No Pre-marital Sex...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for a few months now and we're pretty comfortable with each other. However she doesn't believe in pre-marital sex, but she's open for anything before that, and she emphasizes anything. All we do right now is basic foreplay, what are some things I can do to make it more interesting?
A. By pre-marital sex I am going to assume you mean penetrative vaginal and/or anal sex. You should both check out our editorial Am I Ready (For Her) – this will give her some guidance on how to know when she is mentally & physically ready for that first ‘full’ sexual relationship.
Then both of you should read all of our many articles on Kissing, Foreplay, how to Masturbate Together, Sensual/Sexual Massage … and perhaps the Oral Sex section. Reading these should help her define her boundaries as to exactly what she means by ‘open for anything’ (your interpretation of that will almost certainly be at least a little different from hers). It will also give you loads of new ideas and variations to explore.
If you really want to spice things up, then our Foreplay with Food and Foreplay with Hot Wax editorials should give you even more great ideas to keep you both entertained in the meantime!
We are conditioned as
We are conditioned as children to believe that sex is something to be shared between two married people. Many kids, and especially girls, start their first few relationships wanting to hold off until marriage. But sex is something that can be practiced by any who is mature enough, married or not. It is up to you to decide how you feel about the issue. Don't be bullied into believing anything. Not by your parents, your S.O., your friends, your church, or your state.
Respect your girlfriends wishes. If she is uncomfortable with it, you shouldn't push too hard. But she must also respect your wishes. That is to say, if you want a sexual component in your relationships, and she can't give that to you, you are free to pursue someone else who does. Relationships are an open market like that.
hold off as long a you can
Respect her wishes. I you wait until you get married to have sex, It will be worth it. I wish I had.