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Threesomes – Guide to

Some people are attracted to threesomes for reasons similar to those enjoying group sex (but with just one less partner) – and some for other reasons. There are those simply looking to ‘try it all’ - perhaps during their more experimental college years … or those recently divorced after significant years of marriage (particularly those who married very young and missed out on the experimental years) and looking to spread their sexual wings by stepping outside the norm. There are also very sexual men and women who are just looking for more variety, and merely want/need more than the typical one-on-one sex act - at least once in a while.

A threesomes is a more intimate and ‘personal’ version of group sex with some unique characteristics, and so merits its own separate consideration.

Before reading this article further we recommend you check out our Introduction to Multi-partner Sex, then come back here to read-on for the specifics relating to threesomes.

Definition

A threesome is the act of one couple with an additional individual (or just three individuals) performing sexual activity together. A grouping of more than three lovers is described as ‘Group Sex’.

Difference between 'threesomes' and 'swinging' or 'polyamory'

Threesomes can be an aspect of Swinging or Polyamory, but it can also be different in that it does not require any of the participants to be in relationships with one another (whereas swinging and polyamory does). However, being a couple can be advantageous in getting a threesome initiated by inviting someone else to simply join in.

Different types of threesomes

The most common threesomes involve men who are looking to fulfill the fantasy of being with two women at the same time, especially if the women perform bi-sexual acts during the course of the threesome (otherwise known as ‘show time’)! There are also women who want to experience being with two men at the same time (not as uncommon as you might think). However, there are also threesomes consisting of the same sex (i.e. 3 men or 3 women). There are also threesomes that include bisexuality, and those that don't; some just want to experience their partner in a physically intimate situation with another person.

Why would someone initiate a threesome?

In addition to the points explored in our 'Introduction to Multi-partner Sex'...

A man or woman might be looking to please their partner by fulfilling his/her fantasies or bi-curious tendencies, and so agree to a threesome with another. Then, there is the bi-sexual person who is simply looking for that occasional excitement of a threesome.

For many bi-sexual women, having sex with a man is like having dinner ... it is something you have regularly. However, having sex with a woman is like having dessert... something you treat yourself to occasionally!

Swingers (defined as otherwise monogamous partners who have some level of sexual contact with one or more other people) will often enjoy any kind of an orgy, including threesomes. Also, a person who is looking for a lot of attention and wants to be the so-called ‘meat in the sandwich’ is a prime candidate for initiating a threesome.

Pros and cons of threesomes

In addition to the points explored in our 'Introduction to Multi-partner Sex'...

For very sexual people, or for those who are bi-curious, a threesome can genuinely be an electrifying experience. For the couple, most of the advantages and disadvantages are very similar to those experienced in full-blown group sex, but in a more limited way. Threesomes can be a great ‘intro’ to group sex, giving new participants a feeling of greater control as they explore options away from monogamous sex.

Also, some people simply prefer the distinct feeling of a threesome – whereby the intimacy of monogamous sex is more retained, while including just one other person is an additional thrill.

One option of a threesome is to make one person the star, and let that person lay back while the other two devour him or her, making the person who is receiving at the time feel like a real prince or a princess! A great idea for a birthday present too! However, it’s nice to take turns receiving and giving, so that everyone gets a turn to be a prince or a princess.

But how does the outsider - the ‘guest’ - fit into the equation? Being the outsider in a threesome can be a great position to be in, because there is no love or emotion involved; you are there exclusively for the sex act. In most cases, the guest gets treated like a princess or prince, because the guest is the source of exhilaration and variety for the couple. Many times the guest is the couple’s fantasy come true, and that’s a pleasing feeling for the outsider. So, if you like a lot of attention, and if you like to fulfill other people’s fantasies, definitely consider being the guest in a threesome.

The most common difficulty in being the guest in a threesome is when he or she is participating with a couple who has never had a threesome together previously; this especially the case if you are the female guest where the wife/girlfriend is not bi-sexual or bi-curious, and the husband or boyfriend tries to push a bi-sexual act on his partner when she’s really not into it! That can really put the female guest in a very uncomfortable situation - and easily cause upset between the partners.

