Threesomes – Guide to
Some people are attracted to threesomes for reasons similar to those enjoying group sex (but with just one less partner) – and some for other reasons. There are those simply looking to ‘try it all’ - perhaps during their more experimental college years … or those recently divorced after significant years of marriage (particularly those who married very young and missed out on the experimental years) and looking to spread their sexual wings by stepping outside the norm. There are also very sexual men and women who are just looking for more variety, and merely want/need more than the typical one-on-one sex act - at least once in a while.
A threesomes is a more intimate and ‘personal’ version of group sex with some unique characteristics, and so merits its own separate consideration.
Before reading this article further we recommend you check out our Introduction to Multi-partner Sex, then come back here to read-on for the specifics relating to threesomes.
Definition
A threesome is the act of one couple with an additional individual (or just three individuals) performing sexual activity together. A grouping of more than three lovers is described as ‘Group Sex’.
Difference between 'threesomes' and 'swinging' or 'polyamory'
Threesomes can be an aspect of Swinging or Polyamory, but it can also be different in that it does not require any of the participants to be in relationships with one another (whereas swinging and polyamory does). However, being a couple can be advantageous in getting a threesome initiated by inviting someone else to simply join in.
Different types of threesomes
The most common threesomes involve men who are looking to fulfill the fantasy of being with two women at the same time, especially if the women perform bi-sexual acts during the course of the threesome (otherwise known as ‘show time’)! There are also women who want to experience being with two men at the same time (not as uncommon as you might think). However, there are also threesomes consisting of the same sex (i.e. 3 men or 3 women). There are also threesomes that include bisexuality, and those that don't; some just want to experience their partner in a physically intimate situation with another person.
Why would someone initiate a threesome?
In addition to the points explored in our 'Introduction to Multi-partner Sex'...
A man or woman might be looking to please their partner by fulfilling his/her fantasies or bi-curious tendencies, and so agree to a threesome with another. Then, there is the bi-sexual person who is simply looking for that occasional excitement of a threesome.
For many bi-sexual women, having sex with a man is like having dinner ... it is something you have regularly. However, having sex with a woman is like having dessert... something you treat yourself to occasionally!
Swingers (defined as otherwise monogamous partners who have some level of sexual contact with one or more other people) will often enjoy any kind of an orgy, including threesomes. Also, a person who is looking for a lot of attention and wants to be the so-called ‘meat in the sandwich’ is a prime candidate for initiating a threesome.
Pros and cons of threesomes
In addition to the points explored in our 'Introduction to Multi-partner Sex'...
For very sexual people, or for those who are bi-curious, a threesome can genuinely be an electrifying experience. For the couple, most of the advantages and disadvantages are very similar to those experienced in full-blown group sex, but in a more limited way. Threesomes can be a great ‘intro’ to group sex, giving new participants a feeling of greater control as they explore options away from monogamous sex.
Also, some people simply prefer the distinct feeling of a threesome – whereby the intimacy of monogamous sex is more retained, while the thrill of including one other is an added thrill.
One option of a threesome is to make one person the star, and let that person lay back while the other two devour him or her, making the person who is receiving at the time feel like a real prince or a princess! A great idea for a birthday present too! However, it’s nice to take turns receiving and giving, so that everyone gets a turn to be a prince or a princess.
But how does the outsider - the ‘guest’ - fit into the equation? Being the outsider in a threesome can be a great position to be in, because there is no love or emotion involved; you are there exclusively for the sex act. In most cases, the guest gets treated like a princess or prince, because the guest is the source of exhilaration and variety for the couple. Many times the guest is the couple’s fantasy come true, and that’s a pleasing feeling for the outsider. So, if you like a lot of attention, and if you like to fulfill other people’s fantasies, definitely consider being the guest in a threesome.
The most common difficulty in being the guest in a threesome is when he or she is participating with a couple who has never had a threesome together previously, especially if you are a female guest of a couple in which the wife/girlfriend is not bi-sexual or bi-curious, and the husband or boyfriend tries to push a bi-sexual act on his partner when she’s really not into it! That can really put the female guest in a very uncomfortable situation, and easily cause upset between the partners.
