For help on this I went to an expert-a gay man. The trick here is to gradually relax your throat muscles as you take a little more in. And don't think about it blocking your windpipe or hitting the back of your throat. Then you will gag for sure.
The more you practice with it, then the quicker you can get your throat to relax.

And if he's starting to gag you, slow down. You control the pace-not him.
(On a sidenote, I wonder sometimes if the gagging doesn't turn them on....)

You can lay down on a bed with your head hanging slightly off the edge and have your guy stand in front of your face while you give him a blowjob.

In this position you are relaxed and may take "more" of him into your mouth and well, it worked wonders for me years ago.

You also need to relax.

[QUOTE=Quote ]Well, the part of the penis that is sensitive to the sucking is the head.[/QUOTE]
That's true, and actually the top of the head is actually the most sensitive part. However, from the angle of his penis resting against his stomach the most stimulative part is right below the head. (bottom of the penis) The most stimulative part runs from the end of the head to the about 1 inch away. It depends on the size. You actually want the most stimulating part, not sensitive. With stimulation comes sensitivity mind you. Oh I might add that when you say "you can't suck with your vagina", actually that's not entirely true. In a very similar sense you can actually "grip" and "pull" with your vagina provided you've exersized it to make it stronger.

(Edited by 7Horses at 2:37 am on Sep. 30, 2002)

Forget the banana - Practice on him.

Start slow and work from there. Why waste your efforts on a lousy banana when you can watch him enjoying every inch of your 'practice?!'

Besides, he will show his appreciation more than the banana anyway.

Hmmm ... something not too hard, flexible, not likely to break off ...

How about your own fingers(s)? A banana (still in its skin) - or any similar fruit or veg - inside a flavored condom? For extra strength maybe use 2 condoms, one on top of the other.

what's so great about having your dick deep throated? i mean i would do it, or i try to do it but it does take time to learn.

Try the top of a beer or alco pop bottle. Jus go 4 it u have nuthin 2 loose

You can work on your gag reflex with a banana. i'm having trouble with not backing off when my wind pipe is blocked. Guess it just takes lots of practice.

You say you want to take him down your throat and then suck. Well, the part of the penis that is sensitive to the sucking is the head. If it is down your throat, the sucking is irrelevant because the head will be stimulated rubbing in your throat. I have heard of "Hum jobs" but have never deepthroated myself so do not know much about that.

It seems to me that the added dimension of sucking and using your tongue (neither of which you can do with your vagina) should be pretty great alternatives.

I know people still want to do the deep throat thing. I have never gotten around to learning.

Although you can't do as much deepthroating as you can with the head of his penis in your mouth, it still feels good. My best advice is to go slow and try to relax. Try to do it a little deeper each time, instead of the whole thing write away. Once you get a little more used to it, you probably won't gag at all. :P

Not having a dildo, is there any good around the house items to use instead of one. Banana could be dangerous,

(To practice deep throat and oral sex.)

any suggestions?

I have to buy that 7 inch jelly!!

You can watch that old movie with Linda Lovelace called DeepThroat.

It has some stuff inthere i think.

my g/f gives great bjs she told me she practiced on her friend and he taught her. She deepthroats but to tell u the truth deepthroating isnt a real big deal(she does it better when she dosnt), u really dont have to DT i dont find it a big deal. NE other guys think its overratted?

Oh girlfriend.....Shots of tequila until your nose, cheeks, and nipples are numb. WOW, no more gag reflex and you can go down as far as you like. This is what works for me. Of course, you can't get real blitzed as your mouth gets numb and you lose control of your lips and tongue!!!!!

Oh, yes, it's possible -- but it takes practice (which can be fun as well... ).

I've found that DT works best as an occasional part of the BJ, not the whole thing. There's that certain tantalizing moment for the guy of "okay, when's she going to do it?" followed by the "OMG, there it is!" That way, they don't get to the point where they EXPECT it -- it's more of a treat.

Have fun!

The wife has been giveing me deep throat a long time now
and she likes doing it she all most likes it to much she says sex is ok but when it comes down to it she likes deep throat
the best lucky me.

