Phone Sex
Phone sex is probably one of the more common 'alternative' types of sexual encounter. Both men and women of many different ages have tried it, but many of us get their first taste of it at a young age, often when at a distance from a partner, keeping in touch by phone.
Phone sex is a fairly ‘safe’ style of alternative sexual contact, as there is no physical risk at all, except for what you do to yourself. Phone sex basically amounts to Masturbation while talking to someone on the phone. Of course there is a small risk of having your feelings hurt if someone embarrasses you, but this only usually happens with people you don’t know. Most of us perform phone sex with a known partner, so it’s basically risk free.
Some people find phone sex easier than actual sex. One reason for this might be that, for folks who are a little sensitive or self conscious, it allows them to avoid embarrassment. Others like the fantasy or Role Playing aspect, where they can imagine the erotic details themselves and set up the perfect sexual fantasy. No matter what the reason, there is much you can do when your partner is unseen.
What you can do when you’re having phone sex is limited only to your imagination. Most people appear to feel that the more creative you get, the better the sex. You could be in any room, doing anything. If you have a cordless hands-free phone, your options multiply. One word of caution – avoid the bathtub. We all know electricity and water don’t mix. As with any form of sex, as long as nobody gets hurt and everything is agreed to, anything goes.
What is important from the start when having phone sex with a partner that you’ve known for a while is to learn each others ‘comfort zones’. What are you comfortable with, and what is a little ‘out there’ for you. Discuss it before hand, and get a little idea of what each of you might like or dislike. Knowing this can make all the difference in the quality of your next encounters.
Although most people think of phone sex as being a 'guy thing', especially with the way phone sex ads are set up most of the time, its interesting to find that many women enjoy good phone sex as well.
What is ‘good’ phone sex? It is individual for each person, but the gender difference appears to be that while most men enjoy the sound of a woman getting off, making moaning and other sounds of pleasure, women appear to like the psychological element of fantasy with their phone sex partners. But again, it really is a personal choice.
One big question for many people is "How do I bring it up with my partner?" - especially when they are unsure of whether their partner would be interested. To start with, it should be mentioned as casually as possible. Most people are at least a little nervous about talking about sexual preferences with new partners, or even established ones. It's something to try when the subject of sex is already on the table.
For example, when one partner is going away and someone says ‘I guess we’d better find ways to please ourselves for a while…” you have a great lead in. The important thing is to go into it when the subject of sex is already naturally there. If you don't try to force it, things should flow more naturally.
Of course, you don’t have to wait for your partner to go far away before you try out phone sex! Try it as a new twist for someone close by. Phone sex makes a great early experiment for couples looking into new ideas.
Icebreakers are a big key. Once you get the ball rolling, the rest tends to follow pretty naturally. You might start by gently describing what you want to do to partner. "You know what’s really nice? When a (woman/man)..." Some people use humor – "If you were here, I'd slap you on the ass and say..." or "I’d slap you on the ass and call you my little..." You fill in the blanks with what sounds good to you. Just think of how you can make a gentle sexy comment to test the waters and let things go from there. Check out our articles on Dirty Talk - Basics and Advanced - for ideas of how you can get this going, or enhance your exisitng repertoire!
With all this talk about phone sex, there ought to be at least a mention of paid phone sex lines. Yes, paid phone sex can be highly erotic. It’s the reason these lines of lines are so popular – a lot of people enjoy them. The biggest advantage here is that you don't have to prepare to talk to someone, or break the ice. You get on the line, and they’re ready to go. This might be an option for people wanting to get the flavor of phone sex without the risk of being turned down. It’s also one way of getting to know if phone sex is 'your kind of thing', and whether phone sex with an established partner is possible and enjoyable for you.
The downside is, of course, the cost. Paid phone sex is expensive. And there is the added disadvantage of the few 'bad apples' that will overcharge and charge for services you didn’t want. You can avoid a lot of this by going with some of the bigger, more established lines. Looking for names of companies that have been around for a while can help you get the most for your money here.
Overall, phone sex can be a great addition to your sexual repertoire, with lots of positives and very few negatives compared to some other types of alternative sex. If you haven’t done so already, give it a try!
I love phone sex! I have a
I love phone sex! I have a very vivid imagination where I can feel whatever I see, read, or hear. My boyfriend just starts off by telling me to imagine something and goes from there and I do the same to him. I swear I've had at least three orgasms each time we've had phone sex. One time I almost fell off my bed from squirming.
You shouldnt be shy about
You shouldnt be shy about it, i love doing this with my husband since he is in the military and is away on training for a couple of months i dont want to resort to just toys. We actually just got done having sex over the phone mmmmm ;-) i love it when he takes control and he loaves to hear me moan louder and louder it makes him want to cum faster...anyways what you should do is start of by talking about ur mans soft lips and how u want to kiss them then make ur way down to his neck and etc. Or tell him what exactly it is u want him to do to u, it worked for me when we 1st started having phone sex. i was shy at first but now i love it. Just relax and let ur imagination run wild.
im not really sure hot to
im not really sure hot to have phone sex. my man is in prison and always wants phone sex and i just shy up like im in a room of a hundred people. what should i do. what should i say?
tricky
most prisons have a public phone so I mean hes not a lone. Of course no one car hear you. I think that you should maybe give it a shot and if you don't like it then it is not for you. Next time he asks tell him that your thinking about (and be thinking about it lol) then the next time surprise him and just do it. Tell him how much you miss him and miss his mouth all over your body. and that want to feel his lips kiss you all over ect. it isn't to heard. Make sure you sure a seductive voice and moan that way he knows you into it. If you don't want to do it at all tell him that you would rather let his imagination roll and wait till he gets home so the sex will be amazing!
