouldn’t it be great if there was a little gauge somewhere that can give you some feedback on how you are doing? Good thing it is exists!
When a man is in a relaxed state, his scrotum and testicles hang freely. As the state of arousal increases, the scrotum will tighten, pulling the testicles closer and closer towards his body. This is a natural process geared at preparing the contents of the testicles for mobilization.
Even better news… his state of arousal, represented in part by his scrotum, can be directly affected by manually and orally stimulating his scrotum. Although you definitely do not want to play rough with his testicles, it can be a welcome change of pace if your neck or arms are getting tired.
Lesson 6
An oral ejaculation is not always a welcome event, especially when it’s not being expected. Although it’s not recommended to cut off the flow entirely, the flow can be reduced by applying pressure to his urethra, found along the entire base of his shaft.
Lesson 7
One of the first problems encountered when learning to perform fellatio was a gag reflex, especially when dealing with men who seem to always want to force their penis as far as they can get it in. (Especially at the moment when they cum!)
According to the statistics, the awkwardness of this situation is confirmed by considering that the average length of your oral cavity is three to three and a half inches while the average penis, in North America, is approximately five and a half inches.
As difficult as it may sound, many have overcome the gag reflex and can take most if not all of their partner into the land of deep-throating. Getting over this hump simply takes practice, ideally on an object that isn’t attached to something that has the tendency to push deeper when you want to abort...
If your partner doesn’t fall victim to the urge to palm your head like a basketball, live training can work... but if all else fails, a popsicle can be a good starter. Just remember to give yourself time to overcome the reflex, rushing this skill will only lead to uncomfortable situations.
In Closing
If you follow these instructions we imagine that you will have the guy in your life eating out of the palm of your hand, or at least eating out of something...
Be safe, and equally important, ENJOY, because that is the most important part.
Try some - or why not all - of the above techniques and neither of you will regret it. Techniques like this are sure to help him achieve an amazing Orgasm!
I am an 18 year old virgin, but I have given head before. I started giving head to my boyfriend of 3 years about a year and a half ago. But I still gag quite frequently. Does anybody have any tips on how I can suppress the gagging?
Honestly I'm 15 and obviously I was nervous my first time giving head to a guy but after that first awkward, learning experience, you really can't go wrong. Guys will clearly show their level of stimulation through basically any noise he makes, whether it's "don't stop" or "oh god". If you want some tips, you can never go wrong by taking your time. Don't rush into it. Make sure you lick everywhere (seductively) so that when it's time to actually "go down" it isn't any harder than need be. Guys really like when you play with their balls lightly while you are sucking. I like to lightly kiss down his stomach until I reach his shaft and I slightly suction around the base with my mouth. I lick from the base to the tip, and take the head in my mouth and suck. While my mouth is suctioned around his head, I twirl my tongue around, and do figure eights. Then after all that, I start to go down on him slowly and gradually pick up my pace. Most often the guy will want to go faster, which isn't always easy to comply with but do what you're most comfortable with. And ladies, don't spit. That's just stupid. It's already in your mouth.
Most of you girls think too much, you over analyze stuff and you ask stupid questions, you already know what you need to do, but you can’t learn it just by reading, you actually have to put it to use and then, only then, move on to new, more advanced information – learn and get better step-by-step and stop being that insecure about yourself. Yes, there are a bunch of girls out there that are “secure” about themselves in the sense that they think they can give great bjs – but they’re crap in reality, the thing is that even THAT is better than being insecure about everything you’re doing. And when it comes to techniques, Jack's Blowjob Lessons is the best place to learn it.
Im 16, and ever since my first sexual experience with a guy when I was 11 made me become addicted to the thought of sex. When I was 15 I experienced my first real blowjob an the way it made me feel was amazing. I got so wet off of just the mind blowing pleasure I was giving to him. After my first time I ended up wanting to experiment more. So a few bfs later I was an expert. But I came on this website searching for more ways to experiment, but now im stuck because I already knew everything that this website offers and more just by imagination, anyone want to offer me some new tricks:)?
I have a friend who I have known for awhile now and he and I love each other but we can't technically be together. Anywaayyy, he loves when I give him head because I ENJOY it. He says he hates head from other girls because they don't really get into it and they don't swallow (like moi). And they don't give attention to his balls.
A technique that I "accidentally" discovered one night is actually really great for him. It's suction. So what I do is I suck really hard on the head of his penis, then a little more of the shaft and then move my mouth down the shaft really fast once and go back up to the head really fast. I don't really know how to explain it, but he loves it. He says it hurts a bit but it feels really great because it feels tight. Be careful if attempt it because I actually gave him hickies on his head. Unintentionally of course..
While I gave my boyfriend a blowjob for the first time and he punched me in the head.. Guess I'm too goood :)
omg! he's lucky you didnt bite him!
my ex could give himself a blow job. he was only 17. I found it so sexy that I masturbated in front of him
Just remember to concentrate on the head, that's where he is the most sensative. The shaft is fun for deep throating. He always cums when you keep it wet and allot of toungue. And swallowing is always best. Plus when you get the taste for cum,its great.. it feels good going down.