Well, I'm lucky because I don't have much of a gag reflex and I enjoy deep throating, but I think it still takes a lot of practice. You can buy a cheap penis shaped vibrator from most sex shops, those are good to practice on, just practice relaxing your throat muscles and learn how to pace your breathing. I also find that it helps me alot if I am really turned on, so sometimes I masturbate while I am giving head. Oh and a little gagging isn't a bad thing if you're comfortable with it. It turns me and my boyfriend on when I gag a little.

I enjoy doing it as well. When I first started doing it I was afraid I would choke but after gradually working the penis in deeper each time, I guess as they say practice makes perfect

[QUOTE=Quote (TJ @ May 20 2002,19:47)]I can't seem to stop gagging. I am able to go  down 2 or 3 times without gagging but no more. I want to be able to go down and stay there to suck. Any suggestions???[/QUOTE]
I think that it is very much possible. I have tried a few times myself and I know what you mean about the gagging. It frusterates me at times but all you have to do is practice.

About 2 yrs ago I got the deep throat thing down. Heres my trick....I take it down the side of throat. Obviously not over my teeth but slightly to the side and I find that is soooo much easier than straight down.
And it seems to work like a charm!!

[QUOTE=Quote (Junocozmos @ June 17 2003,10:04)]About 2 yrs ago I got the deep throat thing down. Heres my trick....I take it down the side of throat. Obviously not over my teeth but slightly to the side and I find that is soooo much easier than straight down.
And it seems to work like a charm!![/QUOTE]
Thank you for the advice. I'll have to give that one a try.

Oh np AngelPie, I hope it proves helpful. Keep me "posted" (I'm so punny lol) lemme hear your victory cry when you master the Deepthroat!!

My b/f is around 8 1/2 hard and really thick. it is really hard to deep throat. how do i practice for that. i dont want to practice with him b/c i dont want to gag and look dumb. please help.

Well if he laughs at you if you gag or gets all wierd then he doesnt deserve the bj right?? Althought most men are just greatful youre down there. I have had expirience since I developed my technique in some interesting sexual scenarios and one involved a larger man...it was harder (hee hee) but I managed to use the side of the mouth/throat thing and it was ok. I didnt get a formal complaint. Good luck hun...I'm sure he'll be thrilled you put so much effort into pleasing him. Oh and you can use a good old fashioned cucumber.

I have one slight problem - my gag reflex. I've always had a very fast gagging reflex, and during oral sex with my boyfriend I use variety, and other techniques and he's pleased, but I'd like to be able to deep throat. I could deep throat, because my throat is deep enough, but I have to leard to control that stupid reflex! If any of you have ways.. let me know. A friend told me to try sticking my fingers down my throat, as if it were a dick, and just get sort of immune to gagging, and then I'd get use to it, and wouldnt as much. I dont know, just help me out here, thanks.

I have the same problem as you. One time when I was giving head, and deap throating I started to throw up while I was doing it. It was not a great experience, and ever since then I haven't deep throated since I 'm too scared that I'll throw up again.

I've never attempted deep throating, but I do have an easy gag reflex, so this advice might help...

When I've had to hold something large in my mouth, or have had to have the doctor stick a utensil back there for an exam, I've learned to close my eyes, relax my jaw and take deep breaths. I think if you try that and take him in slow and try to focus more on breathen and not on gagging...you might be ok.

Sorry I can't talk from actual deep throat experience, but I hope that helps some

ps: sweettuth, sorry to hear about your experience! that would suck majorly (no pun intended).

You can also try with a bananna. Act as if you were going to bite it but just slowly take as much as you can down your throat. I've trained myself this way and I can take a large bananna at least 1/2 way down. Hope this helps.

I have found that my gag reflex has lessenned considerably with experience, but I can't say what exactly has caused that to happen. I think the trick is basically to relax as much as possible.

[QUOTE=Quote (SOADjunkie @ May 27 2003,11:19)]I have one slight problem - my gag reflex. I've always had a very fast gagging reflex, and during oral sex with my boyfriend I use variety, and other techniques and he's pleased, but I'd like to be able to deep throat. I could deep throat, because my throat is deep enough, but I have to leard to control that stupid reflex! If any of you have ways.. let me know. A friend told me to try sticking my fingers down my throat, as if it were a dick, and just get sort of immune to gagging, and then I'd get use to it, and wouldnt as much. I dont know, just help me out here, thanks.[/QUOTE]
*hugs* I'm with you girl on this one. hehe I have the same problem. I am thinking that maybe if I start of slowly goig farther and farther back that maybe that will help me out in the long run, but at the time he is impatient... hehe and I don't blame him. I think one of these days I will try the banana thing. Thanks.