In other cases, one partner might start to get jealous watching his or her partner having sex with another person – especially if they feel left-out, which obviously results in making it a distressing situation for everyone involved. Needless to say, the guest can end up feeling responsible! A crucial rule is to make sure that no one gets left out! Too often a spouse gives more attention to the guest than his or her partner … no, no, no! Always make sure your partner gets just as much attention as the guest does! Not doing so can literally end a marriage. An easy solution is to take turns in giving and receiving, and be aware of how much time you spend on the guest; when it’s your partner’s turn to be the prince or princess make sure that he or she receives the same amount of time from you, maybe even a little more.

Conclusion

For those of you who are planning a threesome for the first time and have absolutely no clue as to what to do ... believe us, when you get right down to it, most of it will come naturally!

The beauty of threesomes, especially when Bi-sexuality is a part of it, is that each participant can almost always be giving and receiving at all times. It’s an incredibly hot experience that we believe everyone should at least consider trying ... at least once in their life!

We hope you have found this guide useful in making an informed decision as to whether this type of MPS sex is for you – or not. If you’re looking for more information regarding alternative choices, please refer to the rest of our related Multi-partner& Alternative Lifestyle articles, plus our highly active and informative Forum.

mfm threesome

Recently met an older couple who want to see me long term, which is great because its so hard to find something where you can have fun on the regular. We are meeting again soon and the wife is already talking about our future meetings so she really liked it a lot i guess.

Im a single guy and have had met a total of 6 couples, didnt do anything with 2 of them but one of them was bi i think. The rest ive met have all been bi, some are cool and ask and respect when you say no but others dont even ask and just start touching out of nowhere so thats something you have to establish when you talk about the rules beforehand.

Really like older couples though, late 40s mid 50s is great. Not much fear of a baby happening and they tend to like natural raw sex more. Just need to be careful about stds/hiv and get tested or ask to see health papers showing theyre clean.

I love it and want to find a gf/wife who would like to do it also but my biggest fear is them liking the other person emotionally, so i may not do it as often or only allow it when we are all together. Really want to try a fmf threesome one day though. Instead of focusing all the sexual energy at the female it would be a fun change to have 2 females wanting to devour me sexually :)

cant wait

me and my gf have been talking about one for sometime now cant wait to find someone

great fun

ive been in a couple 3ways both straight and bi. they're so much fun. its really hot watching the girl whos sucking you get fucked.
they're even more fun when the parties envolved are bi, i was the third for a married couple, so hot having a married couple share your cock at the same time. she was really into being DP in her vag

I have a Friend with Benefit

I have a Friend with Benefit thing with this guy friend for more then 2 years. Just recently he had been bugging me to have a three some with his cousin, who was in town. At first not sure i kept saying no. Until last Friday, we were hooking up for our thing and his cousin came along, and things just rolled on and i ended up having them both. Now i feel as if "I have lost my respect from my guy friend" because i enjoyed his cousin. And now Iam filled with guilt. What should i say to my guy friend?

Work for us

My fiance and I have a few partners that we regularly invite in with us. Having a threesome is quite possibly the best thing we ever did. We have a lot of trust in each other and have strong communication so it really was a no brainer. Watching her fuck another girl is insane. Getting both my cock and balls sucked simultaneously is unreal.
Sure when I am out of town she gets down without me, and while she travels my threesome partners and I have all-nighters, but if it always comes back to the relationship that's most important.
If your relationship is strong enough than go for it. If one or the other is the jealous type, save yourself the frustration.

