He can only climax by masturbating
Q. My boyfriend was a virgin before we started dating. We have been having sex for a few months now. The only way he can climax is by masturbating after intercourse. He has never come from sex alone. What can be done because I am starting to feel like there is a problem with me, or is it that he is just too used to his hand?
A. The first few months of anyone’s sex life is bound to be filled with bumps in the road. Before you came into the picture, his hand was his main (if not only) source of sexual gratification! Although it seems like it’s part of every man’s makeup to be able to ‘do it’, it is just as much about him being in the appropriate frame of mind as it is merely a physical state of being. (Check out His First Time and Foreplay; they contain useful insights into your situation). For the time being, if you really like this guy, you’re going have to cut him a bit of slack.
Your circumstances aren’t hopeless. There are many men out there that have difficulty getting an erection, let alone being able to come inside their partner. How is he with oral sex? Has he been able to come while you give him a hand job? Have you discussed any hang-ups he has that might impact his performance such as religion, a fear of getting you pregnant or self-confidence? Use some of these questions as a basis to open the lines of communication between the two of you.
Avoid taking this situation personally without first discussing whether his inability to come has anything to do with you; after all, he did choose you to be his first! On the other hand, if his hang ups are too much for you to support, for both of your sakes, move on.
Just what i was looking for... help please!
I'm having this same problem.
I was a virgin up until two weeks ago (cant believe it, honestly, feels like its been months... still staring at the calendar here, we have sex quite a bit lol).
Sex feels great and all, and so far my fav. time seems to be on my period. but i cant seem to come without touching myself. he drives me wild orally and manually, and it feels great having sex with him, and i've kinda found some things here and there that turn me on, like his expression when he comes or his moans.
But i have to touch myself during the act or i wont come... at all. not even a little. We've gone at it for a half hour before, i dont know if thats short or long, but when i looked at the clock i was impressed. I dont know if i take even longer, or if its just because i am VERY new to sex. I want to be able to come with him. And situations like just last night, i was very turned on, very eager, but i just couldnt come. Could have been over stimulation sicne we were touching eachother on the ride home from the theater,or, like the article says, im just too used to my hand. should i not touch myself and not have sex with him for a period of time to sensitive myself? or is there something else we can do? (note, i do take awhile manually masturbating myself and/or with a toy)
don't worry at all. it
don't worry at all. it happened to me too. she was even giving it to me unprotected and nothing was happening. try morning sex. that's actually what got me to cum finally is just that little extra horniness that put me over the edge. from that day on i had no problem. I think it was a nervous thing. don't dumb the nervous thing down with beer! that makes u like superman and can't cum forever! but enjoy your sex life and dont worry, sex actually gets better as a relationship develops. enjoy my friend.
Orgasm by masturbation only
Should mention that once I get home, I stop masturbating and only have sex with my wife. That helps re-sensitize me too.
ejaculation by masturbation only
As a seaman, I wind up spending half the year on board ships; that means I do masturbate quite a lot as my wife stays at home. Upon returning home to her from a vessel we find that it takes me a week or so to become sensitive enough to orgasm without masturbating.
That's what we have found, that the masturbation, since it is done with a stronger grip and is generally a firmer stimulus, desensitizes my penis some and it takes a while to get back to where vaginal touch is enough for me.
Sooo. I'm 16, and have been
Sooo. I'm 15, and have been with my 17yr old boyfriend for 3 months. We were both pretty eager, and both virgins, so we had sex. We've done lots of things to get comfortable with each other beforehand, but the only problem is- i can only make him climax or cum is through a handjob; sex doesnt work, or even oral. am I doing something wrong?
can only climax by masturbating
This is my conern. I am a middle age man with much younger partners but the only way I can climax is by
masturbating. I am told this condition is delayed ejaculation.
If someone can help me with this problem or direct me where I could get some answers it would be greatly appreciated.
hmmm, do you get your girls
hmmm, do you get your girls to do a little of the work? it could just be that you get too tired... that happens to my boyfriend all the time
i jsut take controll, go cowgirl style and he'll come in minutes if i want him too whereas he can be going for hours and not get close