Hi there. Well to start off I'm a 31 yr old female, been married for the past 7 yrs, and about 5 months pregnant. Lately I have been feeling very much in the mood to have sex. I'm wanting to have sex at least 3 times a day. While my husband does satisfy me very much in the bed (and everywhere else), I have been finding myself checking out other women and wondering what they would be like in bed. Now I have never been with another woman, I do tell my husband that I would like to be with another woman when we have sex but only as sex talk. It turns him on when I say things like that. Now I have been fantasizing about woman when I'm pleasuring myself, so my question is am I feeling this way because of the hormones or did I convince myself to think this way from telling my husband this fantasy?
Mon, 06/28/2010 - 23:55
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Just wondering
Perhaps a bit of both? Pregnancy affects each woman in an unique way: some desire more sex and some would just kill to get a good night's sleep for once.
However, I caution you most strongly against moving to make this fantasy real anytime soon.
1. give your hormones time to recover from pregnancy to make sure this bisexuality is real or not
2. a newborn child takes up a LOT of time, energy and patience
3. your marriage will be busy making adjustments to the new child
4. you body will need time to recover from the delivery itself
In short, you've got challenges enough ahead so don't go making any major moves until those challenges have been met.
It is fairly common for a woman to be disinterested in sex until the morning sickness is over. So, the first trimester is often sexless. The second trimester is, for many, a time of erotic desire even to the point of wearing husbands out. The third trimester is a crap shoot. Some really want sex and some not. The key is finding position. So, the sexual appetite is not unusual.
As for the fantasy, I am with Evil - this is not a time to move on that. I have never had a woman tell me that she has specific, erotic lesbian fantasies whilst pregnant. Perhaps you are bi-, perhaps not and the hormones are going wild. It is surprising how many men are OK with some such during the talking stage but have difficulty handling it in action. As Evil points out, you have enough new things being introduced into your lives at this moment.