Curious

I am a 20yr old female and have only been with one person before. I use to be very innocent and honestly have never watched porn before. But as I got older I got more interested in sex (obviously) and sex with my ex was amazing, we had sex easily 200 times (or more, didnt count we were together for a long time) and have had sexual Rps on the net, but besides that one guy I havent had sex with anyone else. I was in an abusive relationship so men scare me sometimes and it took alot of trust to be with my ex, and I found out that im really fucking kinky. I am also into both men and women and have made out with/kissed girls before and been in love with a girl before, but have never had sex with a girl yet(besides in an rp online).
I would like to have a threesome at some point but am kind of shy and again men scare me a little bit, plus if I were to have a threesome i would want to be with two guys, or two other girls, im not sure why but a guy and a girl mix isnt as sexual for me, maybe its because when im with a girl I tend to be the guy of the relationship, but when im with a guy im completely different so im not sure how those two sides of me would mix during sex.
Since I have only been with one guy, and havent yet had sex with a girl people tend to see me as innocent. Should I even consider going through with my fantasies of a threesome? and if so is there a way to make myself less intimidated by men? because before that bad relationship i wasnt scared of men at all, I just dont know how to get back to that place of not being scared, plus I've never had meaningless sex before and even though I really want to try a threesome Im worried I would regret it or feel like a whore even though I dont think you should feel that way if you have a threesome. advise?
(sorry if this is worded badly or w/e its almost 7am here and i havent even slept yet XD but figured id ask before I forgot haha)

My ex-wife wanted a threesome

My ex-wife wanted a threesome and found a guy. I kinda wanted to do it but at the same time, we were newly married and part of me didn't want to share her. But she wanted it, and I wanted to make her happy.
In the end, she focused too much on the other guy and not nearly enough on me. Then she broke out into her "I think I'm gay" phase in just 3 months.
So glad I got rid of her!

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they are really fun im looking to have one with my boyfriend

My wife asked me if we could

My wife asked me if we could have a threesome. What are some good positions for a threesome. It would be our first one and i want it to be awesome.

My guy friend has asked me

My guy friend has asked me to have a 3somes with him. But I really don't no how to go about doing it cause i'm not into girl. But I have had thought of doing if its with the men I plan on being with forever.

looking for

We are getting married this year and have wanted to have a 3 some for awhile, but want to do it before the wedding. How do we find someone to do this with us?

help planing a 3 some

i want a have a three some wiht my boyfriend and another girl. how do i find someone to do it and how to get start with it.. PLEASE HELP

Advice

My girl and I both think a threesome would be fun and and exciting new thing to try, we have set rules for each other to make sure nothing gets out of hand and we have also found a guest (girl) for it. We decided where we are going to have it and y girl has talked to the other about doing bi sexual things and shes fine with it. I was just wondering if there's anything else I should talk to my girl about or the guest or both. Any advice would be helpful since I and her also are very new to this!

how to bring it up?

i would love to do a guy and two girl threesome, but i dont know how to bring it up to either the guy or the girl...so how can i bring it up?

hey Landree

Hows it going well it depends on whether the guy is your bf or not if its your bf then you should be able to bring it up to him and i am sure that he will be cool with it or if your looking for someone to have a 3 some with my girl and I are looking for someone to have a threesome with.

Looking for a 3some

i am Bisexual and doesn't mind being in a relationship with a chick but I am currently engaged to a wonderful man. My fiancee and I are looking to have a 3some so now we are just looking for that right chick to join us in our "play time." The only fears I have is that our feelings for each other will change or he will show her more attention than me and that afterwards he will look at me differently but I am the type of person who is down to try anything and is all for a great time so we shall see how it goes.
Anyone on here who has tried it before and can give me some pointers or words of advice?????

My BF and I have talked

My BF and I have talked about...and I have agreed to a threesome. He has a friend that is recently divorced, I met him once, very good looking and I'm attracted to him. And it's something I would like to try. So Saturday night at my BF parents house I'm going to have sex with two men. I hope it will be as fun as it sounds. The only condition I put on it is that he has to wear protection.