To everyone that is worried about hurting their partners: Stop Worrying. Bottom line is if it hurts he will tell you and so long as you are careful you wont hurt him.just remember more tongue than teeth.
I've been hooking up with this guy for a few weeks now and hes really thick and and i have a small mouth in top of all of it, im afraid that when i go down on him im going to hurt him. what should i do? is there anything i can do?
Around what size does a penis start to get to big for a girl to handle? Like w/o them gagging. I know it varies from girl to girl but I could use an estimate. Thanks! :D
Well this was posted along time ago but for anyone reading this far, wrap your hand around the shaft of his cock so that when he pushes his body will be stopped by your hand. This will take a few inches off how much cock penetrates your mouth and should keep most average size guys from getting to deep to gag. or hold it a way up and hold tight so that the skin on his cock stretches and prevents deeper penetration. If he is huge use two hand. When he pumps the combination of hands and mouth it will provide a lot of over all stimulation as well. Hope this helps.
Here is a bit of advise to elaborate on a few points in Fellatio I and II articles. 1) The head of my cock can be super sensitive and so it can be easily overstimulated to the point of discomfort. I advise only the softest of licking it directly. Use lips made soft and sensual to half kiss half wrap around the head. This half kiss half taking in of the head is sexy as hell to watch. The best for me is the contact the head makes while sliding in and out of her mouth. 2) It was mentioned a few times that the shaft doesn't have many nerves. It seems that the advise is that the shaft can mostly be ignored. I really get off when I get licked from the bottom to the part just under the ridge of the head, where the head meets the shaft. Also when getting sucked deep having the tongue working my whole cock from the head down the shaft as far as possible slow but not too slow so that the whole length is getting stimulated is incredible. 3) A guy was built to hump. Nature gives us a serious desire to do this. When "normal fucking" this isn't a problem, when he is in a girls mouth it is. Talk to your guy about it see what your comfortable with but keep in mind that you can control it by wrapping your hand round his shaft and making a stopper when his body pushes up against your hand and your hand to your mouth. This take off a few inches from his cock which will make it easier to deal with.
So just to recap 1) take it easy on the head 2) pay a good deal of attention to the shaft as well as up top. 3) Use your hand as a stopper to prevent gagging and giving you as sense of control even when he his pushing in and out of your mouth.
My guy wants it hard and fast but my head and neck can only take so much bobbing up and down.. any techniques that i can use so he actually cums???
Try incorporating your hands while you suck so that it can resemble the tightness of a pussy. Also, try to just suck at the head and around it to promote pleasure for him. this should ease the repetitive up and down motions you have been experiencing. Plus it will be better and more enjoyable for both of you. Try it!
I know it will feel good but I don't want to force the issuse. Plus I don't want her to feel like she has to. Only if she wants to do it. Also I get really worried about ejaculating into her mouth. She has never minded but again I don't want to do something she doesn't want. Maybe I am bieng way to sensitive.
your being a great partner if your thinking like this.
You should also consider others thoughts and feelings.
I'm a male and I think exactly the same.
Its not a bad thing to consider others feelings.
Try talking to her about it. Communication goes a long way.
This can actually be a turn off for some girls though. Check to make sure she is okay with it then tell her you want it. My girl gets annoyed if I beat around the bush.
I never liked doing blowjobs. I tired once in the 69 position but I kept biting my boyfriend at the time then I tried it again after we broke up on a friend of mine and he said I was pretty good. I had a bad experience which made me want to stop having any form of sex but then I met my current boyfriend and we've been dating for sometime and I just started giving him blowjobs or "kissing junior" as he calls it and he always cares whether or not I "finish" but he never seems to want to cum at all except for during sex (we use condoms). We do oral on each other as after play. It makes me feel bad because I want to pleasure him and I want him to "finish" too.
I so love giving my man head. and i know he loves it too. it's great when he says "oh yeah baby just like that" or "don't stop" makes me know i am doin a good job. and i think he likes the fact that i swallow.. the taste of cum has never bothered me! (ladies don't spit)
Well my boyfriend...well not my boyfriend...just a friend that I give the occasional blowjob...he loves when I deep throat I here him saying "oh god" and oh yeah" and he gasps really loud. I love when he does that because then i know I'm doing a good job :)
and all good girls swallow :)
For some reason i find it difficult to cum during a blow job. It just doesn't get me off enough. i've only been able to once, and that was when this chick deepthroated me and then I shot right in her throat.(she wasn't so happy about the surprise cumshot) but other than that I find it difficult to cum during Blow jobs and i've had some of the best ones. Is it my body wanting the pleasure to last?
it could be that the women aren't targeting ur "head" as much. also be in control, such as have ur partner relax the jaw and tongue and push it in and out yourself, careful as in not to gag her. you may find great results
My boyfriend loves when I go down on him and I do too! It's so fun! :) It took me a couple times because at first I was scared about what his cum would taste like but I have this trick where when he's about to orgasm, I deep throat so I don't taste all the saltiness. His cum will just slide down my throat that way!