Oh god I feel so retarded b/c when I gave my guy a bj I gagged like 3 times! I wasn't deep-throating him either!

Ok...deepthroating...pretty much the whole reason I became a member of this site....giving a blowjob is an art like giving a woman oral....what is pleasing is different for each women...the same is true of blowjobs and specifically deepthroating....I went through numerous girlfriends in HS and college that never even tried to deepthroat me, it was just normal sex and bj's...then I met a girl that told me she could deepthroat, this was completely new to me and since then I have been pursuing and trying to find a woman who could deepthroat. Let me tell you it isn't easy from my stand point....I'm 8 inches long with good girth, so from my experience it hasn't been easy to find a woman to do it. One of the members on here said it doesn't have to be the whole experience just part of the blowjob, I think that is correct, but for me when it is part of the experience it is the best I've ever had. For the best blowjob it takes time, and it builds up, it includes some light sucking, some ball sucking, some use of the hand(which is sometimes the hardest part because you have to know how much pressure to use and how to work your hand and in what directions), and deepthroating. I would love to speak to any women that feel they are experts on deepthroating. I would also be happy to speak to any who want to learn that or in general what I feel a good bj is. I have heard from a lot of women that great oral can be as satisfying or more satisfying as interourse itself, the same is true for me with a great blowjob. Oh, one more thing...a lot of the turn on for me is the woman's attitude about doing it...if she is eager to do it...it turns me on and make the experience greater.

[QUOTE=Quote (Junocozmos @ June 17 2003,10:04)]About 2 yrs ago I got the deep throat thing down. Heres my trick....I take it down the side of throat. Obviously not over my teeth but slightly to the side and I find that is soooo much easier than straight down.
And it seems to work like a charm!![/QUOTE]
im so going to try that this afternoon! im so glad you posted something on here =)

Just a hint. My wife puts her head on my stomach bneds it back a bit ,and it all goes in (7inch) . she says its the angle. Been married 30 years and she just gets better.  

recently, I've gotten better at the whole deep throating thing. I guess it's just practice and patience. You can't try and take him all in the first time you go down, or you will most likely gag. It has to be a gradual thing. If you feel uncomfortable or start to gag, then don't do it. Just practice and take in a little more each time you try, and your reflexes will become more relaxed and things will get easier.

mmm my favorite thing to do.

in the 69 position either on top doesn't matter, but laying. It's mind over matter. If you dont think about it and relax and enloy it you will take it. I can let my hubby thrust and thrust over and over again. Until he cums and heeee loves it.

Of course I take lots of time before we get to that. I start with sucking his beautiful balls and up the shaft. Then I tease the head. I drive him nutz. It is so exciting to me to do that to him. Kathy

Not everyone can "learn" to deepthroat a cock. However, i have found it is ALOT easier if he's standing up and i'm directly in front (on knees) and breath through my nose.

THe feeling of wanting to "gag" comes from the SIDE of your throat ...so taking it straight in and back is easier...if i try to do it while 69ing...i find that the cock hits the side of my throat and thats when i gag!

personally i dont like the fact of my girl practically swallowing my whole dick....idk it just seems kinda weird to me...but if your guy likes it go for it

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ARE you being forced to suck a cock, if not ,you find it repugnant don't do it , when you think you would like to do it then try it ,if a guy thinks anything of you will not make any difference to him .would not to me any way , would never force a woman ,no enjoyment there,a lot of women have tried and did not like it so its up to you, same as guy eating pussy , some don't some do.

Glad someone mentioned swallowing movements, that's the best trick.  The head over the edge of the bed is good too; it seems to provide a better angle or something.  Here's another: remember to keep breathing deeply through your nose.  That suffocating feeling kicks in my gag reflex.  And unless you are really comfortable with it, make him keep his hands off the back of your head.  No one enjoys feeling like they are being forced.

It also helps to REALLY want to do it.  That way you aren't tense about performing well, you just do it.  The truth is most guys enjoy whatever you do down there, so deepthroating is just a plus.  