my experience

ive started sorta seeing a couple dis past month.. we have been 2gether twice now n its da 1st time i was w/ a gurl all da way we talked n we actually wana keep doin it so i agreed i wouldnt c anyone else it is fun but ive nvr done dis b4 so i do think bout if something bad happens its so unconventional lol idk how i'd tell any of my friends im just keeping it as if i have 1 guy friend w/ benefits ha da 1st time i was w/ dem we went 2 a club drinked n danced by den we wer pretty drunk n started kissing so we decided 2 get a room n it all went down ;) i have to admit tho i like her a more n he actually wants 2 c me w/out her once but i dont think dat b ok n im not as attracted 2 him as to her she's bi n she's da 1 dat had da idea actually dey been together more dan 7 yrs. now soo dey wana have funn i just keep thinkin how long will it last im 21 n der bout 24 so 4 rite now i guess well just have funn lol i just dont kno wat 2 classify maself as? "in a relationship", "in an open relationship", "its complicated", or "single"?? haha

just a random thing(i think )

a couple nights ago, my bf went to his best friends birthday party, and well he was drunk and havent seen for a while. Well like he was going through pics of me, and like since he was drunk, he was careless and some friends of his where there and saying that i was hot, and if i wasnt his, they'd fuck me. Well one was a girl, and basically she is known to be very hot and wanted to have sex with me too. Him, her, and his best friend talked about having a 3some with my bf, her,and me. And he is this very very kinky guy(mmm, sooo fun) and liked the idea of it. Well today we were talking about it. Like he wasnt sure if im into all that,so he asked wat was the most i've done with another girl, and i said kissed and given some drunk lapdances. Then he asked if i liked the idea of 3somes. And i told him i dont know. So like all day i've thought of all the great, freaky, sexy ideas. And like he also told me he'd b onle touching me. But i still dont know, but im really considering it, but i might tell him to wait first.

how can i tell if my gf

how can i tell if my gf wants to have a three some because one day she wants to then the next day she don't so how can i tell if she does.

I would love to have a 3

I would love to have a 3 some but I don't think my boyfriend would want to.... maybe I will just find someone else to have one with! ;)

hey

He may not want to have a 3some with you and another man but he may be all for having a 3some with another chick ;) My man isn't down for another guy on me but since im Bi i don't have a problem with a 3some with a chick but I made some rules for him to go by, so maybe you should give that a try

im curious how one becomes

im curious how one becomes part of a threesome does the couple just pick a random person or what? and if so how and where

It all depends.... There are

It all depends.... There are a lot of female that want to be involved with another chick and her man.

I am straight and have a

I am straight and have a boyfriend for over a year now. I also think chicks are hot and we decided together that we want to have a threesome. He basically just wants me and the girl to have fun together while he watches and gets minimal action and this is fine with me. How do you approach someone about being in a threesome and how do you tell them its only for pleasure with me and not really my boyfriend?

go to a lesbian bar and get

go to a lesbian bar and get picked.let everyone there know you together with ur bf and who hits on you is cool with him

Ask the other girl if she

Ask the other girl if she would wanna put on a show for your man! It works all the time with my wife when she wants to hook up with other women!!

Important advice (FFM)

I just wanted to give some advice. Even though im only 20, based of my experience I feel as if i learned a lot.

Threesomes can be fun and exiting. But it is important to communicate and realise that each other is your main priority. Also it is important to talk to the third party and make sure everyone is sure of everything before anything happens. My gf and I took things slow and we had some struggles with finding the right woman however things worked out for the best in the end!

ive had 2 threesomes. the

ive had 2 threesomes. the first with 2 guys. the last one was with a girl friend and her fiance. it was lots of fun.

FMF with lesbian friend

My friend (17) and I (16) both share the fantasy of having a FMF 3 way as I am bi-curious and he's, well... a guy. He said his lesbian friend would be interested. Does anyone see a problem with this? Would she ignore my friend because she's not attracted to guys?

I fucked a lesbian in the

I fucked a lesbian in the ass while she ate out my girl the lesbian didn't care she just like Gavin something fuk her most lesbians will do both

Me And My Girl....

