First, when I'm being fingered sometimes I have a feeling that I have to pee, but I've never had an orgasm before so I don't know if I should just wait it out because that means I will orgasm soon. It would be rather embarrassing to pee and I think it makes me nervous therefore preventing the orgasm. I read that men have a sphincter that prevents urination during sex. Do women have this as well?
Second, my vagina starts feeling sore after about 10 minutes of activities. I think the problem is that since I'm new to this, I'm too tight. Is there anything I can do to loosen myself up other than more sex? At this point sex hurts a bit so I'd like to loosen up before going at it again.
Finally, both with clitoral and g-spot stimulation, after a while it begins to feel overstimulated and not pleasant as my partner continues. Is there a way to achieve an orgasm even though this happens?
Thank you very much in advanced for you help!