In other cases, one partner might start to get jealous watching his or her partner having sex with another person – especially if they feel left-out, which obviously results in making it a distressing situation for everyone involved. Needless to say, the guest can end up feeling responsible! A crucial rule is to make sure that no one gets left out! Too often a spouse gives more attention to the guest than his or her partner … no, no, no! Always make sure your partner gets just as much attention as the guest does! Not doing so can literally end a marriage. An easy solution is to take turns in giving and receiving, and be aware of how much time you spend on the guest; when it’s your partner’s turn to be the prince or princess make sure that he or she receives the same amount of time from you, maybe even a little more.
Conclusion
For those of you who are planning a threesome for the first time and have absolutely no clue as to what to do ... believe us, when you get right down to it, most of it will come naturally!
The beauty of threesomes, especially when Bi-sexuality is a part of it, is that each participant can almost always be giving and receiving at all times. It’s an incredibly hot experience that we believe everyone should at least consider trying ... at least once in their life!
We hope you have found this guide useful in making an informed decision as to whether this type of MPS sex is for you – or not. If you’re looking for more information regarding alternative choices, please refer to the rest of our related Multi-partner& Alternative Lifestyle articles, plus our highly active and informative Forum.
looking for
We are getting married this year and have wanted to have a 3 some for awhile, but want to do it before the wedding. How do we find someone to do this with us?
help planing a 3 some
i want a have a three some wiht my boyfriend and another girl. how do i find someone to do it and how to get start with it.. PLEASE HELP
Advice
My girl and I both think a threesome would be fun and and exciting new thing to try, we have set rules for each other to make sure nothing gets out of hand and we have also found a guest (girl) for it. We decided where we are going to have it and y girl has talked to the other about doing bi sexual things and shes fine with it. I was just wondering if there's anything else I should talk to my girl about or the guest or both. Any advice would be helpful since I and her also are very new to this!
me ;)
i started having sex quite young so all my sexual experiences have been early. I had my first threesome when I was 16. I was drunk, very drunk and still can't remember a thing! all I know is from the pictures -_-
looked liked I was having fun ;)
email me onehornygirl@hotmail.co.uk
how to bring it up?
i would love to do a guy and two girl threesome, but i dont know how to bring it up to either the guy or the girl...so how can i bring it up?
Looking for a 3some
i am Bisexual and doesn't mind being in a relationship with a chick but I am currently engaged to a wonderful man. My fiancee and I are looking to have a 3some so now we are just looking for that right chick to join us in our "play time." The only fears I have is that our feelings for each other will change or he will show her more attention than me and that afterwards he will look at me differently but I am the type of person who is down to try anything and is all for a great time so we shall see how it goes.
Anyone on here who has tried it before and can give me some pointers or words of advice?????
My BF and I have talked
My BF and I have talked about...and I have agreed to a threesome. He has a friend that is recently divorced, I met him once, very good looking and I'm attracted to him. And it's something I would like to try. So Saturday night at my BF parents house I'm going to have sex with two men. I hope it will be as fun as it sounds. The only condition I put on it is that he has to wear protection.
my experience
ive started sorta seeing a couple dis past month.. we have been 2gether twice now n its da 1st time i was w/ a gurl all da way we talked n we actually wana keep doin it so i agreed i wouldnt c anyone else it is fun but ive nvr done dis b4 so i do think bout if something bad happens its so unconventional lol idk how i'd tell any of my friends im just keeping it as if i have 1 guy friend w/ benefits ha da 1st time i was w/ dem we went 2 a club drinked n danced by den we wer pretty drunk n started kissing so we decided 2 get a room n it all went down ;) i have to admit tho i like her a more n he actually wants 2 c me w/out her once but i dont think dat b ok n im not as attracted 2 him as to her she's bi n she's da 1 dat had da idea actually dey been together more dan 7 yrs. now soo dey wana have funn i just keep thinkin how long will it last im 21 n der bout 24 so 4 rite now i guess well just have funn lol i just dont kno wat 2 classify maself as? "in a relationship", "in an open relationship", "its complicated", or "single"?? haha
just a random thing(i think )
a couple nights ago, my bf went to his best friends birthday party, and well he was drunk and havent seen for a while. Well like he was going through pics of me, and like since he was drunk, he was careless and some friends of his where there and saying that i was hot, and if i wasnt his, they'd fuck me. Well one was a girl, and basically she is known to be very hot and wanted to have sex with me too. Him, her, and his best friend talked about having a 3some with my bf, her,and me. And he is this very very kinky guy(mmm, sooo fun) and liked the idea of it. Well today we were talking about it. Like he wasnt sure if im into all that,so he asked wat was the most i've done with another girl, and i said kissed and given some drunk lapdances. Then he asked if i liked the idea of 3somes. And i told him i dont know. So like all day i've thought of all the great, freaky, sexy ideas. And like he also told me he'd b onle touching me. But i still dont know, but im really considering it, but i might tell him to wait first.
how can i tell if my gf
how can i tell if my gf wants to have a three some because one day she wants to then the next day she don't so how can i tell if she does.