My girl agreed to have a threesome...I told her that i only want it two girl and me adn she agreed she feels the same cause its my fantasy. but wat if later she wants another guy would i be wrong to deny her that if its her fantasy?????

figure it out first

My fiance proposes this to me often. Frankly I think she is bisexual so it just make sense to add the female. And since I am not gay or interested in guys like she is interested in girls, I cannot see this ever playing out this way. On the other hand I really wouldn't mind if I watched her fuck another guy. I wouldn't mind joining in, wouldn't mind the typical guy fears - cocks touching balls rubbing together. I want her to be happy. She is happy with the girls. Its not just my fantasy but it is hers too. Get to the bottom of what each of you want before establishing the threesome. If you don't mind sharing her with another guy than go for it, if you do than don't.

well... if its her fantasy

well... if its her fantasy and she has fulfilled yours, why not return the favor? but as far as i can tell, she hasnt asked for mmf so youve hot nothing to worry about.

Talk to her

I had the same thought once upon a time. But all you can do is just talk to her before hand. If she can agree then your good to go with what you have planned. However if she thinks that she may want a MMF threesome then you both might just have to sacrifice your fantasies out of respect for each other!

give her what she wants,

give her what she wants, denying her will just make her not trust you

Threesomes

I would never have a threesome. Personally, I wouldn't be able to watch my partner do things to someone else. But I'm not judging. All people have their own preferences. It's interesting to read about it and to find out what other people like.

Agreement

I think that if the couple shares the same fantasy of having a three some then its great..i think a three some between two girl and one guy is cool but if my girl is like hell no then it would never cross my mind again..

divorce felt awsome...

my husband had just left me for annother woman so i went to his best friends house for a lil revenge you might say... lol. half way through the sex with his best friend i realized he was there too! it was awsome, the dp felt great! now every so often thr three of us hook up for a good time.

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Being that I am a professional in this area, I appreciate the sex form 101. The information is pretty good. However on the 3some side with loving couples I disagree.

For example in your case your hubby was likely already disconnected and was look for an out it the relationship, that was the other woman.

If a couple as open non-judgmental communication and a very healthy relationship, 3some can be amazing and there is no jealousy. Pure fun exploring each others fantasies out of love for each other. Now that being said I have encounter very few couples who have a healthy enough relationship to venture this way. In which case I agree with the sexinfo101 info on this topic.

So before venturing out into swing or threesomes make sure your relationship is a healthy one.

I am not just speaking about this topic professionally but also personally. I was in an amazing relationship with my call it soulmate, she was like the air the breathed, every day got better, I could barely wait to run home to her each day. We were able to do all thing wild things and yes 3somes and the affect of that was it brought our relationship to an even highter level that I never though possible. It is unfortunate that I lost her to a car crash.

I find it sad that most people will never experience the level of love trust respect and communcation we had. Less than 10% of the relationship out there are like that and my associates tell me that that number is even optimystic. So I go out there to teach the communcation skills and the keys to keeping the relationship in the honey phase for ever!!! Yes it is possible.

KINKY!!!!!

Thats i great story....quick question how did you barely notice he was there but i like you out look on dp...i only did it once...but i couldnt do it with a girl i wanna be with....then that fucks up me and two girls huh?????

sex

i think the good sex just with wife or gf

My girlfriend last night got

My girlfriend last night got really horny together, and we basically said that we could do a 3/4some if we wanted, I'm really up for it tho i am a tad sxard that she's gona get joules after or something like that. To be honest i dont mind if we do a 4some, it sounds kinda hot. So anyone got any stories that would help, or stories in general, me n my girl get off on hot sex stories ;)
Thanks

