Hey
I'm married for 5 years now.
We usually plan special nights every couple of month when we really devote ourselves to one another, maybe go to a hotel, rent some cottage somewhere away from the buzz ...
I think know how to satisfy your man orraly it's really important, cause men really love it. I suggest you read some articles about this ... it's a lot of this stuff on the net. I good blog with really interesting and crazy tips I found is here:

Oral sex tips for women

Hope I helped!

*chuckling*

Do The Program, taking your time about it, and see where that leads.

ideas i have come up with.

#1. one night he is watching tv, movies, play video games whatever he is into just sit next to him or behind him in able to and undo his pants and give him a hand job.
#2. wear a white t-shirt his mostly. get into the shower and get wet (wet t-shirt contest idea). as him to come in cause you need him to get something for you. open the door or curtain and ask if he would come be the "judge"....
#3.one thing i wanna do but husband don't is meet up at a local dive. (mostly where no one would know your married) and have you sitting at the bar with a drink already. have him show up about a half hour later and act like he is trying to pick you up. then when you get home say something like "i am being to explore my sexuallity are u man enough to cum for the journey?"

i have more ideas if you would like them

In addition to EEKs "The Program" and her other articles, please read thru the many articles listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen. These articles were written to provide information for any and all who have questions and concerns when writing in. There are many articles that discuss how to make out, do foreplay, have intercourse, along with a lot of background information.

Have you thought of dirty talk? My husband loves when I talk dirty to him.. and not just in bed. If we are in a store, I will walk up to him and say something like, "Look at the spot over there, I would you to bend me over that (note item on showroom floor) and fuck me hard! And finger my asshole while you fuck me"

I have done things like that and I am always surprised the hot reaction I get from him.

Or, while you are out at the mall, grab HIS ass while you two are walking. Let someone see you.

Have you two tried doing a little petting in public. Just don't play in a parking lot for example that have recording cameras. Its hot to do that, but it can also be used as evidence at trial (happened to a friend).

Ok for my first post? :)

Good luck and let us know what you do.

Salli

Your first post was just fine, Sallie. Welcome!

Sex does become routine, if you don't have a plan to keep it interesting. 20+ has taught me that life becomes boring if you don't keep it varied. This site is a good place for new ideas, so good luck!

My girlfriend and I did role play... I fell asleep in her anatomy class and boy was I in trouble ;). So much dirty talk and it was great. I don't wanna do it too often though because I love her and it was hard for me not to talk to her like I loved her.. had to play the role..which was fun for sure.

Sex becomes routine? HUH? Who says?

NOT ME!

Even after 30 years married and the only thing in my hand is a small bottle of lubricant as I LEAP into joyous union. The only thing a person needs is enthusiasm! Pony up, baby!

Yeeehaw!

Yes, enthusiasm IS key for certain, but as we age, a few other ingredients are also necessary. Energy and endurance become increasingly important--that's where exercise and weight control come into play. Creativity and communication, while always important, take on even more central roles in lovemaking after many decades together. Trust, while it should ALWAYS have been present, assumes a greater role as well, because as we age and mature as couples, we often think of (or SHOULD be thinking of...!) new games and sex play to enjoy together, and trust is so necessary for introducing new practices, such as bondage, role-play, dress-up, etc. In addition to the above things we need, we need to abandon all pretense of inhibition, up-tightness, guilt and other blocks to enjoying one's physical and sexual universe.
Michael

Since each person is subtlely different each and every time - there's no need for 'extras' if you're paying attention. As you age, you might find some minor modifications work their way in but the need for enthusiasm never goes away. And you shouldn't even have any 'up-tightness' to begin with.

well i dated my husband for seven years, and we got married last year. what i do for him sometime is put our couches together in the living room turn it into one giant sofa bed. put down some blankets turn down the lights, and we have sex, and sleep there for the night. its always good to dress up for ya man, try putting on one of his dress shirts with nothing else on.

I think routine gets a bad rep... I like routine in my sex life. Both my hubsand and I know that certain times during the week are set aside for sex, and neither of us will mess with those times unless we have a very good reason, which don't include headaches or just not feeling like it.

Also I'm a big believer in quid pro quo, both partners aren't neccessarily enjoy sex every time you have it. My husband hates shagging me when I've been drinking, I typically go out with mates every other week, and when I come back I'm typically quited drunk and gagging for a shag and expect my husand to do the business. Which he does and which he absolutly hates.

On the flip side I hate sex in the morning (expecially at stupid O' clock early) but once a week I wake up to being prepped to be pumped by hubby, it's actually my ambition to learn to sleep through it.

If at times the sex sounds unsexy there is loads of it and we are both completely satisfied sexually. I think this routine rather than doing any one thing is what keeps us sexually meshed.