His body is too wide for Cowgirl

Q. I have a friend that I want to learn how I can ride better.( me on top) He is wider than I can spread my legs. How do I fix this so I can ride him like I want? Or should I squat over him and go up and down instead of on my knees?

A. Having sex with a partner of different dimensions can at times be something of a challenge. Whether they are shorter, taller, wider - or if agility of either is the problem. The answer is not to force either of you into uncomfortable positions ... that will only take the fun out of the proceedings!

However, there are still loads of positions to choose from - and it does not mean that you can not improvise on some of the more challenging options. As you have already suggested, you can try squat variations of girl-on-top positions. Whether he is overweight, or there is just a flexibility issue, check out our editorial on Positions for Overweight Lovers and our 3D Animated Sex Positions section for lots of ideas on suitable positions that you can explore together.

In the long-term - and if the difference is not too great - try improving your flexibility through stretching and (perhaps) yoga. If his width is down to being overweight, then improving your sex life could be an added incentive for him to do something about it. Not only will weight-loss improve sex, but also his overall well-being.