Deep Penetration Hurts

Q. When I am having sex with my boyfriend I always want him to penetrate further, or go harder, but we can't because I always feel pain. In the end we're stuck with normal boring positions and would love to explore. I’m embarrassed to ask my doctor - just curious if you have any idea what could cause this pain...?

A. If he has an average penis size (or less), then sufficient levels of foreplay, lubrication and a gentler approach to his technique should fix the problem. Try positions where less thrusting is involved or where you have more control over how deep he goes – and at what angle. This above advice also applies if he is on the larger side, but even more so… Check out our Forum and do a search for readers' experiences and tips on this subject.

Never be embarrassed to ask your doctor a question – one day it might save your life! Do you really think s/he has never heard this question (and a whole lot more) before? If you have never had a pelvic exam then you should schedule one to see whether there is any physical problem (by the way, any female should get this kind of check-up BEFORE becoming sexually active).