And be careful what you are reading. We have some very active new folks here. That is great news for the Board and I am sure we all welcome them. There is a slight problem in that they seem to be early responders to whatever is posted - and they do not know what they are talking about. Some should be doing more asking and less responding.
One is a 14 yo male self-described virgin who seems to want to respond to specifically female issues. But needs basic terms defined. A couple others with little experience and no real learning are jumping on any topic and giving irrelevant, or worse, answers. Telling a woman how to get started when she is describing symptoms of what can become a serious condition is not helpful.
You can get good answers to almost anything concerning sex here - including being told to see your doctor. As a seeker of answers, however, you have to be a bit careful before accepting what is told you.
You can't really get "advice" from anyone. You always have to make up your own mind, make your own choice. But, there is a certain usefulness in garnering feedback and comparing notes.
I would also like ask Brandye if she thinks that providing content of this nature to known and professed minors is toeing the legality line, i.e. pornography laws and such. I'm no great legal mind, but it seems to me that if the parent(s) of some of the members of this forum were to read some of the content their kids are allowed to access on this site, they would be very upset and in a position to cause this site serious legal trouble. I'm sure there's a legislator somewhere who would be willing to "take up the crusade" so to speak.
let's put it this way: "would YOU take advice about investing from a person who has never balanced a checkbook?"
I must say that I share your concern. While most of the posts are relatively innocuous, there are some rather graphic descriptions. I have done some myself.
I am aware of no one being "recruited" or "accosted" or even "approached" on or from this site. Most of the stuff discussed here I discuss with patients from time to time. I am most active with women's involvement and STDs, pregnancy, etc. I have encountered these issues, professionally, as young as 14. I guess I am saying that I would rather the younger ones be here with some relatively knowledgeable people that at a teenie site full of 14 yo males trying to impress one another with nonsense. That is something I see happening here and that is the reason I started this thread.
Now, to answer your question: 1. I am in England and our laws and legislation is a bit different. 2. I am sure some parents would object to some content. 3. I suspect there is much worse on some moderated teen sites. 4. I am a physician not a lawyer. How's that for dancing around a concern I share with you?
These were some of my concerns when I suggested more detailed profiles in another thread... and, as if to make my point, someone has from this site has IMd my Yahoo ID... (forgot it was here, actually)... wants to have "sex discussions" and is asking if I am M or F. Obviously read my profile pretty closely. LMAO (This is happening as I post.) I ducked the question several times for kicks.
Once I said I was male the conversation was over. Pretty funny. Does that mean I can say I was "approached?"
I'm calling my lawyer! LMAO
Actually, Batman, this little controversy has come up in the past and like most issues, the moderators pretty much ignore it. I don't recommend that approach to members. I'm inclined to agree with Brandye, that there's at least some good info here and some "self moderation" done by regular members... I've actually PMd warnings to older folks - in one case a guy who was receiving oral sex advice from a 13 year old girl.
In fairness to these younger folks, there have been some rather immature and emotionally needy "adults" on the board as well.
As the song goes... "you'd better watch out!"
So Wally got hit on!!!! How's it feel being treated like a "lady?" And then dumped. Poor Wally!!!
Good reason to not put up IM info. I am glad you shared that Wally. Reminds us all to be careful. Thanks
I was somewhat concerned about having youngsters on here as well. I feel nervous giving sex advice to someone who is under the age of consent. Call me paranoid. This is actually the reason why I started to post a lot less.
Good stuff. Yeah, I get a little paranoid myself. I guess there's no way to really check up on someone's age anyway, so it's kind of a non-issue. It's just something I have qualms about sometimes. Thanks everybody.
[QUOTE=Brandye]So Wally got hit on!!!! How's it feel being treated like a "lady?" And then dumped. Poor Wally!!!
Good reason to not put up IM info. I am glad you shared that Wally. Reminds us all to be careful. Thanks[/QUOTE]
LMAO I could really have some fun with it... start a thread about rejection... That was the shortest "relationship" I've ever not had!
Fortunately, my Love left me a mushy PM with all sorts of kisses in it, so I feel pretty good. ;)
OK, we are concerned about young teens on the Board. Read the news item on Sec Education for parents!! Makes us sound tame.
I can understand the concern with new, and young, posters. Especially if they are giving away medical advice.
Let me be the first to admit that I certainly do not have all the answers. I usually try to stick to topics of some familiarity, and or posts with which I'm not shy to voice my opinion.
Should there be some kind of screening that could be done for posters? I will third a concern over such young posters looking for sex advice. But at the same time I feel thats why were here. Either way I think I'll stay away from responding to those posts :D
I also notice some of my favorite posters are now posting less possibly due to this? Wally I love reading your posts. And what happened to Finewine and the old poster Jaybee. Those are another two I enjoyed reading.
Thanks, Poz. I don't think my level of posting has changed much... I've always tended to avoid graphic topics that were clearly posted by a teen. Since I don't know the answer to the young poster dilemma I resolve it with a conservative personal policy for several reasons. It may seem like I'm posting less, but I rather think it's case of an influx of young teens recently.