I do the same things! Deepthroat! Oh yes
jealousness...
my ex used to tell me to keep talking regular conversation while i got a bj. i didn't know it would be so hard to process a thought while getting one.
okay so i gave this guy a blow job several times and i know he was turned on but he hasnt ejaculated yet. am i doing something wrong? and how do i get him to cum? please help
I love sucking my bf cock. It's soooo fun. My first time ever giving head, he said if he didn't know better he would have sworn I wasn't a virgin when I met him =P.....
I love going down on him when he has a friend over. Under the blanket people are oblivious to a hand job, then, as soon as we are alone, heh well you get the picture =P
my fiance loves for me to give him oral. he always tells me i do such a good job. i always tell him whatever you say. lol hell never ask for it but i alaways know because of that look in his eyes that seems to say please suck my d**k! lol
I was 'lucky' to be born without much of a gag-reflex so deep throating didn't take much time to learn at all for me; I love doing it because it drives him wild and when I hear him moaning it just gets me worked up even more, so it's a win-win situation really.
I love to give my husband oral sex. It's actually good for both of us. I like to start by sitting between his legs and lightly running my tongue around the head while occasionally sticking my tongue in his pee hole. I love to feel his balls as they tighten and that position allows me to take him as far back in my throat. I like to hear him moan.
After I've licked his shaft from balls to head all the way around I sit on the side of him allowing him to penetrate me with his fingers. When i'm really wet I sit on his c**k and f**k him until I cum then I move off him and go back to giving him head. He gets off knowing i'll taste myself.
If it lasts a while I finger myself til i'm wet again and use my juices to lube him up. I take my teeth and so lightly take them up his shaft while I stick a finger in his ass. I love how he tastes and I love to hear his moans as he cums in my mouth.
We often don't mention things during sex because we are shy even when we know our partners very well and been with them a long time, and especially if we thing he other likes it. The inside of the pee hole just feels discomfort and pain. I'd ask him if he really honestly likes it or just never said anything cause it wasn't that bad and he really likes everything else so much that he didn't want to mention it.
I do all of this to my boyfriend yet it still takes him ages to cum so i get bored and don't know how to pleasure him, HELP!
If you're having problems with your gag reflex, if you wrap your left thumb around your hand in a sort of fist, your gag reflex will go away.
However, another technique not mentioned is after you can take his penis into your mouth a little farther, try sucking on it and licking it with your tongue at the same time. When you practice it's a lot less complicated than it seems; go slow while doing this so he can appreciate all that you are doing with your tongue and mouth.
i love givin my bf head...he likes it when i run my teeth up and down his dick real gentle.....i find that he likes alot when i moan and make noises with my mouth like poppin noises and slurpin noises...liol
i d everything when it comes to givin my bf a bj even swallowing how can i make it more enjoyable for him so he left feelin completely satisfied?? thanks x
u can rub urself like play wit urself.... or moan alot...my bf likes it when i make sucking and slurping noises...look at him alot while ur doing it....if u can deep throat do that...and play wit his balls...hope i was helpful!!!
thank you im tring deep throating and ive nearly got it and you was very helpful :)
when i give my bf a bj he seems to enjoy it loads but i want to do something extra so he has a great time any suggestions??
Swallow? Just saying, but not all girls like it, and be careful because it can get really sensitive after hes just cumed.
i have been proclaimed supahead of every guy i have blown not to toot my own horn but: beep beep! i have only blown 6 guys but everyone of them says i am the best head they have ever had. my trick is i am a great deep throater i have virtually no gag reflex and i basically zone out while i go down. i go to town on a dick lol ax my bf. its all about timing flicking the head jus as u come up from a deep throat sucking real hard as u go down on the cock try a bunch of differnt things n listen to the moans the more/louder he moans the better that specific motion feels also ax him wat feels best
If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true, all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event. Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penisstraightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.
Alright ive been with my boyfriend for a while 1 year 9 months....well im not a square but ive been scared to give him oral, because i have braces and ive never done it before...
how do i avoid hurting him??
Also, you may not be able to deep throat him because of the rings that are on your molars at the back of your teeth. They have this sharp bits sticking out (check it out the next time you brush your teeth) so when your bfs cock is going deeper to your throat, it would scratch it and that's not nice. I have braces too and I have that problem.
i had braces, and i too was worried the same way u were, but i really wanted to try it. i didnt hurt my baby because i was really careful, so that would be my advice to u :) be careful and ask him to tell u rite away if u hurt him in any way! i hope this helps! :)
ive given a blow job to my ex; but he was the first person i gave one too&i was the first one to give one to him to. but im with this new boy now & i wouldnt be the first to give him one.. and i dont want to disappoint him.. what do i do?
not be a whore
i want to give my man head but since he doesnt always show hes enjoyin sex by expression its diff. cometimes for me to get into it dont get me wrong lol he loves it hes just not real experienced so facial expressions he kinda holds back so how should i get him to start...?
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