this weekend

My wife went out this past weekend and I decided to stay home. She usually doesn't stay out late. I woke up about 2 in the morning to find her not home yet. I checked my phone to see if she had called or text me, and there was a text. She had run into an old high school girlfriend and decided to go to breakfast after the bars. Knowing what she was doing put me at ease and I went back to bed. About a half hour later I heard them downstairs talking and giggling. I laid there in bed listening to them for a while and then they got quiet after about 20 minutes. My curiosity got the best of me, so I went to start down the stairway and could hear moaning and kissing sounds. I walked down the stairs slowly and saw my wife's friend on her knees on the couch, fully naked and my wife slowly licking her ass and pussy. I was instantly hard at the sight of this. I began stroking my cock while watching them. They both looked so hot. My wife is 5'5", blonde, shoulder length, slim and tone with 34b, and her friend is about 5'7", auburn hair to the mid back, same build with 34dd. As I stood there stoking my cock, watching, I felt an orgasm building. So I walked the rest of the way down the stairs and stood behind my wife. She noticed me standing behind her stroking my cock. She smiled and went back to licking her friends ass and pussy. I motioned to her that I was about to come and she, reached out and began stroking my cock all while she continued licking that perfectly round ass. I tilted my head back and she tugged me closer to her friends ass. She move her face from her ass and I shot my load all over the crack of her ass. Her friend was startled at first, but then gave me a huge beautiful smile when my wife resumed licking her ass and my cum from it. She motioned to come around to the back of the couch and began stroking my cock and balls til I was hard again. She the began sucking my cock slowly. I couldn't keep my eyes off my wife as she made a meal out of her friends ass. Her friend was moaning as she sucked my cock. My wife kept eye contact with me as she buried her tongue in that ass. My cock began to twitch and I filled her frienda mouth full of cum. My wife stood up and came over and kissed me. She told me that I should go down on her friend while she sucked my cock. I walked around to the front of the couch and turned her friend on her back and began kissing her lips and mouth passionately. I could taste my cum in her mouth. This was a huge turn-on and by then my wife had my cock in her mouth. Her friend got up, I sat down and she straddled my legs with her feet and stood with her ass in my face. My wife began sucking my cock as I feasted on her friends soaked pussy. I couldn't believe what was going on. I then began licking her tight little ass and darting my tongue into her anus. I could feel her tremble and soon she came. My wife got on her knees and began licking her friends clit. She came and soaked my wife and I. My wife moved her friend out of the way and straddled my cock with her back to me. As she began fucking me, I felt her friends mouth and tongue on my balls and cock as my wife slid up amd down my cock. This feeling didn't take long for me to erupt. I came, filling my wifes pussy. She started rubbing her clit as her friend continued licking my balls. My wife came a few minutes later. After she came her friend lapped at my wife's pussy, cleaning out juices from it and eventually pulled my wife from me and licked her pussy clean of my cum. After all that we went in and took a shower together and all crawled into our bed for some rest. A few ours later it all started again. I was woke up by my wife's friend sucking my cock and my wife watching and masterbating with her vibe.

OMG!

That is SOOOOOO HOT!!!

;-)

Now this is a great essay on creative writing. Thanks

wow is about all i have to

wow is about all i have to say! that is sooooo hot!!!

Damn!

That was really hot! I bet you're glad that you woke up at that time!

My girlfriend and i have

My girlfriend and i have been together for 3 years and we have been trying to look for a girl for a threesome. We both dont want another male we both just want to do a female. At first i didn't take this subject seriously because i didnt know how she really felt about it but now im for sure that this is something that we both want! It can be hard to find someone at times. Usually the girl just wants to fuck either me or her and not both and neither of us wants that! We have someone in mind but now we are just talking and getting to know each other better! Is there anything that i should know, consider or any advice out there. This would be my first threesome and i am exited however i want to know what i can do to make sure this is an enjoyable experience to have and maybe do a second time!

my threesome

Me and my husband has been together a lil over a year now and we have been talkin bout havein a threesome for a while now well we hocked up with one of my friends and got together. I fone night....everythang was ok and all I still felt a lil uncomfortable about the whole thang but went along with it u no hopein mayeb it would help spice up or relationship or something...well it keeps going and I was ok during it till he put her were she was eatin me out and he was doin he doggy style and I just couldn't look at him idn just something came over me that I couldn't maybe the fact that I was lettin the one I love fuck another girl yea I was there but still it just wasn't right....but after everythang was over and done with we went to sleep and my friend stayed with me for a couple more days...but now everytime I ask him if he wants to just have sex with him and me he always have a excuse to why he dnt want to or can't but he will text me and her askin if we wanted a threesome again.....idn what to think he will fuck me and another girl and is always up to that and all but when it comes to us he just isn't in the mood anymore and idn what to do bout it....so if anyone can help me wrap my head around that fact on why he won't just fuck me please help me out

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