As far as practicing, I actually saw a device on a British tv show.  It was a dildo with a cord attached to an egg-shaped vibrator.  There was a target at the base of the dildo and when you successfully deepthroated it(your nose touched the target) the vibrator went off and gave you a little reward.lol

[QUOTE=reiahart;153017]Thanks for that site! WOW, lot's of useful tips there....

Guess I'll start practicing ^_^!! I do have one question though. I won't mind my guy cumming in my mouth, so, me {being a COMPLETE novice...}, needs to know if when the guy cums while his dick is in your throat, will it feel so different that it will spark my gag reflex right up again?

Never had cum that far down in my throat before... so I'm not sure what it would feel like. And I doubt a banana, hotdog or dildo is going to cum into my throat anytime soon, so I'll only get the true experience when I complete this lol.[/QUOTE]

It might feel somewhat different, depending on what you mean. Once you've mastered having him in the back of your throat, his cumming back there won't be too much of a problem.

Most people gag if a load gets shot into the back of their mouths, but that is because the cum shot hits the areas reponsible for your gag reflex. If you've overcome that by taking him the back of your throat to begin with, the cum will just shoot down your esophagus - you won't even taste it (another good reason to learn to do it).

If you're doing it with your head lying back off the bed, the cum might drain back down your throat and try to drain into your sinuses, so you may want to try your initial attempt to allowing him to do it with you on your knees or over him in some fashion.

If you ever have to have a tube in your throat (stomach pump,etc) they tell you to keep swallowing as they insert it. (sorry for the examples) So use that as trick to deep throat. You still may gag once and awhile, but if you try to stay focused on what you're doing it's easy to adjust yourself so that doesn't happen. If you continue doing swallowing movements while you suck, your soft pallate can do some ultimate stroking so you can use your tongue for other things.

I have done DTing and i've found something that works even better.  If you put lotion or lube on your hand(s) and jus givea normal BJ it has the same effect AND  You can suck and lick and move up and arounds, which you cant do when DTing.  Your lubed hands are an extension of you mouth, move them as one . . It works wonders    Hope it helps      

I, unfortunately, will never know the pleasures of deepthroating since I am not very well endowed. It's never really been an issue, just something I won't experience. The farthest into the throat I will get is the back of the tongue.

Having said that... I still love the feeling of receiving oral, and the woman takes it in as far as it will go so that her lips are pressed against my 'mound'.

The closest to deepthroating I'll ever get, I guess.

I'd love to be able to deep throat. i've only had like one proper boyfriend so i haven't been able to practice lots. I have got naturally big tonsils, do you think that this makes it more difficult?  

I can't. lol. And I'd love to do that to my guy.

The past few times though I've tried. I've had his hand on the back of my head while I try to take him further in then I usually do. My questoin is, can someone define how far you have to take him in for it to be 'deep throating?' I think I reached my gag reflex this last time but I don't know...I know I can feel him on my throat...

My friend use to deepthroat, probably still does, I've just lost touch with her. She was saying to make sure the guys hand isnt on the back of your head because (unless they're a caring boyfriend) will try to force it further down. She said the best way was to take it straight on, she tried side and it made her gag. (Just figured I'd say that because people were saying it better on side/better on front etc, I think it depends on the person because like I said, she told me straight on was better)

Thats about all I can say since I havent done it nor do I ever want to. Horrible gag reflexs, plus it just doesnt interest me.

I prefer his hand on the back of my head...he's the caring boyfriend type and helps me try to go down (if he wsan't once i felt the gag reflex id stop).

We have a signal that lets him know I can't go no further and to stop pushing but to just sit there...works out pretty well.

Ya see if they're caring its fine. (my friend did it on random guys from the near by high school (at the time we were in grade 8) so they werent so caring). So it really all depends on who you're deepthroating lol.

To Tj, and whoever else is having the same problem,
I know excatly how you feel becuase it has happened to me and i can't seem to do it i want to but whenever i try to i start to gag. And i might have sex again with this guy who really cares about me and he want's me to deep throat his dic but i'm afraid to bc i want to but i don't think i can. I want to please him and give him what he wants and deserves but i'm just worried and afraid so if anyone can help please reply or send me and email at [email]sexy_girl_cherries@hotmail.com[/email] ttyl Bye