This is so much fun me n my
This is so much fun me n my girl do this alot
me n her are both very sexual with eachother
so this came very easy I love tellin her the things
that I'd do to her n listen to her moan till she
can't take it anymore I def regimens this for everyone
no matter if ur on the oposite sides of the country
like my situation or just down the street one way to
keep you on there mind n wanting you more
Oh yes
Hey are there any girls that would like to try this out with me? If so email me paintballskilz8@gmail.com
What works for me
I ♥ this! What happened as my first phone sex was me n my bf were just bored and I brought up the topic of sex & what we could do to/with each other, and then we kept talking about dif. options until I eventually started moaning an moaning and than I came! It was very nice! ;) I hope this is of any help to anyone! =)
I tried this a few times
I tried this a few times with my wife. She has a hard time getting into it. But once I called one morning after getting out of the shower and she asked what I was doing. I just mentioned I was laying on the bed naked. She asked if my cock was hard or soft and I replied soft. She just started talking dirty about how she woulf make it hard if she was there. That she would want to feel it between her fingers and then on her pussy. I mentioned it was getting hard now and she asked me to touch it for her. So I started to stroke myself and talk to her about it. How good it felt and that it was nice and hard. It was fun while it lasted.
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Ive tried this
Yea my ex and I did this when we were away from each other the only problem (which I never told her) Since I know my body better I finished alot sooner than I would if we had sex so I kept dirty talking to keep her going lol
phone sex
Will have to try this!
I cannot understand that
I cannot understand that what is the fun with phone sex talks because you can get the sex feeling but thereafter you can only sulk in bed.
Jason,
EBay Adult Store
fully understood
fully understood
Help me please >.<
I'm in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend...we talk over the intrnet and the phone but we've never actually met face-to-face, and recently he's been mentioning phone sex and i've always said that i'm too nervous to try it just yet, and once we've spoken more often over the phone i'd like to try it, but the last time he phoned me (literally yesterday) he started insinuating that he'd like to try phone sex but i just completely froze up and he was like 'i can see i'm making you nervous, i'll stop' and it was sorta awkward, and i think he feels rejected >.< what should i do?
Phone sex
Ill give you a lil personal advice first of all start out slow just as in real sex play the base's theory start at first base with a passionate kiss and kissing in general where you would like to kiss him and where you would like to be kissed on your body then move to second base of a lil touchy feely with the kissing then third with all the foreplay of it such as oral sex and then last go home and tell him how you want it and where you want it and how you want it and what you want to do to him hope this help's it really is fun and can lead to some real satisfaction
Unkle
phone and text sex
Phone sex is great, and i love hearing a girl monan loudly and even scream. Its great when the talk dirty to u too.So if any girls read this and u ever want to phone or text lemme know, i be more than glad to participate!!
Since Me And My Boyfriend
Since Me And My Boyfriend Live So Far Apart (Him In New York An Me In Washington) We Have Phone Sex Every Night... We Are Hoping To Have Sex As Soon As He Comes Down Here To Visit, But Until Then Phone Sex It Is. Anyway This Is An Amazing Tool For All Long Distance Couples And I Would Suggest It For Anyone Just Looking To Have Some Fun
i feel ya
Yeah I feel the same way! Im in a long distance relationship and its really health to have phone sex! It keeps that passion there for each other.
if any guy wants to please
if any guy wants to please me through cybering, then private message me ;)
Masturbating doesn't
Masturbating doesn't pleasure me, no matter how intense i do it, i can never get any pleasure out of masturbation, i only ever get horny when guys chat dirty to me online. I get horny even at the simplest of stuff then, easily pleased :)
Is this weird, or wrong in any way?
Phone sex
I understan. Let me please you . My email is bevrange@yahoo.com. Contant me when you feel to.
I am a man that enjoy phonesex
its not bad maybe you just
its not bad maybe you just like the touch and feel of another guy better than your own
Heres my number
Sext me anytime. preferably the moment u read this. Number is 610-241-6045. Hit me up ladies. Also if u wanna hav email sex or exotic photo exchange i wil be happy to do it with any girl. any age. jrfire48@yahoo.com. that is also my IM.
Tex
Me and my love are separated by 864.35 miles (yes i have the exact number) and we do what I call "tex." We both have unlimited texting and we use it to have our little sessions of sex. In the begining of our relationship (which started online and is still kind of online due to her being 16) i was the one who was having the awkward talking parts and now that we do "tex" it has helped me experiment and want to see her as soon as shes 18. I really love this girl and i know online relationships don't tend to work but I honestly hope that this works.
It's really called sexting
It's really called sexting
distance is nothing
whenever u want sex....no matter where
ur phone so helps
it did for me when i was sick and admitted
my g/f made me cum in my sick bed
it was sweet...
but dont try it....
wat to say??
me and my bf have phone sex alot, but i let him do all the talking. i have no clue wat to even say, and when i finally get something to say, i can never come up with anything new....and suggestions?
I have the same problem, me
I have the same problem, me and my boyfriend are on the phone 2-3 hours every night while we're both in bedd... and he knows exactly what to say to turn me on, and i'm not going to lie, the things he says, do get me extremely horny! But then, when it comes to my turn to talk dirty, i just, completely shut down, and have no idea what to say!
any advice?? would be really appreciated!
Most guys like being asked,
Most guys like being asked, not told. Talkinf dirty by all means is great, but when you keep saying things, he has no interaction. its gets boring. Mix it up! ask a question and follow up with a statement. and if you ever draw a blank, theres alwats "what would you want me to do?" guys normally think about that so itll take a while for him to say it all. and then you can think up something of your own
Hope this helped :D
me and the wife take "phone sex" in a differnt direction
we're both money concious and get free texts to each others mobiles so we wrap phone sex and dirty letters into one, occasionally phoning each other near the end to "finish the job". surprisingly good fun! :)