Finewine has been back and is posting. Jaybee was banned as I recall.
wouldnt you rather people under the age of consent got good advice and safe advice rather than getting pregnant, hurt or just having a bad time?
There's a point where it's just not in one's best interests to take the risk of being a part of a juvenile sexcapade. I personally watch out for postst that are written in a lot of text speak or seem too poorly written to be by consenting adults.
[QUOTE=batman527;142646]I would also like ask Brandye if she thinks that providing content of this nature to known and professed minors is toeing the legality line, i.e. pornography laws and such. I'm no great legal mind, but it seems to me that if the parent(s) of some of the members of this forum were to read some of the content their kids are allowed to access on this site, they would be very upset and in a position to cause this site serious legal trouble. I'm sure there's a legislator somewhere who would be willing to "take up the crusade" so to speak.[/QUOTE]
Yes, that is a concern that I have too. I'm rather careful about the sort of things I say in response to questions from people who are underage (as far as I can tell). Perhaps one should ask oneself whether the comment or advice that you are about to type is the sort of thing that you would say to someone if you met them in person.
From my perspective, there is NOT ONE iota of pornography on this forum or the sexinfo101 site
90% of people posting on here would NEVER ask a total stranger any of the questions. Hell they have problems asking the person they are boinking the same questions. I've been boinking my gf/bf for 5 yrs and we really can't communicate? LOL
I think this thread was inadvertently ressurrected LOL
Sorry HardNGood, I didn't realize that a simple comment could be considered pot-stirring.
Me three. Seems we've become a society where half the population has some sort of job telling the other half what they can or cannot do.
I have no worries what so ever about talking to kids about sex.
No ones gonna see it, there's disclaimers on the site & it doesnt really matter.
No one's getting busted for offering advice, no one gives a ****.
Do you really think someone is going to try to hunt some of us down for talking to an underager about sex?
No, I dont think so.
Im very cofident that nothing is going to happen because of the influx in kids.
You're all paranoid.
The fact that people are even worried about this makes me want to puke over the state of our society...
[QUOTE=BigKahuna;167410]The fact that people are even worried about this makes me want to puke over the state of our society...[/QUOTE]
Yup. I feel the same.
I don't think of it so much as avoiding getting in trouble, I just think that it's valid to know someone's maturity level before you go and advise them to do something that isn't really suitable. I guess it's because I have a sense of personal responsablity for the things that I say even when they can't be traced back to me. It really just depends on your perspective.
that's a bit of a slippery slope for someone claiming the higher moral ground...
People are here looking for help with an aspect of life that we don't get much training in...
Chalk up another one for "telling the other half what they can or cannot do"
[QUOTE=BigKahuna;167734]that's a bit of a slippery slope for someone claiming the higher moral ground...
People are here looking for help with an aspect of life that we don't get much training in...
Chalk up another one for "telling the other half what they can or cannot do"[/QUOTE]
Tell me, just how high is your high horse?
Enough!
Give the best advice you can give and let it go at that.
the way i see it, kids like me (i'm 18) will get their info whether it's here or another place where it could be worse. the info and advice could be bad or rude or just plain stupid.
this site is not pornographic. most every post is clinical in its approach to sensitive issues and event those that arent' are not bad at all in my opinion.
as far as the "influx" of enthusiastic young people... i think it should be celebrated that teens today are using the internet for more than porn and myspace.
they are seeking out information that is vital to their health and safety. i agree that responses from the younger generation could be flawed but any sensible person can work out for themselves who are the more trustworthy sources. and anyone seeking information off the web must know to take it with a grain of salt, if you will.
Wow this is truly funny. I think we can all remember our adolescent days and that once in our lives we all thought we were the ultimate solution to all and that our words were a panacea to any problem, and in result we could offer an immediate solution or remedy to the issue.
Good work Brandye...I agree think before you talk..you always have good responses
so cooooolll
The info on here is good and I appreciate every ones opinions and advice to all topics.
I think its no so much about giving sex advice to someone under age but more like if they are under age and the parents find out they might make a big deal, out of something that really is not bad. We are not doing nothing wrong.
I agree just think about what we are about to respond and give out honest advice and opinions, and we will be ok.
If their ever was some kind of problem well there is a lot of us that think this is very educational web site so I guess it would be all of us against who ever is trying to get any one on here in trouble for simply offering help in what ever the topic is.
It's obvious that the younger crowd on this site does not feel comfortable discussing this stuff with their parents. I know when I was younger, I didn't. That being the case, I think it is our responsibility to answer the questions put forth as honestly as we can. Someone has to try to help these kids.
are you kidding? they probably don't want to discuss anything with their parents, especially sex, because their parents haven't had any sex since they were born, and if they did, the kid's don't want to know about it. They don't want to have to admit that those people even are their parents most of the time, let alone be seen with them, or worse, talk to them longer than it takes to borrow the car and get some money from them.
wonderful advice! I am always shy to submit anything and skeptical about it.
I am 100% agree with you.
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