I would love to have a 3
I would love to have a 3 some but I don't think my boyfriend would want to.... maybe I will just find someone else to have one with! ;)
hey
He may not want to have a 3some with you and another man but he may be all for having a 3some with another chick ;) My man isn't down for another guy on me but since im Bi i don't have a problem with a 3some with a chick but I made some rules for him to go by, so maybe you should give that a try
i was at home in my spa with
i was at home in my spa with my roommate, drinking and we kissed, i took off her bather top and kissed a line down to her breasts. her hands went and slide of my bather bottoms, she played with my clit. i took of her bottoms so she was completely naked in the water. i said to her "lets move inside" and i took her hand leading her (after drying each other) to the couch inside. she sat on the couch and i went over and kissed her deeply my hand working down her toned body to reach her wet pussy. i went down on her eating her till she was moaning so loud. i felt hands running over my back and ass i looked around to see my bf with his hard dick out, i reached out and start stroking him, went back to eating her and i was in a doggy stlye and montion for him to fuck me. she began to shake and soon came. i cleaned her and she got of the couch and my bf and i changed into butterfly with the girl playing with my clit and his balls till we both came, she licked us both clean of each others come.
this sounds devine would
this sounds devine would like some action like this myself
wowwww
I like guys and im not attracted to girls but I've always wondered what a 3some would be like. I have plenty of guy friends who have asked me to participate in one but I'm just not sure what to do. Any suggestions/comments????
Damn! This is getting me
Damn! This is getting me totally hot right now!
WOW, thanks for sharing that
WOW, thanks for sharing that HOT story ;)
Yea totally hot :) -Shannon
Yea totally hot :)
-Shannon
im curious how one becomes
im curious how one becomes part of a threesome does the couple just pick a random person or what? and if so how and where
It all depends.... There are
It all depends.... There are a lot of female that want to be involved with another chick and her man.
I am straight and have a
I am straight and have a boyfriend for over a year now. I also think chicks are hot and we decided together that we want to have a threesome. He basically just wants me and the girl to have fun together while he watches and gets minimal action and this is fine with me. How do you approach someone about being in a threesome and how do you tell them its only for pleasure with me and not really my boyfriend?
go to a lesbian bar and get
go to a lesbian bar and get picked.let everyone there know you together with ur bf and who hits on you is cool with him
Ask the other girl if she
Ask the other girl if she would wanna put on a show for your man! It works all the time with my wife when she wants to hook up with other women!!
Important advice (FFM)
I just wanted to give some advice. Even though im only 20, based of my experience I feel as if i learned a lot.
Threesomes can be fun and exiting. But it is important to communicate and realise that each other is your main priority. Also it is important to talk to the third party and make sure everyone is sure of everything before anything happens. My gf and I took things slow and we had some struggles with finding the right woman however things worked out for the best in the end!
ive had 2 threesomes. the
ive had 2 threesomes. the first with 2 guys. the last one was with a girl friend and her fiance. it was lots of fun.
FMF with lesbian friend
My friend (17) and I (16) both share the fantasy of having a FMF 3 way as I am bi-curious and he's, well... a guy. He said his lesbian friend would be interested. Does anyone see a problem with this? Would she ignore my friend because she's not attracted to guys?
I fucked a lesbian in the
I fucked a lesbian in the ass while she ate out my girl the lesbian didn't care she just like Gavin something fuk her most lesbians will do both
Me And My Girl....
My girl agreed to have a threesome...I told her that i only want it two girl and me adn she agreed she feels the same cause its my fantasy. but wat if later she wants another guy would i be wrong to deny her that if its her fantasy?????
well... if its her fantasy
well... if its her fantasy and she has fulfilled yours, why not return the favor? but as far as i can tell, she hasnt asked for mmf so youve hot nothing to worry about.
Talk to her
I had the same thought once upon a time. But all you can do is just talk to her before hand. If she can agree then your good to go with what you have planned. However if she thinks that she may want a MMF threesome then you both might just have to sacrifice your fantasies out of respect for each other!